What are the worse things about you ?

[Lardlizard]

I can be prickly in real life and bit over sensitive

Settled with what work life or your dh/dp?

I procrastinate on a multi level basis. I find excuses not to do the things I’ve used as an excuse not to do something else.
I work hard at my job, my ‘actual’ job, but am months behind on admin.
I can be a bit judgemental.
I am not confrontational and will cry when in that situation rather than debate effectively.
I could go on, so shall we add self critical to the list?!

Impatient, impetuous, often selfish, can be controlling, often unsympathetic, very hard on myself.

People pleasing, often to my own detriment.
Not getting to the point and taking too long to tell a story.
Over thinking everything and worrying about things over which I have no control
Thinking everything is my fault

What a depressing thread!. Only women would self-flagellate about their perceived failings. No man would ever want to post like this, they don't have any.

@daisychain01. Is it because they believe they don't have any, or that they are conditioned not to admit to any weakness?

Yes I agree a lot of men are too scared too expose any areas of vulnerability

Met a woman once who was supremely self confident. If she didn’t get a job she was convinced it was simply because the interviewers were jealous of her. Not an easy woman but refreshing!

Hmmmm

I'm an incorrigible flirt
Pretentious and overly verbose
Far too proud of my own vocabulary

Lazy
Selfish
Chubby
Vain

I'm impatient

I'm intolerant

I get really bored of listening to people and have a tendency to show it.(as my daughter reminded me two days ago when someone was explaining something in a shop)

I'm ambitious but quite often don't like the work (which I never understand)

There aren't many people I truly like. Most have aspects I find irritating or sad.

@lovelemoncurd was your dd annoyed with you? In the shop ?

My procrastination is terrible, I'm overweight, outspoken, even when I should keep my mouth shut. I can be a real bitch when I'm crossed.

Let me start with I am totally shit at being articulate

I actually think you are all much nicer (for want of a better word) people than you think you are - as you are aware of certain traits you would like to change, which is much better than being a total knob and unaware of it

But I also agree we need to see this from a feminist perspective (eg women are told they are "bossy" where a man would be "assertive" and we are "bitchy" where men are "very honest" and etc etc etc...Don't get me starting on "nagging"....)

I know one of my less attractive traits is I bore people by going on and on about certain subjects I am also very self centred (but I don't think I am selfish, again I find it hard to articulate that exactly!)

This is quite interesting actually. I was going to say I was lazy but then I thought that actually I'm not, I have a disability now but before that I worked very hard and exercised hard etc etc. I also think my disability is what makes me more self centred than I would be naturally as I have to work hard^^ to prioritise my health and myself sometimes.

Perhaps if I was a man I would just say I have good boundaries and be proud of myself

I am absolutely profligate and spend money I don't have though. This is very bad and needs to change but I don't seem to have the common sense, or maybe willpower...

@PussyMalanga

I am a massive people pleaser and hate confrontation.

“People pleaser” always makes me smile

I am exceptionally disorganised! This then makes me extremely anxious, and I then spend so much time over thinking something, I end up being disorganised again. For example, Christmas is a nightmare for me. I get so anxious that any gift I buy will just be crap, so I put off buying it until the last second and then I’m stressed and anxious again.

@daisychain01

What a depressing thread!. Only women would self-flagellate about their perceived failings. No man would ever want to post like this, they don't have any.

Bollocks.

I'm far too hesitant, hate confrontation, I'm always putting this off that need addressed in my relationships with other people because I don't want to offend them, or 'the time isn't right', or some other excuse - I am, in short, an utter coward and I hate it. I'm a man.

not 'this'... things.

Judgy
Needy
Critical
Over-thinker
Pedantic

Basically horrible

I'm lazy and due to medication find it hard to care. Also fat and can be selfish.

Impatient and intolerant.

Talks too much.

Swears too much.

Warped sense of humour.

Zero creativity.

I often don’t think things through before I open my mouth! I’m also often a bit hyperactive.

I also really struggle to deal with the kids being unhappy. I just want everyone to be happy all the time. I think that one is down to my own childhood being quite unhappy.

I have a tendency to get a bit obsessive & have lost friends as a result so working on that
Worry WAY too much
Drink too much
Take on other people’s stuff too much instead of trying to deal with my own
Still find it very difficult to talk to my Mum about stuff that’s bothering me but that’s partly because she really doesn’t accept criticism
Beat myself up about whether I’m a good Mum ( DD is adopted)

I'm not overly opinionated (as in I don't have a lot of opinions on things) but, if I do have an opinion on something, you will. definitely know it. Too blunt. I also am too worried about my appearance.

Impulsive

I can’t ever just do nothing

A bit of a control freak about certain things

I’m quite shy around people I don’t know very well, or people I haven’t seen for a long time.

Overly self critical