Is @ mentioning someone on a thread now not the done thing?

[Jinglebellissimo]

Noticed people being “told off” for @ mentioning other posters on threads.
I’ve been on MN for probably ten years and never noticed anyone complaining but seen it twice today.

Was it never the done thing? Is this a new issue? Do we not mention who we reply to anymore?

@Jinglebellissimo

Sorry Bertie but who would want to call you to a thread you haven’t seen?

I do it occasionally if I know another poster is an expert on the particular subject.

People have done an @ in front of a name for a while because I remember objecting to it years and years ago and flouncing because it's not twitter and it makes me think of someone throwing a ball in your direction (ie, at you) which is a bit alarming.

However yes it's only been the last couple of years that they have actually made the at symbol do anything.

There are times when I'm glad to be a Billy no Mates!

I don't get "@ed"-well I did recently, but the thread was deleted before I read it!

Ah that makes sense about it not having functionality. I do use bold but - because I c&p it annoys me as have to remove gaps etc.
Will be judicious in my use from now on.

I'm not bothered by notification emails as I haven't signed up to mumsnet with my main email account, used the one I use for freebie accounts etc. I only check it about three times a year. Off to look now....

The tagging is so much easier to do now hat a list of the posters on the thread pops up if you start to @ somebody. I don't get them often enough to find them an irritant.

Some people will repeatedly tag you and that's annoying. It feels a bit like they are having a go, which often they are!

They are complaining because they get an email alert and their phone beeps at them. Is what you have to say so important that it needs to disturb their day?
Agree with others - it doesn't need to disturb anyone's day - it is them that need to turn their notifications off if they don't want to be notified. It's not really rocket science.

I only swapped to using it recently, as if you want to acknowledge or reply to someone with a tricky name, you can start typing it and it comes up.
Never seen anyone complaining about it.

People can switch off the notifications if they don't like the function.

While its there, use it if you want. It easier to know who is talking to who, without people retaliating to comments not even meant for them

"People can switch off the notifications if they don't like the function."

Do you mean email notifications or the red dots?

I think there are times when it’s useful, so say on the huge Christmas shopping threads where PosterX says “I still can’t find the cerise silk gloves my DGM wants anyway” then if you come in later you can say “oh and @posterX I’ve just seen that SilkGlovesRUs has a sale on”, or indeed “@glovymcglovyson could you give PosterX some advice?”

Anywhere you’re answering someone’s specific question, or maybe giving them particular praise or thanks then it’s OK, but for the normal back and forth on a thread I think it’s a bit much - it’ll just drive people to turn off the email notifications and then it’s not available for times when it really is useful.

Especially now we can quote I don’t think it’s usually necessary.

What is/(was?) very irritating is the combination of @ and the new quoting. If one person @'ed you, obviously you'd get a notification. But then if someone else quoted that post you'd get notified again. I reported it as a bug on site stuff after a post @'ing me got quoted several times by different people , hopefully it's been fixed now,

You can turn off both email and red dots.

@ExpensivelyDecorated

You can turn off both email and red dots.

Thank you-knew about the emails but only just dicovered about the red dots.

Must have missed the notifications aboutposts on that thread

Quoting needs to be editable like it is on other sites. So you can quote part of a post rather than a bloody essay:

Can you quote from an iPad does anyone know as it seems to only be possible from desktop

I like the @ function because I know I'm not misspelling someone's nickname, which are sometimes slightly tricky to spell etc. Also I like to @ people to thank them for a comment they've made in reply to a question I've asked.

To be honest I'm sure there are people who will choose to be offended if they don't get tagged. There's no pleasing everyone

Is what you have to say so important that it needs to disturb their day?

Yep!

I think posters who say dont @ me are being ridiculous, do they really expect 100s of 1000s of other posters to remember the preferences of all the other members

Get over yourself and turn off the email notifications

@Time40

But @ username isn't mentioning someone, is it - it's sending an email notification to that person that they have been mentioned?

Only if they're daft enough to not sort their settings.

@ someone isn't intended to send them an email, it's mostly to highlight on the thread that you're replying directly to them. The email is just a stupid and fixable setting for those who are overly invested in MN and cannot possibly miss anything that is concerning them or a thread they have replied to.

I do wonder what some of these posters would do if they received a PM.
Log it with 101 for harassment I suspect

I've seen it, usually during disagreement. So someone @'s you & you then reply using @. The other poster then can't think of anything to say back so tells you off for @tting (?) them.

What really confuses me are those posters who are rude & when you are rude back they say "how dare you be so rude & insensitive, it's completely uncalled for". Odd

I use a mixture of @ user name, quote and user.

Quote is useful but can get very annoying if it's a long post abs sW weal other posters quote in a thread . It doesn't generate an email .

@ generates an email but doesn't go to private message box . I turn email alerts off on my phone anyway abs just check throughout the day . As another poster has said you can direct MN emails to your spam folder if you prefer.

I like it if someone @s me and I get an email to say that I've been mentioned. I don't return to every thread that I've commented on but if I get an email to say that someone's replied to my post, I like to look to see if the poster agreed or disagreed with me or found my comment helpful.

It's not as though the @ is a summons; you see the email notification and then check back on the thread whenever it's convenient to do so.