Is @ mentioning someone on a thread now not the done thing?

[Jinglebellissimo]

Noticed people being “told off” for @ mentioning other posters on threads.
I’ve been on MN for probably ten years and never noticed anyone complaining but seen it twice today.

Was it never the done thing? Is this a new issue? Do we not mention who we reply to anymore?

I'd far rather get an email alerting me that someone has commented on my thread than some of my spam. You don't have to do anything about it.

@tobee

Intrusive! Really?

Apparently so.
Maybe they should log it with 101.

Change your settings if you don't want the notifications.

If you don't like getting an email when someone mentions you, go to talk-customise- talk notifications and untick the appropriate option. Don't expect everyone else to remember who does or does not want to be alerted.

I don't find it intrusive. I flit around a lot of threads and I like to know if someone responds directly to me. I don't always return to every thread.

User - sorry but with that username you’re a prime example.

User1119494&547 - tells funny story
User 39494857 - says nan has just died

@ user - lol that’s hilarious

Then who looks like the arse

Intrusive? Demanding?

Mumsnet is ridiculous sometimes.

Maybe we should all live in hermetically sealed boxes to be sure of not being contaminated by anyone, ever?

Imagine these are the people who love the isolation of lockdown and certainly never answer their doorbells. Still they like to waste their time berating others on Mumsnet for ghastly over stepping the mark on social media etiquette.

These sorts of petty gripes come in waves.
We’ve had bbq season, so no one will moan about choking in their garden.
It’s too early for Christmas so intrusive fairy lights won’t be disturbing MNers precious sleep just yet.
Maybe the @ function will keep people going for a while.

Also, why post anything if you don't want people to read it? Bizarre

@Waxonwaxoff0

I've set my emails from Mumsnet to spam so I don't get them in my inbox!

I’ll do that ☺️👌

I’ve honest seen it in quite innocuous threads (think say legal matters) and I thought... ooh is this some etiquette that I’ve not picked up on (and I’ve been here a long while).

The @ emails (which I have turned off) are intrusive. And maybe worse if you are, say, a woman who's been posting about an abusive partner - last thing you'd want is an email from MNHQ pinging onto your screen where the partner might glimpse it.

The new notifications at the top of the page are also annoying. I'm learning to ignore them completely now.

I would be so happy if this stops being a thing! I don't need to be "@ed" in a thread I'm already on. I'm already reading it!

It's annoying because people do it all the fucking time and you get showered with emails so I turned them off. But that means that when someone wants to attract your attention and call you to a thread you haven't seen by tagging you, they can't do that because I don't get a notification as I don't have them turned on.

I use it and find it irritating when people don't @ me if they're responding to me as it feels like I'm not meant to see it, if you have something to say in response to me do let me know. If it's ruining your day then you can always just turn the feature off.

Sorry Bertie but who would want to call you to a thread you haven’t seen?

Showy :o :o

BTW, my irritation with tagging is not confined to MN. It annoys me on every platform that uses it. Except the ones where it is well thought out and makes sense - twitter IIRC it works. Facebook people generally use it sensibly, except in the annoying threaded comment system they have now adopted where you get five notifications for the same comment thread because someone has liked and/or otherwise reacted to your comment and somebody else replied and FB automatically tagged you in the reply and there was also another comment on the same thread. I mean. Why? It's just spammy and annoying.

They are complaining because they get an email alert and their phone beeps at them. Is what you have to say so important that it needs to disturb their day?

😂 they need to sort their notifications out then the bellends

Wish I’d done this as a poll now

I use them occasionally, but have all notifications turned off (including the new badge thing) so I don't see them unless I go back to the thread in question.

@Smellbellina

They are complaining because they get an email alert and their phone beeps at them. Is what you have to say so important that it needs to disturb their day?

😂 they need to sort their notifications out then the bellends

Oi 😂

Well probably not me to be fair, but let's say someone has a question about sheep, and someone else sees the thread and doesn't know the answer, but they know a mumsnetter called SheepyMcSheeperson is a massive sheep fan and will definitely know the answer, so they tag them.

Or a zombie thread where you want to know what the outcome is (zombie threads don't show up in TIO unless you've posted on them recently). Or just a really long and busy thread where the poster whose advice you wanted to thank them for or whatever seems to have left ages ago.

Or someone just wonders how their old MN friend is or whatever, I mean, isn't this the whole point of a tagging system, to be able to alert somebody that they've been mentioned?

Why do you need to know you've been mentioned in a thread you're already following and active on? If someone's posting back and forth, then presumably they are also reading the posts that are on the thread and therefore they don't need notifying.

@BertieBotts

I would be so happy if this stops being a thing! I don't need to be "*@ed*" in a thread I'm already on. I'm already reading it!

It's annoying because people do it all the fucking time and you get showered with emails so I turned them off. But that means that when someone wants to attract your attention and call you to a thread you haven't seen by tagging you, they can't do that because I don't get a notification as I don't have them turned on.

Yes - it's ok used with discretion, but can be irritating if done repeatedly when you're clearly 'on' the thread. I think part of the problem is newer posters not knowing how to do bold, or that using an abbreviation of a NN is (was?) normal 'house style'.

Surely this @ thing only started a year or two ago? Before that you just bolded people’s usernames. I still do that I think.

I don’t mind if someone @ s me at all. I have my email notifications turned off so it’s no bother. It’s pigletJohn I feel sorry for. He gets @ ed all over the shop.

I use the @ occasionally. Had no idea it emailed a notification. I don’t get emails when people tag me. I’ve always used bold on here but I guess I use @ on WhatsApp group chats so had started getting used to it.