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Would you rather have a happy life or an important one?

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DuesToTheDirt · 16/11/2020 20:08

By an important life, I mean important to people who don't know you - a famous writer, or a scientist, or maybe someone who founds a charity?

I was watching Sylvia (Plath) last night on Amazon, and she was obviously desperately unhappy and then committed suicide; but she left a legacy of her work.

I am happy, but I am a nobody, and I was wondering whether, if I couldn't have both, I would trade happiness for achievement.

I can't decide. What about you?

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longestlurkerever · 17/11/2020 20:09

That's the point though really isn't it? Are we happy we have nothing better to do than potter about on Mumsnet or does that bother us somehow? For me it's a bit of both. Ultimately I've put "happiness" ahead of striving to maximise whatever potential I might have, but sometimes I wonder if that was the right choice, and whether my life might feel more satisfying if I upped my game a bit in terms of "great works". I'm not always happy either, but I don't necessarily see that as a massive failing of life. Feeling loss, despair, pain, anger all of that is just part of being human really.

MuchTooTired · 17/11/2020 20:17

Happy. I hate the idea of being important or famous. I know celebrities/famous people make a lot of money, but constantly being papped and having your life dissected by everyone and their dog would absolutely crush my MH and ruin my life I think. A happy nobody is the life for me!

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