Today can just get in the fucking bin

[FMyUterus]

Anyone else have a shitty day / week? Feel free to vent here.

6 weeks ago I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks pregnant. Our 18th miscarriage..

Yesterday on a family zoom call his brother announced that they were pregnant. No heads up or anything. They know about our struggles. I'm happy for them I just feel a bit blind sided. A little heads up would have been nice.

Oh that' s terrible... How thoughtless

18..im so very sorry...

Big to you

I'm so sorry for your losses.

I'm so sorry

💐💐💐💐

Yeah it's a mess really. But we got Accepted for ivf recently Which is amazing I just feel that if it was the other way round I'd have made sure DH gave them
A heads or not done it by fucking zoom.

I'm sorry they were so thoughtless

They could have been so much more considered about it. So sorry

I am so sorry. Recurrent miscarriage sufferer here. It is so hard taking that punch to the guts in public and keeping a positive face on you while you rearrange your brain to say the relevant things. I really hope that the IVF works for you.

Good lord, that is tough. I am so sorry for everything you have been through. They clearly have no idea what it's like... lucky them x

That is really, really, REALLY unfair and thoughtless of them - no wonder you were knocked sideways.

I'm so sorry for your losses.

Best of everything for your IVF 🥰

I cant believe they were so thoughtless.

Wishing you every success with your IVF.

Oh my goodness, you poor thing OP, how insensitive of them

I am so sorry - what an unthinking and unkind thing to do.

I had a similar experience after about 11 miscarriages when my sister set up a family pub lunch and announced it (they had only been trying for a couple of months). I still remember how awful it was an trying to remain calm and it was almost 8 years ago.

Congratulations on the IVF - I really really hope it works for you

How thoughtless of them, sending you love and strength

So sorry that sounds awful. I'm sure they just didn't think as when you haven't been through it you don't get it.

So glad you get a chance through IVF, all thr best to you.

I think it's worse it's his twin brother and knows exactly how hard it's been for us. I've only been back at work for 2 weeks. We'll get over this but it just feels so salty right now.

Thank you for all the lovely comments

Really thoughtless. People can be so selfish.

Yep, that's pretty fucking shitty. This whole year can get in the bin 😡

Oh OP I'm so sorry for your losses. It's not fair at all. I've had 3 and whilst I can't profess to understand what it's like to have 18, I do understand that sinking pit of your stomach feeling when someone else announces a pregnancy. I'm sorry your family weren't more understanding.

Thank you x

Aw that's crap OP I'm sorry, I had my colleague happily waving scan pictures around a few weeks after mine and I had to go and have a secret cry in the staff loos. Some people just don't understand (or think).

strength and love to you

@legallybland thank you

It just surprised me. Does make this a shitty person

They've said I acted like a spoilt brat because I got up and left after I said congratulations. So they announced it during a conversation about decorating we'd done. I said congratulations and then got up to 'make tea' ie cry into a packet of sausages call my mum and vent. I was probably away from the screen for 6 mins. I came back and said congratulations again.

Maybe I shouldn't have left but I couldn't just sit there

Of course you're not a shitty person
That was completely thoughtless of them
I'm sorry for your losses