I was always horrified by how many (mostly women) jumped right on the ‘she’s just as bad’ bandwagon.
I thought the general public were more knowledgeable about domestic violence now.
Women aren’t perfect little victims (and for that matter neither are the rare few men who suffer from this). They feel trapped and like most trapped things in fear and pain they will lash out.
They often make a token effort at fighting back to get away, and as abusers are bullies sometimes a well timed strike can actually lessen the beating about to happen.
They can even resort to petty revenge tactics (chilli in the underpants, poo in the bed).
Because sometimes the only power they feel they have is the power to decide when their abuser gets angry. The power to push their buttons sometimes.
They aren’t meek little things who never swear or shout, or that only hide in the corner and take their beating. They are often mentally abused, tormented and angry themselves.
I wish we could get away from this ‘perfect victim’ stereotype being the only worthy victim. Same in rape cases.