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Friend who I’m staying with- had her family member threaten to assault me

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Tinyandpetite · 01/11/2020 20:01

Hello, before everybody thinks it, I swear I’m a genuine poster who is going through this- not a troll. I’ve been living with a person for the past 6 months, who no thought was a friend. I’d been through quite a rough time during lockdown, I had a mental breakdown. My daughter went to stay with my mum, I came to stay with my friend. My daughter came over today, we went shopping for craft items, cake back and started making them. I had a phone call from a withhold number to say she was friends sister in law and they were going to shove me and my dog and belongings in a transit van and dump me in the middle of Manchester. I can honestly say I have no idea what this is over. I knocked on her door and asked what I’d done and do did my daughter, I haven’t had a single word on the subject. My mum and brother came to get my daughter who was hysterical at hearing the phone call ( she’s 11) sadly neither have room for me, or I’d be with them. My brother is ex police and told me to log the threat with the 111 I think it is number. I had 2 more missed calls from the withheld number. At that point my brother shouted that the call would be logged and threats of kidnap are a crime.,I’ve had no calls since. I did call the number and the policeman was lovely, he’s involved with housing and gave me his work number to call tomorrow to try and find me a place to go. I’m hiding in the room with draws by the door shaking and crying. I honestly don’t know what I’ve done to deserve this. It’s not the first time she’s turned on me or my daughter, but it will be the last time. Not sure why I’m posting other than I’m feeling pretty alone and Could do with a bit of support. Thanks for reading x

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PandemicAtTheDisco · 02/11/2020 00:24

I'm glad you are now safe OP.
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rosesandcashmere · 02/11/2020 00:41

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iswhois · 02/11/2020 01:05

@rosesandcashmere eh??

jessstan1 · 02/11/2020 01:12

Oh my goodness, what a nightmare. I'm so glad you are safe now.
Please let us know how you get on.
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PyongyangKipperbang · 02/11/2020 01:55

Err....the offer of cash was clearly a piss take...

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NeonGenesis · 02/11/2020 02:43

I'm so glad you're out of there.

I honestly wouldn't waste anymore headspace wondering why your friend has done this. It's not worth It. You aren't friends anymore and a good thing too, if she's capable of getting people to make violent threats against you.

I would focus all of your energy on building yourself back up. You need your own place for you and your daughter to live safely. That's your priority. Forget about this woman and concentrate on moving forward.

Good luck.

Amira19 · 02/11/2020 03:08

Tbh youre family should have taken you in after the ordeal not your friend

SheilaWilcox · 02/11/2020 03:14

Why were the police called tonight?

At least you and your daughter are safe and together.

Mummyoflittledragon · 02/11/2020 03:54

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Mummyoflittledragon · 02/11/2020 03:56

Sorry wrong thread.

I’m glad to see you’re safe. Will you be contacting the council now to get accommodation?

JocelynSchitt · 02/11/2020 07:14

Whats your next move?

Ideasplease322 · 02/11/2020 07:25

Op I agree your life sounds very hard - and chaotic for your daughter.

You have had an extremely horrible experience - I hope you are getting counselling to deal with the trauma.

You also need to think about your daughter - you need to create a stable and safe environment for her and at the moment you aren’t doing that. Please talk this through with a counsellor.

YoniAndGuy · 02/11/2020 09:20

Well, your 'friend' is a nutjob.

I'm sorry you had to go through that.

But think of it this way: you are out and safe and you won't be seeing her again.

Nutjob gets to still be a nutjob and now have all her own bills to pay by herself. Result.

Block their numbers, but not before informing Nutjob that you have her relatives' threats on record with the police and are already receiving police support, so if you hear so much as a peep from any of them again, they'll have the police knocking before you can say 'craft items'

starfish88 · 02/11/2020 10:22

I'm glad you're safe now. Do you have a long term plan moving forward? The council will prioritise you if you are homeless with your child. I assume she moved in with mum because you were struggling? Is this a formal or informal arrangement? It won't be an easy time to get your life back but take advantage of as much of the support you are offered and don't be afraid to find out what is available to you.

Audreyseyebrows · 02/11/2020 11:16

I’m glad that you are now safe op. You’ve been through a rubbish time. Are you getting any help?

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