Friend who I’m staying with- had her family member threaten to assault me

[Tinyandpetite]

Hello, before everybody thinks it, I swear I’m a genuine poster who is going through this- not a troll. I’ve been living with a person for the past 6 months, who no thought was a friend. I’d been through quite a rough time during lockdown, I had a mental breakdown. My daughter went to stay with my mum, I came to stay with my friend. My daughter came over today, we went shopping for craft items, cake back and started making them. I had a phone call from a withhold number to say she was friends sister in law and they were going to shove me and my dog and belongings in a transit van and dump me in the middle of Manchester. I can honestly say I have no idea what this is over. I knocked on her door and asked what I’d done and do did my daughter, I haven’t had a single word on the subject. My mum and brother came to get my daughter who was hysterical at hearing the phone call ( she’s 11) sadly neither have room for me, or I’d be with them. My brother is ex police and told me to log the threat with the 111 I think it is number. I had 2 more missed calls from the withheld number. At that point my brother shouted that the call would be logged and threats of kidnap are a crime.,I’ve had no calls since. I did call the number and the policeman was lovely, he’s involved with housing and gave me his work number to call tomorrow to try and find me a place to go. I’m hiding in the room with draws by the door shaking and crying. I honestly don’t know what I’ve done to deserve this. It’s not the first time she’s turned on me or my daughter, but it will be the last time. Not sure why I’m posting other than I’m feeling pretty alone and Could do with a bit of support. Thanks for reading x

Ive looked at your previous posts and you seem a genuine poster, I am worried by the lack of the OPS posts, can you let us know you are OK please

None of this makes much sense to be honest. I find it hard to believe you’re family left you there and even harder to believe that are continuing to stay in a house where you are clearly no longer welcome.

Where did you live with your daughter before you had your breakdown?

What a strange and horrible situation to be in. Get out now! Sleep on the floor with your daughter at your mums.

Obviously the arrangement has reached the end. Have you been paying rent, helping with cleaning, etc? Sometimes a friendly short term arrangement has outlived its time- ANF sounds like that's where you're at regardless of the threats. Surely your brother or mother could take you- even if it's juts sleeping on the floor?

Hope you are okay op.

There was no excuse for the phone calls but you need to move out. She obviously doesn’t want you in her home anymore and tbh your not her responsibility.

Can you really not sleep on your mothers couch? On your bothers couch?

This

Seriously neither your mum or brother have a sofa that you can sleep on for the night til you get things sorted?

What a horrible way to try and get you to leave if that is what they are doing, surely your friend could have discussed your living arrangements with you face to face! Hope you can work something out with your mother or brother and things will look up for you soon x

I feel bad for the OP that her relatives didn't find space to shelter her especially her mother. I understand siblings but parents should always have a space for their children unless there is some danger.

6 MONTHS?! good grief, yes you have clearly over stayed your welcome. How can you not see this OP.. you need to rent a room somewhere or homeless accommodation. You have a child you will be accommodated.

surely your friend could have discussed your living arrangements with you face to face!

Maybe she has. Maybe the op didn’t listen

You’ve overstayed your welcome. Are you contributing both financially and around the home?
Sorry to hear about your tough time but your friend is not responsible for you. She’s been good to put you up for so long. I don’t think many would. Your dd must have been traumatised by this whole scenario. Why did you let her knock on the friend’s bedroom door? She is 11. She is not there to protect you or be a peacemaker. It is good your family came to collect her and remove her from such a toxic environment.
Why can’t you sleep on the floor at your mum’s? I find it puzzling why they left you to it. Perhaps all this has been draining on them too?
Call the person about getting into somewhere safe, be proactive in sorting things out. Don’t wait for someone to rescue you, it may not happen. Think how proud you’ll be if you can get on your feet again. Very best of luck.

Are you receiving help from your GP and Mental health services they should be able to assist you in obtaining suitable accommodation you really need your own social worker for help with being rehoused and support for you and your daughter.

Clearly a lot more to this. The fact that your daughter was 'hysterical' for a start. Why did she 'hear' the phone call and become so distressed she had to be collected? Why are you knocking on your friends door demanding answers while your daughter is there anyway?
Sounds very much like you won't leave so someone is saying they will remove you. Not great but hardly a huge drama. How are they realistically going to do that?
I'm wondering about all the other pieces of this story because I doubt it is as cut and dried. I'm not asking for you to tell us mind, I'm just saying I believe there is much more to this.

You need to pack your stuff and leave within the hour. It would be ridiculous to stay in someones house where they are so desperate for you to leave that even their family is intervening.

Clearly don’t want you there.
What rent have you been paying as 6 months can’t be rent free
Do you keep your space clean and tidy?

Seems like your friend wants you out. 6 months is a long time, have you been contributing to household costs?

Strange both your mum and brother don’t have space for you. I think you’re not telling the whole story.

Are you okay @Tinyandpetite ?

What rent have you been paying as 6 months can’t be rent free

Of course it be rent free. Depends on the arrangements.

I'm guessing you have been asked to leave/it's been heavily hinted at and you have ignored and this is the end result. Not saying that's right at all but I doubt very much that call came from nowhere and there is a LOT more than you are sharing here OP.

Threatening to dump you in the middle of nowhere is extreme

Am loving this description of Manchester!

I'm really sorry that your living distraction is so difficult.

Is there a reason you can't sleep on the sofa or the floor of your mum or brother's house? It seems a bit off that you are still staying somewhere you clearly aren't welcome and have even barricaded yourself into your room.

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