Friend who I’m staying with- had her family member threaten to assault me

[Tinyandpetite]

Hello, before everybody thinks it, I swear I’m a genuine poster who is going through this- not a troll. I’ve been living with a person for the past 6 months, who no thought was a friend. I’d been through quite a rough time during lockdown, I had a mental breakdown. My daughter went to stay with my mum, I came to stay with my friend. My daughter came over today, we went shopping for craft items, cake back and started making them. I had a phone call from a withhold number to say she was friends sister in law and they were going to shove me and my dog and belongings in a transit van and dump me in the middle of Manchester. I can honestly say I have no idea what this is over. I knocked on her door and asked what I’d done and do did my daughter, I haven’t had a single word on the subject. My mum and brother came to get my daughter who was hysterical at hearing the phone call ( she’s 11) sadly neither have room for me, or I’d be with them. My brother is ex police and told me to log the threat with the 111 I think it is number. I had 2 more missed calls from the withheld number. At that point my brother shouted that the call would be logged and threats of kidnap are a crime.,I’ve had no calls since. I did call the number and the policeman was lovely, he’s involved with housing and gave me his work number to call tomorrow to try and find me a place to go. I’m hiding in the room with draws by the door shaking and crying. I honestly don’t know what I’ve done to deserve this. It’s not the first time she’s turned on me or my daughter, but it will be the last time. Not sure why I’m posting other than I’m feeling pretty alone and Could do with a bit of support. Thanks for reading x

^It’s not the first time she’s turned on me or my daughter^

Hmm, I wouldn't have gone there at all OP. Six months is a long time to impose on someone, especially someone who 'turns on you'.

You're probably driving her mad refusing to take the hint that you've overstayed your welcome.

And buying crafting stuff while your host isn't speaking to you, and sitting there doing crafts in this situation is odd.

”You've stayed with her for 6 months, in her house, and she's slagging you off and you blanked her for a week. In her house?“

@MrsTerryPratchett - in the OP’s post, which you quoted, she said that her friend blanked her for a week, not the other way round:

Tinyandpetite

“She basically was talking about me to her boyfriend l, I was in the bedroom. Pretty nasty stuff about me that wasn’t true. I called her out on it. Blanked me for a solid week“

I think you have outstayed your welcome, op, and no doubt your friend has dropped hints for you to go home. Why don't you if you still have a home?

Are you OK @Tinyandpetite ?
Horrible situation for you, but agree it would be better for you to move out and stay with your brother / Mum until you can find someone permanent.

@jessstan1

I think you have outstayed your welcome, op, and no doubt your friend has dropped hints for you to go home. Why don't you if you still have a home?

It doesn't sound like the OP has a home to go to. It is probable she was only staying with this friend out of a lack of options, which is a very difficult position to be in.

OP, this does sound very hard and stressful but clearly you need to organise somewhere else to stay as soon as you can. The council should help you find emergency accommodation?

This is odd.

I think you need to find somewhere else to stay. 6 months is a long time to impose yourself on a friend - it sounds like you have outstayed your welcome.
Why aren't you with your daughter at your mums?
Apply for housing with your daughter, you are homeless with a child you should be treated as priority.

I just wanted to say, that it sounds a horrible situation to be in, & especially as you have mental heath issues. I feel sorry for you.
Is there not any room at all, in your mother's or brother's house?
Are you able to get a hotel room, or anywhere else that is a safe place. Do you have transport to get away asap.
Maybe leave knocking on your so called friends door.
Do you have any other relatives or good friends who can help? Where is your dog?
I don't want to make you scared, but I think you need to get out of that place tonight, and then see the Police tomorrow. If anything happens, then ring them immediately.
Hopefully you will get all the help you need. Try and remain as calm as is possible, and get out of that place.

This is really odd.

If your friend is locked in their room and got their family to threaten you it does sound like they are scared of you.

Is there a back story OP?

Are you living with them as a short term plan or was it long term and they have just changed their mind?

Reverse????

Thanks to all who replied. I wish this wasn’t true but sadly it’s the shit show that is my life. Just to clarify, I was raped and attacked in my own home, I had a mental breakdown afterwards and my daughter did not want too live there. My friend offered. She is severely disabled and her sister recently died, so asked if I’d like to stay. I paid half on everything and thanked me every other week for helping her, telling me how much she liked having me around. Tonight the police were called, and my estranged brother came to collect me. I’m currently at my mothers and I’m safe. The response I got from her was, I’m bored of your friendship. I said ok that’s fine, her loss. Thanks to all who were supportive x

How awful OP, I’m so sorry. What a relief you’re at your mums

We were doing the craft stuff before I even knew that anything was wrong between us. We were making my friend a birthday present

So sorry to hear what you’ve been through .

I’m glad to hear that you are safe @Tinyandpetite! I hope you manage to get a good night’s sleep tonight.

Glad your safe, and sorry for what you have been through x

Glad you're safe, OP. She needs to sort out her demons and you need to be with your daughter.

Glad your okay and safe OP 🌺

Very sorry to hear about your experience at home OP

Since you had no warning of being unwelcome (in what sounds to have been a house-share rather than a visit) perhaps your friend is having trouble coping with her own bereavement. Misery can make a person unkind - cruel even. Since she knows your history, it is hard to believe that she would find it acceptable to have her relations threaten you.

I'm glad that you have somewhere safe to be.

I'm glad you are at your mum's op.
Can you just stay on the floor there if she is short of space?
It is better to be safe without a bed.
Me and my dog sleep on the floor at the moment. Dog is happy and warm. I recommend it if you can get something soft on the floor.
I have a bed - the issue is with the dog!

It looks like you have well overstayed your welcome at your friends house. Sorry if I have misunderstood the situation. You need to move out. I do think it was quite cheeky of you to bring your daughter back and start baking when your DD doesn't even live there. Whoever threatened you was wrong.

Didn't see your last post. You are better away from there.