Help me get some perspective, this morning's news has upset me so much

[Spotthedoggies]

Please help

@loubieloo4 & @SquidBum 💐💐

The "Save Christmas" narrative is again one purely focussed on the wealthy grandparent who sees it as seeing their grandchildren, it's got sod all resonance with anyone else. Just more misguided promotion from a conservative government that either only knows or cares about how to talk to relatively wealthy people over 50.

I would like to correct one misconception on here

Cancer treatments are not stopped because of lockdown
They are stopped if beds are full and insufficient staff available to to the treatment

Lockdown, like restrictions on cancer treatments, are a result of the virus being allowed to escalate to levels beyond which our NHS can cope

Some cancer treatments were stopped because of lockdown . Other treatments have stopped as well.

Count your blessings for want of a better word. They might seem small eg I have my favourite brand of tea in the cupboard, or theres that new supernatural show on prime. Try not to think any further ahead than today till you've got your head sorted. Don't be worrying about what might be.

@CaveMum I couldn't agree more.

Do people really think that when someone is down to their last 20p in their purse, with an empty food cupboard and no electricity and two kids to feed they are really saying to themselves "well at least I am not in Syria".

Yeah right.

So patronising of PP's to minimise others difficulties and totally valid concerns about their own lives.

Such as the PP who expressed faux wonder at what the OP was referring to.

Turkish Tsunami? Drowning Migrants?

Some very privileged, patronising posters on here.

@BlossomCat

I've been thinking about ways to get through this winter, mentally and physically. I saw a very useful article a couple of weeks ago, that challenged my mindset about the long dark days, and am determined to try and embrace the positives about being in lockdown at this time of year by thinking like a Scandinavian and making my life more Hygge. www.theguardian.com/science/2020/sep/26/dreading-a-dark-winter-lockdown-think-like-a-norwegian

Thoughts that have gone through my mind this morning are; we got through this once, we can do it again, with the knowledge that it will end at some point.
If my family lockdown, and prevent a rise in cases, the hospitals may not be overwhelmed therefore if someone goes in with appendicitis or something similar, they will get appropriate treatment and be less likely to suffer serious/catastrophic outcomes.

I am angry about how the news has broken, being leaked to the press before the public are fully informed, but that is out of my control, so I've turned the news off.

I have a roof over my head, I am not living in a tent in a refugee camp, I know where my loved ones are, and have means of communication.

My job will not exist in a lockdown, I have been back at work for 3 weeks after 7 months of furlough, so I am worried about money, but we will cross that bridge when we come to it.

Look after yourself OP,

that is a good link. Thanks.

It's shit. It's all shit. But I'm trying to distract with small comforts. Baked cookies today. Went for a windy walk and had a lot of silly fun play with the DC. Snuggled watching a Halloween film now before we get all dressed up and go for a walk to look at Halloween windows. It's DS' birthday in three days time (yay thanks for the great timing US election!) and I want to enjoy this time. But yes, utterly shit.

@lilacmoon78 That's a wonderful quote. Holding onto that right now.

Cancer treatments are not stopped because of lockdown
They are stopped if beds are full and insufficient staff available to to the treatment

This is simply untrue.

None so blind as will not see is there

Thanks for that link about Koselig and Hygge. When I ,moved back to England I was worried about winters so have looked into that in the past.

I do think it is harder here in the UK though. If I loved in a Nordic country where I could go skiing, sledging and hiking in cold, but dry weather and snow, rather than wet damp like here, I'd bloody look forward to winter too.

I’m completely broken. Speech at 4 by Boris.

[quote LEELULUMPKIN]@CaveMum I couldn't agree more.

Do people really think that when someone is down to their last 20p in their purse, with an empty food cupboard and no electricity and two kids to feed they are really saying to themselves "well at least I am not in Syria".

Yeah right.

So patronising of PP's to minimise others difficulties and totally valid concerns about their own lives.

Such as the PP who expressed faux wonder at what the OP was referring to.

Turkish Tsunami? Drowning Migrants?

Some very privileged, patronising posters on here.[/quote]
Couldn't agree more.

@Rufus27

Am feeling the same way, OP.

DP lost his job in March . It has been impossible for him to find another in the same profession (airline pilot) . After 150 job applications, he finally got a job last month. However it’s a zero hours contract, minimum wage, and the company will close down if it’s a full lockdown so he won’t be paid a penny.
We have two young DC with SEN, so I can’t work more than part time.
I worry for DP’s mental health - I’m dreading another lockdown ....

Rufus, that’s awful I’m sorry to hear that. Has your DP thought about the armed forces at all? DH is ex-RAF and his colleagues that are still “in” say they are taking on pilots left right and centre as they always need them.

I respect that an armed forces career is not for everyone, but it might be worth a look. I imagine flying the transport/refuelling/surveillance aircraft would be comparable to commercial airlines.

Thanks for all these replies. Managed to calm down now.

I couldn't come back onto mumsnet any sooner and have just caught up, for those pps who seemed cross I hadn't replied instantly.

I'm not criticising the lockdown decision necessarily, I have no idea what the best way forwards is, but I am just feeling scared and overwhelmed. I'm due to give birth to DC2 imminently, but more than anything else including financial worries I'm worried about the impact of the coronavirus situation in general on major surgery for my young DC1 who is on a waiting list. I know this has been a concern in general with the virus and I haven't been burying my head in the sand but this morning's new really brought it home.

There are other things about lockdown specifically that upset and worry me but I won't list my circumstances as in my experience here that will result in a lot of criticism sent my way.

Thank you though for pps who provided perspective which was indeed what I asked for.

Oh great.

The mumsnet version of a cryptic Facebook status

You ok Hun??

@MzHz

Oh great.

The mumsnet version of a cryptic Facebook status

You ok Hun??

Lovely 🙄

Yes, in hindsight I should have written my post differently, it was written in a hurry on my way out, although I did think it was obvious what it was about and didn't need explaining.

It was a moment of desperation and I've pulled myself together.

What an awful year 😪

What an awful thread

I suppose it's a question of whether every thread has to add valuable discussion or whether mumsnet can be used for support as well

I was a bit daft earlier because I knew really I'd come in for some criticism and should have thought better of posting but equally kept it brief because I know posting circumstances can lead to even more comparison and sneering at feelings so just stated what it was - I was upset and feeling desperate

I have had some very helpful replies though so thank you

We need a national lockdown. If we don’t we will get to to the point when if you need to the hospital the ambulance won’t come. To me that is scarier than anything. Imagine your child is sick and the hospitals are overpacked with dying people in the corridor and no ambulance can come to you. It will be a scarier place when there is no help if you need it. That’s why there’s a lockdown to keep our hospitals and people’s lives not just from Covid.

Oh I’m so sorry op I hadn’t read the whole thread I didn’t mean to worry you more with your child waiting for treatment. I was saying to other posters that’s why we need to have a lockdown so that won’t happen there is no other option for our country. Anyway I feel the bleakness too today 🙁

@Figsandcream

Some cancer treatments were stopped because of lockdown . Other treatments have stopped as well.

My 9 year old had his referral (made in February) for fits- query- epilepsy all put on hold indefinitely.

My GP surgery stopped taking face to face appointments months ago and has NOT started up again.