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What do you think is the worst birthday?

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BabyLlamaZen · 15/10/2020 09:29

if you have these birthdays, how do you feel?

I think December 25th would be bad, January 1st very close second. At least when you're little that day is still your own and you can have a little party with all the hungover adults. I'd hate it as a teen/adult though!!

I actually wouldn't mind 29th Feb. You'd just celebrate the 28th or 1st March most years, it feels kind of special in a way. Then have a big bash every 4 years! Plus it's far enough away from Christmas. And you're clearly magic!

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GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal · 15/10/2020 11:39

@BabyLlamaZen - I think all January birthdays are pretty horrible, tbh! It's generally a rubbish month.

GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal · 15/10/2020 11:40

Which is part of the reason I don't understand Dry January. Why make the worst month of the year even more miserable??!

Coldemort · 15/10/2020 11:52

Mines the end of August (usually bank holiday weekend), I had to hand out the invitations on the last day of school and hope people remembered/ weren't on holiday.
Prob a bit different now with phones and social media but I had some very small parties gets tiny violin out

Also August babies struggle more in school as they can be nearly a year developmentally behind.

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passthemustard · 15/10/2020 12:14

Oh.

I have a baby due at Christmas 😥

FourPlasticRings · 15/10/2020 12:16

@passthemustard

Oh.

I have a baby due at Christmas 😥

Just do a half birthday for them as well.
AHintOfStyle · 15/10/2020 12:21

My friend's is 6th January which usually coincides with people having no money, starting a diet, joining the gym and giving up alcohol.

Mine is in August near the end of the Scottish school summer holidays which, because of no internet back in the day and a wide catchment area for my school, means I never had a birthday party.

BabyLlamaZen · 15/10/2020 13:34

@passthemustard

Oh.

I have a baby due at Christmas 😥

There is some positivity here with the 27th, 28th etc!

A baby is still a babyFlowers also they won't have that issue where they will literally be at an educational disadvantage forever (no offence august babies, at least you get sun and seperate presents)

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OhTheRoses · 15/10/2020 13:42

DS was born on Christmas Day. We and he have always thought it rather special. We do birthday cake and presents at 6pm.

He used to have his birthday party the first Saturday after school went back. Was always tremendous fun.

DD is late May and whilst it's easier the Christmas birthday just requires organisation.

Sadly you can't plan these things. DS was a month early. You just have to make the best of it.

nettytree · 15/10/2020 13:46

My son is also christmas day. He loves it and is going to be 14 this year. We are very strict on separate presents and always birthday wrapping paper.

alwaysscared · 15/10/2020 13:47

My birthday is Halloween. Loved it as a child as everyone in our little village knew and gave me extra treats when trick or treating.
Now I have my own child and going trick or treating on your birthday is a bit crap to be honest. Wouldn't tell DS that though, he thinks that is, of course, what I want to be doing more than anything else!

MiddleClassProblem · 15/10/2020 13:52

@GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal

23rd January. A family member has this, and while it's not so bad now, as an adult it's going to suuuuuck - week before payday on the brokest month of the year. No one will ever be able to afford to celebrate it!
This is DD’s birthday. It’s right before payday as you get paid early in December. I’ve never worked somewhere where you didn’t. That’s why January is extra shit!
readingismycardio · 15/10/2020 13:52

Mine is on 28th of December! I LOVE IT. People are still in the festive mood and overspending so I always get amazing gifts and we always have a small party (not this year, though)

WonderMoon · 15/10/2020 13:53

Early Jan Birthday here! I don't remember disliking it when I was younger, I always loved how it was technically still in the 12 days of Christmas so the decs were still up and we always had a party at home...however as I've gotten older, it's been abit pants..people skint and partied out from Xmas and the New Year. On the plus side, it's a really good time to get away for a holiday somewhere warm so I've had a few lovely holidays abroad over the years using my Birthday as an excuse!

ew1990 · 15/10/2020 13:56

I'm 25th December. My mum's is the 23rd so I just always celebrated it then when I was a child. It just feels like I never have an actual birthday now as an adult.

MiddleClassProblem · 15/10/2020 13:59

DH has a mid Jan birthday and it’s definitely worse, especially teen to adult years. No one has money, some are not drinking/on diets/vowed to go out less, it’s cold and often wet...

DD’s is normally in the Christmas Holidays, we have the day off, cool things are open to go and do. Others are normally free too as they are not off on their Christmas plans yet.

mam0918 · 15/10/2020 14:20

I think Xmas day would be the worst, its overlooked and inconveniant... my ex had a xmas day birthday an moaned it was basically just xmas and he didnt get a birthday.

I agree new year and leap year are close 2nds and PITA too.

Most holiday suck because people have traditions, everything is forcably themed (so all you get it 'love' stuff for a valentines birthday or easter stuff for an easter birthday or 'monster' stuff for a halloween birthday etc... rather than personal thoughtful gifts) and often stuff is shut but Xmas will always be the granddaddy of holidays.

AzraiL · 15/10/2020 14:23

Any day that commemorates a tragedy/disaster.

mam0918 · 15/10/2020 14:29

@Didyousaynutella

My daughter is Jan 4th. We normally have a winter break away for it the and a party the week after. This year she is actually in school which is prob a good thing.
we do the same
Marylou2 · 15/10/2020 14:37

DDs birthday is 28th of January. Had all these thoughts that it would be rubbish as we all have summer birthdays,BBQs,picnics etc. It's actually fine. All of her friends are always free for parties/days out as no-one's ever busy at that time. Summer holiday birthdays always seem hard when kids are younger as everyone is away.

BirthdayMum00 · 15/10/2020 15:02

I've NC'd for this as it's very outing, but my DS16 and DD13 were both born on New Year's Day!!

We decided after DD's first birthday that it sucked a bit, so we now celebrate it in June, between my DH's and DF's birthdays and just give them one present on NYD.

I'm sure as they reach drinking age though that they'll want to claim it back as their proper birthday!

NotExactlyHappyToHelp · 15/10/2020 15:51

Mines 10 days before Xmas and I hate it. Everyone’s off out on their works Xmas do and even if they weren’t every restaurant is bloody Christmassy and serving turkey.

There’s a blanket ban on holidays two weeks before the 25th so I have to work it every year.

Last year I had a proper strop and said i wasn’t even celebrating (big birthday) that Christmas had won. My lovely friends organised the best party for me in a beautiful Indian restaurant, not a cracker or turkey in sight. It’s going to be my default birthday setting from now on.

DP is the 28th December and he rather likes it. Says all the rush and expectation is over but still perfectly acceptable to have Celebrations for breakfast and watch crap telly. It’s piss easy to book a table too.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 15/10/2020 16:36

It's probably less of a problem these days, where you can buy cards online - and many people consider them old-fashioned and don't bother now anyway - but traditionally, it's rough with getting birthday cards for a December birthday, with far less choice. Shops don't bother stocking cards that 1/12th of people might want when they can clear them out in favour of Christmas cards that nearly everybody will be buying. It's similar, but to a lesser extent, around Mothers' and Fathers' and Valentine's Day.

As has been said, it can also vary by how old you are. If you have an August birthday, for example (if you live in England or Wales at least), then you always get your birthday off school - but kids often like to celebrate their birthdays at school with their friends, and people are frequently on holiday and not able to come to parties. Then again, when you're an adult, you can often combine your birthday with a holiday - especially if you become a teacher; but if you want your birthday off work, you're also competing with your colleagues for the day, which you probably wouldn't be in April.

Does anybody 'do the maths' and specifically avoid TTC in, say, March, if it would lead to a birthday around Christmas? We were wise/sad/nerdy enough to do so(!) - but then, depending on your circumstances, you don't always have the luxury of choice to be able to waste a potential month.

FWIW, I personally think pretty much any time between March-July are ideal, but ultimately, you're born when you're born!

Waxonwaxoff0 · 15/10/2020 16:39

I don't think I'd like a January birthday.

Mine is right at the end of August which I hated as a child as I was always the youngest but I like it now. It's always right around bank holiday, still nice weather and just after payday so everyone is in the mood for going out.

EyelinerRocks · 15/10/2020 17:21

Any January birthdays are terrible

Myself and family members have January birthday - everyone skint after Christmas and new year, everyone on a health kick so don’t want to eat out , lots of people doing booze free January so don’t want to drink etc.

I’ve had friends years ago say they were too skint to go out for my birthday and could we wait and have a big night out at end of month for payday Hmm
That would NEVER happen if it was a July / summer etc birthday

I was always so jealous of people with sunny birthdays, beer garden meet ups / parties etc

Xmasbaby11 · 15/10/2020 17:27

I don't think January birthdays are that bad. My dds are 8th and 21st January. It feels likr xmas is long gone by then and it's nice to have something to celebrate.

However it means I have to do all xmas and birthday shopping at the same time for both of them!

One of them would be fine but having both within 13 days is exhausting and expensive.