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What do you think is the worst birthday?

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BabyLlamaZen · 15/10/2020 09:29

if you have these birthdays, how do you feel?

I think December 25th would be bad, January 1st very close second. At least when you're little that day is still your own and you can have a little party with all the hungover adults. I'd hate it as a teen/adult though!!

I actually wouldn't mind 29th Feb. You'd just celebrate the 28th or 1st March most years, it feels kind of special in a way. Then have a big bash every 4 years! Plus it's far enough away from Christmas. And you're clearly magic!

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turquoisebaby · 15/10/2020 10:03

My step dad is 25th December, as a child he never got any additional gifts or birthday fuss. As an adult we always celebrate and give birthday and Christmas gifts, But what a miserable childhood.

SleepingStandingUp · 15/10/2020 10:06

I'm Dec 31st which is cool as a kid but actually really awkward as an adult. Young adult Modi people have plans with family or partner or you're looking at expensive club etc. Had s few house parties that worked well but you are still
sharing your party with something big. Also I had a big birthday in 1999 which was really crap cos everyone was more interested in the god damn Millennium.
My DT are mid Dec which I'm dreading in terms of buying 🎁

GuyFawkesDay · 15/10/2020 10:06

I am late January birthday and can confirm it absolutely is the pits.

Nobody celebrates it with you because they're poor after Christmas. Your presents are regifts, sale bits or people don't get you one. It's dark, miserable and cold.

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BabyLlamaZen · 15/10/2020 10:07

@GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal

23rd January. A family member has this, and while it's not so bad now, as an adult it's going to suuuuuck - week before payday on the brokest month of the year. No one will ever be able to afford to celebrate it!
I feel like 23rd would still be better than the 2nd? I have a friend 31st Jan but it was always nice to have something to look forward to after a few weeks of bleh post Christmas.
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LeaveMyDamnJam · 15/10/2020 10:07

Yes I’m fine personally. Many thanks for asking. It’s just some worrying news about someone. Back to my jolly persona shortly.

mumtotc · 15/10/2020 10:08

My birthday is 27th December. I absolutely love it. All the Christmas lights twinkling still and always go for a meal with my family (perhaps not this year!) and enjoy the time together.

SecretsToTell · 15/10/2020 10:10

Anything between Dec 20th-Jan 4th would be lumped in with Christmas.
Actually Jan in general. Horrible month.

Phrowzunn · 15/10/2020 10:14

My dad is Boxing Day and when he was a kid he used to get ‘joint’ presents but really just got the same amount as his sisters and it just had to do his birthday too. We have always, always bought him separate birthday presents and made sure they weren’t wrapped in Christmas-looking paper! As we got older we would bring out his birthday cake at midnight before going to bed on Christmas Day. We never ever did the Boxing Day sales, just spent the day with dad instead. In a way it might be good in some ways because everyone is more likely to be together / off work and everyone makes more of an effort cause they feel bad for you..?

happymummy12345 · 15/10/2020 10:15

Mine is the 1st April which I hate because people always tend to think I'm joking.
Even worse my mum chose it deliberately. Her due date was 14th April, she had an elective c section. She was offered the1st April or the 8th April. She chose the 1st because she said no one would forget it.

Didyousaynutella · 15/10/2020 10:16

My daughter is Jan 4th. We normally have a winter break away for it the and a party the week after. This year she is actually in school which is prob a good thing.

Pamelaaaaa · 15/10/2020 10:23

Woah! Stop putting a downer on my birthday (dec 27th). If I had a pound for everyone who has offered sympathy in my life when they've found out or asked questions like 'does that mean you only get one present' I'd be rich.

I don't have any objections to my birthday at all, possibly because I don't know any different. I have never had someone give me a present and say it's to cover Christmas and birthday but it does mean I've had the option particularly when younger and I wanted something I knew was bigger than just birthday or Christmas I could ask for it to be combined. Plus I think it gives purpose to the gap between Christmas and New year when nobody knows what day it is. As a teen my friends use to love it as they'd spend Christmas and boxing day with family then party with their friends for my birthday the next day. And then through until New year's Grin
I've never been at school or work on my birthday and lots of people don't work then so I could always book meals out or mini breaks without worrying if people could make it. And because it's in a period of natural celebration anyway it makes it feel more special.

Worst possible birthdays are any in August. There is such a huge disadvantage in life being born then the stats speak for themselves. People know about starting school basically on a back foot but even things like the percentage of pro football club's youths which are born between September and December is staggering.

ssd · 15/10/2020 10:26

I think 2 or 3rd Jan would be rubbish.
The weather is bad, excitement of the festive season is over and everyone is skint. And you might get a joint present Sad

LaTomatina · 15/10/2020 10:40

My kids have birthdays in late Jan and early Feb (youngest is Jan 23rd) it's not too bad for now.. something to look forward to half way between new year and spring! The only thing is, it would be nice to do more outdoor birthday parties for them but I never do because the weather is so unreliable at that time. Their cousin has his birthday in early August and can have whatever kind of party he wants... except for his friend are usually all away in holiday!!! I think you can't win ...

ImNotWhoYouThinkIam · 15/10/2020 10:44

Anytime too close to Christmas. I know a few people and they always seem to get joint Christmas and Birthday presents. They aren't higher value than other relatives get so they just miss out.

Princess Diana died on my birthday and as a selfish and self centered teen I hated that it was all people seemed to talk about for years after.

My friends birthday is 29th Feb. He loves it and jokes that he is now younger than his teen DC Grin

Livpool · 15/10/2020 10:58

My birthday is mid-June, which I think is perfect.

The worst would be around Christmas and New Year. Apart from me, all of my close family birthdays are between the beginning of October and end of January - my MIL's is the worst at 4 days before Christmas

IndieRo · 15/10/2020 11:02

My Dd's birthday is 29th January, it's the pits, long month with no money. We have never really had a big party for her due to this.

BrieAndChilli · 15/10/2020 11:09

DS1 is 22nd Dec. Too close to Xmas. Everybody is busy with Christmas stuff and if he has a party we either have to have it end of nov or mid jan as otherwise people are away for Christmas with family or have Xmas days out booked etc. Presents merge into one as people just give them to him ‘when they see’ him which as we love far away could be 2 weeks before or 2 weeks after his birthday!
Me and my sister (not twins) are mid Dec. Was ok as kids but as adults it just gets lost in the Christmas chaos and no-one is ever free for a night out as have all the other Christmas dos on.
DD is July which is good weather wise but it’s normally 1st week of summer holiday so normally half her friends have gone on holiday so hard to organise a party.

ArtichokeAardvark · 15/10/2020 11:09

@GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal oh no, my daughter is 23 Jan and the payday thing never even occurred to me! Should have kept popping the pills for another month...

A friend of mine is Valentines Day. Fine as a child, but as an adult he HATES it. His mates are always tied up with their partners and even if he does try to arrange anything he's stuck with expensive Valentines special menus and pink hearts everywhere.

CarnageAtTheGardenCentre · 15/10/2020 11:13

Mine is mid January, crap weather mid pay day, plus visa bill to be paid with Xmas expenditure on it.

Rubbish.....

StarUtopia · 15/10/2020 11:13

DD is Halloween.

Bloody nightmare.

No one wants to celebrate her birthday because they're doing Halloween. Her birthday gets completely ignored by everyone basically.

JulesM73 · 15/10/2020 11:19

I probably sound pathetic but mine is 2 weeks before Xmas and I hate it. Everywhere is decorated with decorations, lots of menus are turkey etc and going out generally encounters drunk works parties!

When I was younger some family used to give me birthday/Xmas presents. Unfortunately my sister was given the same so in effect I wasn’t getting an Xmas present!

woodlandwalker · 15/10/2020 11:25

There's so many bad dates I think some people will have a problem with almost any time. When you are a November child, adults ask what you want for Christmas when you are only thinking of your Birthday. August children can struggle at school but early September children can also have school issues being with those born the following year and feel they missed out with friends a few days older in the year above. Sharing a Birthday with a sibling, parent or later on a partner is a pain as well.

Marmite27 · 15/10/2020 11:27

We have 23rd December and 7th January birthdays. They nicely bookend Christmas for me, but aren’t very nice for the holders.

x2boys · 15/10/2020 11:32

My son's birthday is boxing Day ,which is not great tbh .

OpposableThumbs2 · 15/10/2020 11:35

Mine is early January. Usually people are just back at school and work so little interest in celebrating.