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What do you think is the worst birthday?

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BabyLlamaZen · 15/10/2020 09:29

if you have these birthdays, how do you feel?

I think December 25th would be bad, January 1st very close second. At least when you're little that day is still your own and you can have a little party with all the hungover adults. I'd hate it as a teen/adult though!!

I actually wouldn't mind 29th Feb. You'd just celebrate the 28th or 1st March most years, it feels kind of special in a way. Then have a big bash every 4 years! Plus it's far enough away from Christmas. And you're clearly magic!

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Someonesayroadtrip · 15/10/2020 17:31

I'm a very early January birthday and I hate it.

Especially as my entire family except one is from September to December birthdays, so by the time we hit mine all of us are fed up. I also lost a baby on my birthday. Two years ago my husband surprised me with a half birthday and that was amazing.

Inextremis · 15/10/2020 17:32

My DH's birthday is Jan 8th (along with Bowie and Elvis), and it's brilliant - exactly a week after New Year, so we get to extend our holiday time by 7 days. Mine's in June, so we're nicely spread out - and I always get him separate Christmas and birthday gifts, but tend to buy them earlier in the year to spread the cost.

Xmasbaby11 · 15/10/2020 17:32

I should say, my dd are 6 and 8 and love their birthdays so much - don't think they have felt any disadvantage and I certainly wouldn't create a half birthday.

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PurBal · 15/10/2020 17:38

December 23/24, none of your friends are around because they've all gone to family and everyone thinks it's Christmas already. January 2, everyone is over partying.

Marlena1 · 15/10/2020 18:36

@StarUtopia I was desperate for DD2 to be born on Halloween but when they said they wouldn't go past 30th, I asked to be induced on 28th! Was really disappointed!!!

nosswith · 15/10/2020 18:37

Anything in the first couple of weeks after Christmas I feel. Seems an afterthought and I am sure many get joint Christmas/birthday presents.

polkadotpixie · 15/10/2020 18:52

My Mum's birthday is 27th December and she's always hated it. People are knackered from Christmas celebrations and it gets overlooked

fewming · 15/10/2020 18:52

Xmas/New Years bdays for all the reasons others have said.

I also hate 17th & 19th, and 27th & 29th of ANY month. They are interchangeable in my mind and totally forgettable as a result!

LynetteScavo · 15/10/2020 18:55

I know two people with birthdays on the 26th December. One loves it, the other hates it.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 15/10/2020 18:56

Mine is 7th January. Its shit. Exactly 2 weeks after Christmas and 1 week from New Year. Everywhere is shut. Everyone is broke. Just started back at work.... And I get everyone's crap Christmas presents regifted.

rainyoutside · 15/10/2020 19:02

DS is December.

It wouldn’t occur to me to do a half birthday, tbh. That seems a bit ... I don’t know. Not sure I’d be comfortable with that. One thing when your birthday falls on a Monday and you have celebrated on the Saturday before, but seems a bit rude and pushy to me to ‘celebrate’ six months later for presents.

Chicchicchicchiclana · 15/10/2020 19:02

My late father claimed he loved his Boxing Day birthday. I think you can be glass half full or glass half empty about this sort of thing.

Dh hated his August birthday as a child - all of his friends were always away on holiday.

OhTheRoses · 15/10/2020 20:38

To the pp who asked whether people planned and thought about the date. Yes of course but we aren't all fortunate enough for plans to reach fruition, esp after a succession of miscarriages.

ReySky · 15/10/2020 20:51

My son was born on Christmas Day last year, I feel terrible for him in advance for all the joint presents he'll no doubt receive. Not my fault, obviously, he did arrive almost two weeks overdue! DH and I have said we'll try and make a point of always saying happy birthday in the morning before happy Christmas, but arranging his birthday parties might be a bit of a faff. Perhaps we'll do a half birthday as he gets older.

thewalrus · 15/10/2020 22:12

DD is early February which breaks up the dark days of winter nicely, and hopefully when she's older she'll get all the people coming off dry January/diets/skint.month etc.
My birthday is in June, which has served me very well for the most part, but A level Maths is not the best way to spend your 18th!

ivftake1 · 15/10/2020 22:14

@frazzledasarock

Late January. Before payday.

Everyone is exhausted, fed up of sweets and chocolates and partied out and poor.

My husbands is 18 jan! Before pay day and everyone is sick of everything by then
WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 15/10/2020 23:33

To the pp who asked whether people planned and thought about the date. Yes of course but we aren't all fortunate enough for plans to reach fruition, esp after a succession of miscarriages.

No, I realise that - I did try to cover that aspect and apologies if I inadvertently upset anybody. It was a genuine question: just wondering if people specifically avoid the possibility of a birth around Christmas (or any other time perceived as unfortunate) or just figure 'what will be, will be - it's not an exact science' and go for it regardless. Of course, anybody would be overjoyed to have a healthy baby born on Christmas Day rather than not have the baby at all (or one who sadly doesn't make it).

grassisjeweled · 15/10/2020 23:39

DS is Dec 26th, DD Jan 6. We usually have a party before Xmas

Jaguarana · 15/10/2020 23:43

@Napqueen1234

13th Jan. Mid miserable month, unlucky date, post Christmas.
That's DH's birthday. He'd agree with you.
NC249 · 15/10/2020 23:44

I've always felt like mine(24th December) or anyone born 25th December, basically the whole December month LOL. Found that growing up I had to deal with people either only giving me one present(which I was grateful for) or giving me a birthday present wrapped in Xmas wrapping paper oh and not to forget people writing "happy birthday" in an Xmas card! Also find it difficult to do anything on my birthday with my friends that doesn't even involve spending as most people are always too broke in December to attend my birthday. I usually just bake myself a cake and friends will pop by for a cup of tea and maybe a drink. Due to Covid this year, my birthday will be just me and my daughter LOL

Honeyandapple · 15/10/2020 23:46

Any date between 15th Dec - 15th January is not a good birthday.

Also the few weeks before exam season. May, I think? As the teenage years are taken up a bit with revision at this time. And the same years would be the most fun for going out / party to celebrate.

DrFoxtrot · 15/10/2020 23:55

When I was training, one of our patients had a concealed pregnancy and gave birth at home on Christmas Day, her parents delivering the baby. What a shock, but the family were overjoyed and I often think about their special Christmas delivery Grin.

ChelseeDagger · 15/10/2020 23:55

30th December.
Nobody wants to celebrate with you cos its NYE the next day.

Also the fact that you only get a maximum of six hours of actual daylight. It would be more apt to call it a birthnight at that time of year.

Depressing as hell.

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BabyLlamaZen · 16/10/2020 06:55

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

To the pp who asked whether people planned and thought about the date. Yes of course but we aren't all fortunate enough for plans to reach fruition, esp after a succession of miscarriages.

No, I realise that - I did try to cover that aspect and apologies if I inadvertently upset anybody. It was a genuine question: just wondering if people specifically avoid the possibility of a birth around Christmas (or any other time perceived as unfortunate) or just figure 'what will be, will be - it's not an exact science' and go for it regardless. Of course, anybody would be overjoyed to have a healthy baby born on Christmas Day rather than not have the baby at all (or one who sadly doesn't make it).

I planned to avoid 'doing it' around March and April for those reasons. Luckily it worked in Feb so I had an early November baby (it also depends in what part of the month you ovulate). However, once I started and went through the 2 week wait I thought hell no am I going to give up for 2 months!! And I think that's what happens. Some people start then thinking it'll take months to conceive and it doesn't! Others just keep going as so worried about never getting baby. But yes, most people I know would like to avoid it and there are often threads about it in the conception forum on mumsnet.
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Nishky · 16/10/2020 07:06

@passthemustard my daughter is the 22nd - she was 12 days late so I blame her!

When she was in primary school she occasionally became annoyed that Christmas ‘took over’ her birthday - but she always had good parties- I sent invites about 6 weeks in advance so people could plan.

Also we now have a lovely tradition that our Christmas decorations do not go up until the 23rd. Usually in a mad rush as we are busy doing other stuff.

We love it .