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So lonely & depressed

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 30/09/2020 16:34

Hi, I really need someone to chat too! Feeling very delicate so please be kind.
I feel really down & lonely. I don't really have anyone to talk to. I've tried talking to one of friends about it but she told me, not to talk about it as I'm getting her down as I'm so negative all the time 😔

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ArabellaScott · 30/09/2020 16:38

Brew OP, it's a difficult time for lots of people at the moment. What's getting you down?

Anordinarymum · 30/09/2020 16:40

Talk away.. we all have bouts like this and of loneliness in particular.

Why are you lonely now ?

Letsleepingdogslie8 · 30/09/2020 16:41

I’m here too. Cake

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 30/09/2020 16:43

Not having friends, no one to talk to, no one to have chats with about anything, feeling so alone

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NancyBotwinBloom · 30/09/2020 16:43

What's getting you down op xx

ivegotthisyeah · 30/09/2020 16:43

I don't think the nights drawing in and miserable wet weather helps either 💐💐

ArabellaScott · 30/09/2020 16:44

Yes, I hear you. I have to keep reminding myself that the reason (at least part of the reason) I've not seen any pals in months is because of the pandemic. I think it's been quite corrosive of many of our social ties.

Is that part of it, or is this a more long term thing?

Inthesameboatatmo · 30/09/2020 16:46

Same here op .
Just me and 3 kids since husband upted and left , am no contact with toxic family all I have is my neighbour

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 30/09/2020 16:48

Having no friends. I'm home all the time. I know you can't meet people & go to other peoples houses at the moment. But I have no one talk to when I'm feeling down. Xxxx

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 30/09/2020 16:50

Inthesameboatatthemo. I'm so sorry you're in the same situation. Sending you big 🤗🤗🤗

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 30/09/2020 16:51

I haven't really got any pals tyo chat too!

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Anordinarymum · 30/09/2020 16:51

I think an awful lot of people are feeling like this OP. Being on here helps sometimes. Going for a walk to a place where it is relatively busy such as a park as opposed to somewhere less busy can be good as you can chat to passers by. This is what I do when I am alone. I take my dogs for a walk and you would be surprised how many people I pin down :)

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 30/09/2020 16:54

I live in a small village so I haven't got any busy places to go but I've got a park nearby, definitely going for a walk tomorrow

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GlottalStrop · 30/09/2020 16:55

Here and listening OP.

tenlittlecygnets · 30/09/2020 17:08

Big hugs, op.

Do you work?

What makes you happy? I'd try to do something that made you happy every day. Read a good book, listen to good music, go out for a walk and spend some time in nature.

Do you have a neighbour you can check on, have a quick chat with?

Any family?

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 30/09/2020 17:16

Tenlittlecynets, thank you very much for the hugs 😊 No I don't work at the moment, I'm at sahm. Yes I have family, I have a amazing partner & my parents. Painting makes me happy.

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bearlyactive · 30/09/2020 17:23

What sort of things do you paint?

Inthesameboatatmo · 30/09/2020 17:29

Rainbowsparkles thanks hun .
Its horrid isnt it , it's the not having anyone to chat with once the kids are asleep and the house is quiet, at least the dogs and cats keep me company I suppose.

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 30/09/2020 18:21

Bearlyactive, I've only started painting recently. Mainly abstract.
I'minthesameboattoo, it is. We don't have any pets so it's just me when DC goes to bed. My partner works late so I'm in bed by the time he comes home

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ArabellaScott · 30/09/2020 21:35

I think so many people are maybe feeling the same. Online interactions seem to often make me paranoid. It's not the same as face-to-face. When we were in full lockdown, it was actually shocking how exciting it was to visit the supermarket and speak to the checkout operator - my one 'real life' human interaction in the week, apart from my immediate family. I think we underestimate how meaningful all the tiny interactions are for our lives and health.

sweetkitty · 30/09/2020 21:39

Hey OP just wanted to say you’re not alone many of us are feeling like this right now. It’s bloody hard isn’t it. Days just stretch on and on with nothing really to look forward to. Flowers

Letsleepingdogslie8 · 30/09/2020 23:25

How old are your DC?

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 01/10/2020 12:10

Letsleepingdogslie8. I have one DC, he's nearly 18 months old

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Letsleepingdogslie8 · 01/10/2020 13:06

That makes sense - it is easy to feel lonely at home with a little one. I often craved adult conversation. Are there any baby groups you could go to?

tmh88 · 01/10/2020 13:09

I feel the same sometimes! It can be really lonely at home alone with a little one! Could they maybe go to nursery for a little bit once a week and you could do some classes like yoga or something? I’m using the one morning a week DS is at nursery to apply for jobs but I’ve also started a yoga class that morning and whilst I haven’t made “friends” it’s nice to have adult conversation!

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