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So lonely & depressed

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 30/09/2020 16:34

Hi, I really need someone to chat too! Feeling very delicate so please be kind.
I feel really down & lonely. I don't really have anyone to talk to. I've tried talking to one of friends about it but she told me, not to talk about it as I'm getting her down as I'm so negative all the time 😔

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PollyPelargonium52 · 01/10/2020 13:24

How about ringing the Samaritans. No need to be feeling suicidal. For those feeling isolated.

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 03/10/2020 12:05

Tmh88. He's due to start nursery next year. I don't know of any yoga groups near me.

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 03/10/2020 12:06

PollyPelargronium52. I don't feel comfortable ringing samaritans

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tmh88 · 03/10/2020 12:28

Could you look for a painting class? I do get how hard it is feeling alone Flowers

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 03/10/2020 16:35

Tmh8 there aren't any painting classes in my area. The ones I've found you need to travel, I can't drive. Was hoping to learn this year, then covid-19 happened. Plus I have no one to look after ds as my partner works full time

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Cam2020 · 03/10/2020 17:00

Are you on Facebook? There's, a, nice group on there called Ladies Day that are very supportive and receptive to new members.

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 03/10/2020 17:14

Cam2020 no I'm not on any social media.

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LindaEllen · 03/10/2020 17:25

Hey,

I feel much the same, and it gets worse as the weather gets dark/wet/miserable. I can't believe it's so nasty and dark today and we're still a few weeks away from the clocks changing!

If you want to chat to someone in a similar situation, feel free to PM me as I'd be happy to chat :) x

ArabellaScott · 03/10/2020 17:26

I don't think I've ever said this before, usually the opposite! - but, maybe social media is worth a shot? Given the current situation, almost all of my social interaction is currently either phone, zoom or social media.
What about an instagram account for your paintings? Follow artists you like, post stuff. I find it a pretty easy to use site, and you are free to share as little or as much as you wish.

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 03/10/2020 19:26

Thank you so much Linda Ellen, that's really kind of you, sending you a big 🤗 Arabella Scott, I was on Facebook, but I came off it a while ago, as it was making my mental health worse. I don't intend on going back on anytime soon.

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 03/10/2020 19:28

I have no idea how to use Instagram

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Xiaoxiong · 03/10/2020 19:52

Aww Flowers I remember feeling that way, it's tough when you are pinned down by DC and covid of course makes it worse. DH works 6 days a week until midnight in term time so I actually found MN a lifeline when my kids were that age. So many lonely dark evenings saved by chat on here on various threads, especially long-running ones where you can get to know people's usernames that I have dipped in and out of over the years. Every so often I pour a glass of wine after the kids are in bed and sort by threads that have no reply and post the first reply so people don't feel lonely or ignored. In fact I might do that again right now!

amieejust · 03/10/2020 20:06

@Rainbowsparklesdust1921 Flowers I'm the same but no children. It's so hard isn't it. Lockdown has really brought it home that no-one really cares, not even DH, and that I have no friends at all. Family are 3 hours away.

I keep thinking of when I had a good job, a glam lifestyle and lots of friends. Mainly because of two big moves in the last 10 years for DH's job, and being shat on by so called friends, those days have long gone and I feel very lonely and isolated. My cats are the only reason I'm still here tbh.

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 03/10/2020 20:15

@aimeejust I'm so sorry you're feeling this way too, I'm sending you the biggest 🤗🤗🤗 Yes lockdown has been difficult & yes it's shown that's no one cares. I feel the same, my DC is the only reason I'm here, he's my life, my everything!

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 03/10/2020 20:18

@Xiaoxiong I don't feel pinned down by DC, I love being a mummy, he's my everything. However with everything going on with covid-19, it has made me feel very isolated. It's definitely shown me who my real friend are, unfortunately it's shown me, I don't actually have any!

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 03/10/2020 20:20

@Xiaoxiong that's really nice of you to reply to people that no one else has! The world definitely needs nicer people like you! I'm a newcomer to mumsnet, I have been reading threads for a little while before becoming a member!

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GintyMarlow2 · 03/10/2020 20:25

It doesn't help, I know, but many people are feeling like this at the moment. As I am vulnerable, I see very few people in real life, and humans need other humans.
If you enjoy painting, then can I suggest Anna Mason? It's online too, but she's a great teacher, and you can comment on other people's work. I'm sorry I can't offer any better suggestions, but sending hugs. Flowers

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Rainbowsparklesdust1921 · 03/10/2020 20:36

@GintyMarlow2 I'll definitely look into that, thank you very much & thank you very much for the hugs 😊 I'm sending you 🤗🤗🤗 back! 💐

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catsareme14 · 03/10/2020 20:38

Feeling the same . Just about to take a sleeping pill so that at least today will be over . Not a good coping strategy. Not sure how to move forward with deteriorating mental health . No excuse for it either , I have so much to be thankful for.

MsKeats · 03/10/2020 20:40

Have you told your partner how you feel? Do you have family or cousins etc?
Could you volunteer?

My local GP / NHS trust has a well being service -I'm having counselling through that and it is helping.

MajesticWhine · 03/10/2020 20:50

In what ways is your partner supporting you?

amieejust · 03/10/2020 21:23

[quote Rainbowsparklesdust1921]@aimeejust I'm so sorry you're feeling this way too, I'm sending you the biggest 🤗🤗🤗 Yes lockdown has been difficult & yes it's shown that's no one cares. I feel the same, my DC is the only reason I'm here, he's my life, my everything![/quote]
@Rainbowsparklesdust1921 thank you... 🤗🤗🤗 to you as well. So glad it's not just me who is sad and lonely, losing hope too.

Happy to chat anytime.

Cam2020 · 03/10/2020 21:43

Every so often I pour a glass of wine after the kids are in bed and sort by threads that have no reply and post the first reply so people don't feel lonely or ignored. In fact I might do that again right now!

That is just the loveliest thing I have read all day Flowers

Xiaoxiong · 03/10/2020 23:06

Aww Smile years ago there used to be a regular thing where someone would post a thread on chat saying "ok everyone, you know the drill, go sort by "new" and everyone try and post on a thread that has no reply until we make sure everything has a reply". That was many years ago when you really could post on all the unanswered threads of an evening and make sure no-one went unanswered.

I've done about 10 tonight where I could help, or bumped for traffic. Everyone can do it! It feels good! Smile

ArabellaScott · 04/10/2020 13:40

I'm so sorry to read this, catsareme14. Hope you are feeling better today. Flowers

OP, Instagram is very simple to use. Happy to help if you want to set up, let me know.

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