What's the most difficult thing you've gone through?

[Iwonder777]

For me, a full on MH breakdown.

Felt like falling into a pit and nearly losing my life. Almost seems like a different persons experience now.

What have you survived? And can't quite believe you made it through.

Recurrent miscarriages and not knowing if we'll ever have another Baby

@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult

Abusive childhood, abusive marriage, two of my children dying, and now cancer.

Sounds awful, and was/is awful but I recognise that I'm still a lot luckier than a lot of people are. I try and look at the positive things.

Hugs x

Loosing my amazing best friend of a mum, only 6 months after having her long awaited first grandchild.

Lifes cruel.

@user14123965865 I know how devastating PTSD can be. Been there, still not fully rid off it...
getting over traumatic experiences does make you stronger but sometimes they are just too big to fully recover from.
What kept me going was a saying my shrink kept repeating ‘everything passes’.
Took a while to understand and appreciate it but it is v true.

Breast cancer diagnosis, mastectomy, chemo, radiotherapy and then suddenly losing my beloved Dad 6 months after all that and losing my beloved Mum 12 months later. I lost so much in such a short space of time.

Having flashbacks to being violently raped and then losing consciousness during an emcs. When I came round I couldn't understand why they wanted me to hold a doll. He went to NICU and I lost the plot, suicide attempt and all. Took me a while to accept he was a baby, even longer to accept he was mine and no one was going to take him away.

As it turned out, I'd never dealt properly with being raped so trying to deal with that and a newborn was "interesting".

Being sexually abused by my step father for over 6 years.

Nothing - in comparison to any of the stories here, you are all amazing

DH was diagnosed with cancer when DS was 10 days old. 10 weeks later they both ended up in the the same hospital, on different floors, with the same virus which was harmless to most people but except newborns and the severely neutropenic. At the time I was so sleep deprived I was sort of numb and it all seemed just absurd, but since then when I’m recounting the story and I see the “holy shit” expression on people’s faces, it’s hit me what an awful thing it was to go through.

A cardiac arrest. Amongst other heart related stuff.

I occasionally see the consultant who was on call that night and who gave me CPR. I remember him coming to see me when I rang the bell to say I felt unwell. He kept telling me to open my eyes, and then, because my heart rate dropped so low, he started the compressions to try to stop my heart from arresting. But it did anyway, three times.

I saw him a few days later and thanked him,and he said “of course. It’s my job.” And I couldn’t help thinking that may be the case, but sometimes that job means he won’t be able to bring someone back.

I see/speak to him sometimes as he’s part of the heart failure team. And it is a very humbling experience speaking to someone without whose intervention you would literally be dead.

A full MH breakdown after losing someone very close and being made homeless with my dd. Then instead of gettimg help from family I had my dd taken off me. Lived in awful place surrounded by drug dealers and was left to get "well" by myself. Evicted from that place along with other families. Finally through the other side with a job I love, my dd back with me and a home. Was a tough fight and I nearly gave up so many times.

Finding out my nephew was going to be stillborn on my 21st birthday (my sister delivered him a few days later)

Going into hospital to be induced and then started bleeding out heavily and nearly died from blood loss (placenta abruption) and having to go for an emergency c section completely on my own as my mum and sister were told to go home for the night (before I started bleeding)

Being in an emotionally abusive relationship

My previously ok but slightly useless brother developed a severe drug addiction and drug psychosis which manifested itself as extremely explicit sexual messaging. He turned this (incestuously) on me (no previous history of any abuse or anything like that). I'm not sure I've actually recovered from the shock.

I then went on to have three miscarriages in six months, which I hadn't even thought was logistically possible. When I had the third one... I just, well I just couldn't believe I'd be so unlucky. All of this was in the space of nine months. I can't say I'm completely ok, but I'm still here.

Finding my husband dead in our home after suffering a heart attack. Our kids were just 4 and 6. Having to tell them was the second worse.

I was going to say my divorce... but I think the marriage was harder.

My mum dying.

Finding out DD has a brain tumor. It's benign thank God.

A funny one, but leaving school. It was a small convent with a very close knit community of sisters, staff and girls. I missed my friends, my teachers and the school terribly.

Being a full-time carer for my elderly father. It takes its toll.

It's a toss up between my actual marriage and ending my marriage and getting a non mol and a support worker and blah.

I've been a single parent for 10 years and that's been hard in a different way.

I salute you all x

Exactly the same experience as @Plump82. watching my Dad die from pancreatic cancer. I was only 17. 27 years on and I am still pained by it. I would cry in my room at night, my heart really felt like it was bleeding. Horrific.

Watching my beloved father die of cancer. The end of my first marriage. Witnessing my son struggle with ASD in his early years. Seeing my husband battle diabetes and ultimately lose his leg to the disease.

My heart goes out to everyone here 💐

Being told my sons heart stopped beating at 21 weeks x

The pain in this thread is palpable , my heart goes out to you all .
Losing my wonderful dad is my pain , 3 years later i still can't believe he is gone , i have lots to be thankful for but my grief sits in my chest in a hard lump and i constantly miss him.

I feel pathetic comparing some of my worst times, to the ones I’ve read above so I’m not even going to say.

You are all strong and amazing people!

My dad's brain tumour- weirdly what makes me most upset was when he asked me had I ever seen a concert me him and mum had watched a million times together. After that brother's mh issues and also when we slid into poverty a few years ago and considered emigrating. Also depression when we lived in a very old isolated country house.

My daughter’s mental heath problems. She started school refusing at 11 and subsequently self harming and taking an overdose. During that time I have never felt so alone and unsupported. It lead to the breakdown of my 18 year marriage and a period of depression which I couldn’t work on as she needed me as did my other children.
The supposed support services blamed me for enabling her which led to her hating me as I pushed her thinking I was doing the right thing. She was subsequently diagnosed with autism which explained a lot and I went with my gut and withdrew her entirely from education and made unsupportive ex pay for a tutor.
She’s 16 and just started college - life is still hard for her but she’s much happier.
I’m still bitter and not sure I’m over it tbh.

My heart goes out to each and every one of you that has posted on this thread 💐
Just a little reminder to us all - Always be kind

Being widowed. My darling DH was such a good man, and i miss him so much. I feel like there is very little in life that makes it enjoyable, I'm only still here because I don't want DS to lose both parents too early.