What's the most difficult thing you've gone through?

[Iwonder777]

For me, a full on MH breakdown.

Felt like falling into a pit and nearly losing my life. Almost seems like a different persons experience now.

What have you survived? And can't quite believe you made it through.

DH being close to death and spending several weeks in intensive care
3 miscarriages after ivf pregnancies
Becoming suicidal when my mental health broke down
Currently on the edge and wondering how long it will be before I crack and end up off work on long term sickness with stress.

The disease as in cancer.

Holy fuck there’s some tough women in this thread

Hang in there, those of you who are still in the middle of your pain. Hang in there xxx

A miscarriage of a much wanted baby. Having to tell my 12 year old that her best friend had been killed on the way home from school.

Finding out my ex husband used prostitutes for a about six months for no apparent reason. I loved him so much, he appeared to worship the ground I walked on, never felt this loved by anyone before and then BOOM! As if a big wave swept me, tossed me around countless times until I didn’t know which way was up and which way was down. Took me a year and a half before I could fall asleep without sleeping pills. Didn’t leave him straight away as (I realise now) I needed the time to process what had actually happen - the very deliberate nature of him arranging to pay for sex in the middle of the day or on the way back from work. And not caring that some of these girls would have been most likely victims of sex trafficking.
Happy now😀

Does anyone else think the complete lack of empathy of people who should care about you is doubly traumatic?

It's a slap in the face when you are at rock bottom. Fuck em all tbh, pouring your guts out when you are suicidal to be met with "aww I couldn't have got through shit without my pals" and "have you thought about getting a job" fuck those cunts.

This is a very depressing thread

I've read each post.

I'm sending you all my love.

Bloody hell, you never know what people go through

I'll add my story as it is amazing what people pull through, but I find hearing about the loss of children particularly traumatic.

Eating disorder for 25+ years. Robbed me of a lot. I'm over it now physically, but mentally it echoes.

Losing my dad, then my FIL a few months later. Then our pet was run over and killed. That year I just wanted to sleep through as a lot more (less significant shit) happened too.

Lol. Where do I start? The day I gave birth to my first child who died shortly after delivery. My father dying by suicide. Rape. Serious serious money problems and debt. Sleeping with someone for money. I could go on...

Will have to name change now though!

Losing my amazing Nan (who raised me) very suddenly and my bestie to cancer less than three weeks later.

@thisusernameismine I actually find this thread more about hope and the strength we all have but are not always aware of.
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

My DH had a life altering accident, couldn't work for 18months and due to a mix up with his insurance and not sorting his taxes properly, he wasn't entitled to any financial support. I had to work ridiculous hours to keep a roof over our head while he was suicidal. Terrified everyday that he would kill himself. Lived in a bedsit in a new town with no support and a 90 minute commute to work on top of 14 hour shifts. My daughter went from me being a SAHM to a new town, school and me being away at work ridiculous hours. Started to get our life back on track, fell pregnant, had the baby prematurely, had to be resuscitated and ventilated and stayed in hospital a month. Diagnosed with PTSD from the stress of it all.

Trauma, trauma, trauma, trauma, trauma...unspeakable traumas that nobody should ever know... Then receiving a diagnosis that means you'll die a barbaric, traumatic death before you ever come close to having a chance to recover from all your trauma and live a life rather than spending each day trying to endure suffering.

Life isn't worth it.

This thread just reinforces what a national disgrace it is the utter horrors we force people to endure at the end of their lives for no justifiable reason. Every single person who has contributed to blocking assisted dying legislation deserves to rot in hell for the inhumanity they have inflicted and continue to inflict on so many people. Despicable.

You're right @Bengal12 - I added a bit of my stuff shortly after as I didn't feel that 'depressing' was the best word. Have had a really gritty life but don't want to say much more as quite outing.

I just can't deal with stories around child loss. My heart snaps it's so terribly sad x

My life now, watching my amazing dh of 22 years (it's our wedding anniversary today) going through stage 4 terminal bowel cancer, he has already gone over his life expectancy. Knowing that all the treatment he is putting himself through and all the suffering is so he can spend a few more months with me and the dc.

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

Yeh, I used to tell myself that until I found out I had fought to survive all this horror only to be told I'm going to die a horrible and extremely premature death.

PTSD doesn't make you stronger, but it's a comforting platitude until the truth catches up with you.

The world is a horrible place.

My mum died of cancer when I was 36 weeks pregnant with my first baby. I was 24, she was 54. It's been nearly 17 years, but I'll never get over it. That year definitely made me grow up quickly! It also made me more determined to get joy from each and every day, which has been useful in this godforsaken year!

My mum dying suddenly was probably the worst. Also the suicides of two friends, mil and fil both dying suddenly, my teenage son witnessing his friend die after being hit by a speeding driver and subsequently having to be a witness at the trial, numerous work related traumatic events and a bout of depression last year.

First miscarriage.

Mental health breakdown.

💐 for all you strong and inspiring people. I cried reading some of your stories. Hope it all gets better from now onwards!

@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult

Abusive childhood, abusive marriage, two of my children dying, and now cancer.

Sounds awful, and was/is awful but I recognise that I'm still a lot luckier than a lot of people are. I try and look at the positive things.

I came on here to talk about my beloved much longed for child being diagnosed with cancer. She is still with us but much changed for the worse. I can't even think of words to say how sorry I am you lost two. That pain is the worst ever. I hope you have a bit of peace.

Leaving my abusive ex was very very hard but the best decision I ever made. It was scary, I feared for my safety, I still fear for my daughter's safety, and I still face regular threats from him. The levels an abusive man goes to keep you are genuinely terrifyingly.

For me it was a MMC, redundancy out of the blue and suspected sarcoma all of which threatened to turn me upside down, and did for a while.