OH has fell down the stairs

[comeoneileenn]

Just moved into our new house today and OH has just gone and fell down the stairs the ambulance has just taken him to hospital.

I've got a job interview tomorrow and everything is still in boxes.

How bad are broken ankles will he still be able to look after the kids while I go?

Ship him off to his parents' house until he is less grumpy.

@comeoneileenn

Thanks everyone very kind of you all.

He is ok but getting slightly fed up because he can't do anything and we've had about 100 arguments as he keeps ordering me to do everything whilst I'm trying to entertain the kids. If a crumb or a bit of my hair drops on the floor he looses it he wants to keep the new how immaculate as I do to but It's hard at moment.

Can't wait for this to be over!

I'd tell him very bluntly that you are now doing the job of 2 parents and 2 adults while he sits on his ass. It doesn't matter why he's sat on his ass, he is.

And if he doesn't like the job you're doing, he can get to fuck and go stay with his parents and see if they'll put up with his whiny bullshit.

He is either supportive and grateful or he zips it. Wanker.

The difference between a broken arm and ankle is broken arm puts one limb out of action.
Broken leg ties up your hands with crutches too. Even making a coffee is a struggle. How do you get it from the worktop to your seat?

I've had a broken shoulder and a broken ankle, the broken shoulder was much worse. My husband was working long hours and on the first morning alone I discovered I couldn't even butter a slice of toast as it just shot off the plate. Broken ankle I went to kitchen on crutches, sat on my office chair (with castors) and could cook a meal with no problem at all. I did have to eat it in the kitchen but it was alot better than dry toast.

I also discovered how hard it was to go to the loo with a broken shoulder, you need quite baggy knickers to deal with them effectively with one arm and you can forget wearing a pair of tight jeans. I have great admiration for people with only one working arm, I found it very challenging.

Broken ankle I went to kitchen on crutches, sat on my office chair (with castors) and could cook a meal with no problem at all

What did you cook, out of interest? Did you have to keep adjusting the height of the chair?

He sounds like an asshole.

If it’s safe to put your foot down and tell him to ‘get fucked’ then do that. And don’t pander to him any more. He’s had enough unnecessary attention over this non-issue.

I cooked what I normally cook, curries, casseroles, fry up. I was a bit stuck at first as I couldn't manage shopping and DH was working 120 miles away, supposed to be away Monday to Friday but was driving home every night.

The chair was as high as I could get it, it would have been easier lifting things off the cooker if it had been a bit higher but my colleague at work was 3ft 6 inches tall and she managed so I figured I could. The two things I hated most, no hang on 3, were not being able to drive, not being able to have a bath and the itch.

I used to whizz round the kitchen on my chair and was probably quite dangerous to passing traffic but it worked for me. I did the same thing years later when I had two kids at primary school, a disabled husband and I'd just had a hysterectomy. The first night home we went out for a meal and after that I sat on my chair and managed.

I'd love to be able to lie back and relax when these things happen but life wasn't meant to be like that for me.

Thank you @ancientgran. I have horrible arthritis and a new chair on wheels ...

Good luck with the chair Jamie, I quite enjoyed whizzing round on mine.

But him a litter picker, then he can help.

But

Buy..... why doesn't my phone like that word?

He's probably in pain but he shouldn't be picking on you like that, what an arsehole reaction!

I agree, if he starts, just walk away to another room where he can't follow you. NO house stays pristine for long with 2 small children in it, what a wanky thing to try to achieve, especially when he can't actually do anything useful to help!

Is he always like this or is this a new behaviour for him?

Ha! I feel for you, I broke my ankle in June and the bathroom floor hasn't been cleaned properly since then. No way would i expect my partner to wfh, look after me, and keep the house up to my (fairly low) standards! OP, don't bother arguing, just say, little busy right now. Walk away. You have to get through the next few weeks.

Not as odd as an ambulance for a broken ankle.

Ffs. I broke and dislocated my ankle in my back garden. I landed with my legs wrapped around one another with no chance of unwrapping them let alone getting up and into a car. I'm lucky that my neighbours heard me scream and came to help

I've taken people in my car to hospital with suspected broken ankle/arm/collar bone/concussion; I've driven myself there with a broken foot so I'm hardly somebody who uses an ambulance lightly. Sometimes that's not possible and an ambulance is exactly the right call.

@ancientgran

The difference between a broken arm and ankle is broken arm puts one limb out of action. Broken leg ties up your hands with crutches too. Even making a coffee is a struggle. How do you get it from the worktop to your seat?

I've had a broken shoulder and a broken ankle, the broken shoulder was much worse. My husband was working long hours and on the first morning alone I discovered I couldn't even butter a slice of toast as it just shot off the plate. Broken ankle I went to kitchen on crutches, sat on my office chair (with castors) and could cook a meal with no problem at all. I did have to eat it in the kitchen but it was alot better than dry toast.

I also discovered how hard it was to go to the loo with a broken shoulder, you need quite baggy knickers to deal with them effectively with one arm and you can forget wearing a pair of tight jeans. I have great admiration for people with only one working arm, I found it very challenging.

Oh! I worked with a guy who had very limited use of one arm and hand and he seemed to manage fine, inc playing golf! Obviously going to the loo wasn't something that was ever discussed but you've made me think about stuff I'd never have considered!

Op I'm glad the ILs were able to help. Hope you get good news from the interview.

He sounds very difficult 🧐

You need a conversation with him about how keeping the house immaculate is simply not going to happen with small children. If he can't cope with that he needs to consider moving back to mummy's.

He's being a dick

Bikingbear I think limited use is more of a help than we normally realise. My arm was strapped to my body, no cast, so if I could have moved my arm enough to just trap that piece of toast it would have been a great help.

The toilet thing was a bit awkward but baggy knickers were a revelation.