3am Club - chats for reluctant night owls

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Here it is. A thread for those of us find ourselves awake for a couple of hours in the middle of the night. It might be stress, grief, illness, menopause or just the way you are.

A place to chat and get to know one another and share tips (no mention of camomile tea or hot baths though).

See you all in about 5 hours...

Checking in early. Content in life, happy, fairly body confident, but not very good at this sleeping lark.

I'm a usual night owl trying to get up at normal human times this week and struggling - can I join?

I’m here, stressed to bits. Thanks for starting this thread.

Morning! Or night? Greetings.

My body clock seems to think 2am-5am is awake time. My sleeping has been rough all year but I wonder if pregnancy has made it worse.
Past two nights I've woken 12:30. DH just came to bed and has repeated the classic line "shouldn't you be asleep". Snapped at him but now want to cry. Just tired.

Did everyone have a good Tuesday?

Morning. I’m off sick with Covid type symptoms and was patiently waiting for the result to come through. Woke up and sleepily checked the app and even tho it’s negative (🥳) I cant get back to sleep

Glad your test result is negative Gordon

Bloody menopause here plus a bit of having to be up at 6 to take DD to work.

I was reading but a great big daddy long legs came in the room.

I’m not far off the menopause myself and dreading it if it brings insomnia with it 😩

Urgh to daddy long legs. We’ve had so many skinny big spiders in the house recently. One started crawling up the shower curtain while I was sat on the loo yesterday. Way too close

Can I please join? I am laid in bed surfing Mumsnet after reading the shit show shambles Matt Hancock is today revealing not enough tests so kids, teachers and parents will be back of the queue!

Glad to see a thread for this and here just before 3! Admittedly stressed mum of 6 week old twins so you can only imagine I don't sleep through the night anymore.. I shouldn't really be scrolling through my phone right now but I can't get back to sleep.

My Tuesday was pretty ordinary and my mum & aunt came round and brought me lunch which was nice. Spiders have been huge lately

Hi all! Combination of work stress and peri menopausal anxiety that's making me not great at dealing with it is meaning I'm awake at 3 or 4 most nights. Rather than fight it, I'm going with the flow and will read or surf Mumsnet till I feel sleepy again, as lying awake obsessing about the worries isn't helping! I hope you're all ok and sleep comes back to us quickly.

I'm awake. 10 week old is asleep. Need to put the phone down....

I'm in awe of the 3am mummy's, and twins! Hard work for sure. I keep telling myself that this insomnia is good prep for my 1st due in spring. It's not a comfort.

Does anyone else get a song stuck in their head?
This week I have 'Hooked on a feeling' on repeat, so at least a song I like (for now).

Taking DD off to uni for the first time this week and I am replaying the to-do list in my head: again and again and again. Didn’t help that I had a couple of drinks with dinner, which never helps my sleep patterns. Like many of us, I read and surf in bed but I know it will take a couple of hours before I am sleepy enough to doze - usually just in time for my alarm.

Oh yes, the song thing is particularly irritating in the middle of the night. Kids are totally obsessed with Harry Styles at present and I hear myself humming away in the dark like a forlorn Directioner.

Oh yes. I call it "song-itis" and it drives me mad. Yesterday it was the nursery rhyme "Soldier, soldier won't you marry me?" I have not heard or sung that song since about 1989 but for some reason my brain decided that 3am would be a great time to revisit it

@Shangrilalala my only advice (as once a DD being dropped off) - don't be upset if you don't hear from her much. You'll be at home with a gap and she'll be busy meeting people and exploring the new independence. Maybe set a time/day for a phone call in advance.
Try to relax, there will be bumps but it's part of growing up. Good luck with it, sounds like you are well prepared.

@Thack, Thanks for your kind and calming words. In truth, she’s more than ready and going to DHs old uni which is known to us all; it’s not so much worry but the enormity of getting everything done in time. It’s hilarious as I went off with just a trunk and anything forgotten was just bad luck!

My 8 year old walked in to my room wanting a snuggle. Problem was that, my boyfriend was sleeping in my bed, usually I have him sleep in guest room when she’s in the house but was feeling poorly so he spent the night in my bed instead. We weren’t in the middle of anything but I was mortified.

Been separated for over two years but just getting used to dating while being a single mum. I feel so guilty, not sure if I should bring it up with her later on. What do I say? Btw bf has left just now, I promptly went to get her even though she was already asleep.

I am often up in the night with youngest son who has seizures. At the moment I am in hospital with him as he has pneumonia. We have been awake since 2 . 30 tonight and not had a decent nights sleep in forever now. He keeps just about dropping off then fighting it off so resigned myself to staying up now . I was already knackered so not looking forward to getting through the day tomorrow. At least at home you have a comfy reclining chair and can put the telly on !
Anyway he is much better so hopefully we will be home soon.
I am so grateful for MN in the wee small hours ! There is always something to lift the spirits . Tonight's offering was the poster who inadvertently flashed the next door neighbour. It has really made me giggle!

Awake due to two loud fog horns here. Will surf mumsnet until I feel drowsy again. Don’t know how my lovely dog is sleeping through it!

Do hope your son gets better soon @flapjackfairy and that you get plenty of cups of tea to help you through tomorrow. Are you able to rest at all during the day, maybe have a nap? I know hospital furniture is not that comfortable.

@Angelina1972
Thank you for your good wishes.
I have a camp bed so may have to try and sleep in the day though I am always inhibited by the worry that I will snore or fart loudly whilst the doctors are on their rounds!

Can you believe it? I slept through!

That’s brilliant Winnie Lovely thread though. Will watch out for another when my hot flushes are waking me every time I drop off