In tears, my 3 year old has been attacking other kids at preschool

[Motherofmonsters]

I just don't know what to do. I've always had trouble with him hitting and pulling hair and I thought we had cracked it. He had pretty much stopped this behaviour.

I've just had a call from preschool to say he's bit another child, keeps pushing over another one and snatching toys.

They're going to keep logging it but I'm so worried that they'll kick him out.

I've said I'll work with them and if there's anything they suggest I do at home I'll do.

I just feel sick about it

It does sound like it's not a good nursery for him or you if the staff are making you feel that way.

I actually spoke to the manager today and she seemed less your child is the devil in person then on the phone. She's said she's logging to see if it's a time of day/hunger thing and to see how.it goes if it's just settling in issues. She said the trigger is mostly sharing, so.i have something to work with.

Feel a little bit better.

My sister had issues with the school preschool expecting them to be more grown up then they are so maybe it is a common problem

It’s honestly likely to be something simple like the manager suggested.

It’s a common problem in nursery settings as the children are learning to socialise. We experienced it both sides....our son was bitten and on one mortifying occasion was the biter. I was so devastated but it was the ONLY time he ever did it.
Other kids can be serial biters until the penny drops that asking nicely (if you have the words) for something is a better option than sinking your teeth into someone’s arm.

Work on the sharing...but don’t over panic as he will get there.

She said the trigger is mostly sharing

As in he wants a toy and will bite to get it?
Of another kid wants his toy and he ends up biting them?

If the second, then the other children also need to realise that "no means no".

I've always encouraged DS to let other children have a turn, but wouldn't expect him to just give over just because he was asked. Sometimes children need to learn to wait too. Also, like DS did when he wanted to play.

He'll bite to get it unfortunately