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So what age did your DC first say they hated you?

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Helgathehairy · 05/09/2020 18:18

Just turned 7 year old DD did for the first time today, which, to be honest I didn’t expect for a few more years!

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DramaAlpaca · 05/09/2020 18:21

Oh dear Sad I don't think any of my boys have ever said that, not even as stroppy teenagers. If they did we've all long forgotten about it so it didn't do any harm.

Hope you're OK, OP.

corythatwas · 05/09/2020 18:24

Two. She also pointed out gleefully that by the time she was grown up she wouldn't have to have me for a mummy because I'd be dead by then.

Dd is now 23 and we are still on excellent terms. I feel fine and have every intention of going on living. Wink

6-7yos often have big emotions and their language is correspondingly drastic. Usually calms down a bit after that- until the preteens hit.

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 05/09/2020 18:26

Wow no mine have never said that. Was she trying to be hurtful? What did you say?

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minipie · 05/09/2020 18:26

About 4 from very emotional and dramatic DC1.

Never so far from DC2.

christinarossetti19 · 05/09/2020 18:27

I can't remember exactly but it was pretty young.

We've had various stages of her hating us, packing her bags to move out and wishing we were dead.

Interspersed with her being loving and wonderful.

She's 13, so expecting quite a few more years of this.

cultkid · 05/09/2020 18:28

3

Dogsaresomucheasier · 05/09/2020 18:32

9, then 12, then 13. After that she was pretty human.

Islandblue · 05/09/2020 18:32

Early maybe 5?

Lockdownseperation · 05/09/2020 18:35

My 3 year told me she loved me but didn’t want to be near me. She was very upset that those two feeling could exist together.

She told me at the same age that she wanted a different Mummy and she didn’t love me anymore.

waitingforadulthood · 05/09/2020 18:35

11 from my eldest "you're a horrible mummy and I hate you! SLAM" is how it went.

8 from my youngest and unbelievably even MORE dramatic dd.

BoneAppleTeaa · 05/09/2020 18:36

It’s been pretty constant since she turned 9.

SerenityNowwwww · 05/09/2020 18:41

When ds was about 3 he called me the worst thing he could think of.

He was raging about going to the beach for some reason - and he was a kid who never tantrummed (actually he did once and it didn’t have the desired effect as I just gawped at him) or got cross very often (he was and is too lazy to get bothered by things). Never again since.

He called me a ‘gosling’. I was shocked I tell you. Actually more puzzled and confused.

SerenityNowwwww · 05/09/2020 18:42

Is it more of a girl thing (not that I ever said that to my mum - she was pretty scary).

corythatwas · 05/09/2020 18:43

Serenity, that must have broken you! Shock Grin

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Helgathehairy · 05/09/2020 18:43

I just told her I loved her and always would. After a while she came to me crying and hugged me and told me she loved me.

She’s always been really sensitive and dramatic so I’m expecting this to happen again!

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TheYellowOfTheEgg · 05/09/2020 18:44

My eldest said it to me a couple of times when he was about 6/7. He's nearly 18 now and hasn't said it since. My other two haven't said it (not to my face anyway).

Findahouse21 · 05/09/2020 18:44
  1. I cried (in the bath later that night). It was during lockdown and she told me that she hated me keeping her prisoner in the house, and that she wasn't scared of monsters anymore because her life was already a living nightmare. Pretty much my worst day since becoming a parent that one.
shivermetimbers77 · 05/09/2020 18:45

My 6.5 year old said he wished I wasn't alive the other day Shock ... then an hour later he said I was his favourite person in the world. I think (hope) its just part of the rollercoaster of emotions at that age.

corythatwas · 05/09/2020 18:45

I can't actually remember if ds explicitly said that he hated me. But he did spend 2-3 years in his preteens criticising everything I said and very much trying to suggest that I was an evil harridan who oppressed his poor dad. Afraid we just laughed and ignored him. He is 20 now and a very loving, attentive son.

MegaClutterSlut · 05/09/2020 18:45

Ds was around 11 (now 18) when he said it. I did say how would you feel if I suddenly dropped down dead and they were the last words you said to me? don't say it unless you mean it. He hasn't said it again

mylittleyumyum · 05/09/2020 18:46

8, when I wouldn't let her take an ipad to sports club. She's 9 now and I've had it again, can't remember why now. My eldest is 12, she's never said it.

whataballbag · 05/09/2020 18:46

2 year old has now changed from 'i hate you' to 'I hate people'

lillylemons · 05/09/2020 18:47

Not had it yet and dd is 13 but I expect it will come at some point she not yet turned into a stroppy teen I hear about from others.

ScrapThatThen · 05/09/2020 18:49

Nah they just say it to each other.

corythatwas · 05/09/2020 18:49

When ds moved out of his dramatic phase he started taking the mickey out of his own drama by hamming it up. "How do you think that makes ME Feel?" was one of his favourite lines, also (quotation from his sister's Anne of Green Gables): "You have hurt my Inner Feelings". He was very sweet and funny.

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