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So what age did your DC first say they hated you?

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Helgathehairy · 05/09/2020 18:18

Just turned 7 year old DD did for the first time today, which, to be honest I didn’t expect for a few more years!

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DelurkingAJ · 05/09/2020 18:50

DS1 about 6. DS2 about 4. Always in mid-rage when I’m doing my ever so reasonable but I moving on the point that is causing rage. DH gets the same treatment. I tell them very calmly that I love them regardless but am hurt by what they’ve said. I always get an apology eventually. Tell me how much they love me far more frequently.

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Helgathehairy · 05/09/2020 18:51

whataballbag I say that quite often myself!

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Relocatingtohome · 05/09/2020 18:51

Mine never have.Aged 13 and below.

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bathorshower · 05/09/2020 18:51

4 or 5?
We've also had 'you're ruining my life' and 'I didn't choose to be born'. I'm afraid we laughed. And it'll mean it's not a surprise when she's a teenager.

Ilovewillow · 05/09/2020 18:53

Never - 12 and 7 here but I'm not kidding myself that it won't happen Smile

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 05/09/2020 18:53

Only ever once, a month or two ago (he's 8).

Tbh it really doesn't bother me - I know he doesn't, he's just feeling overwhelming anger and frustration at that point and 'hate' is the best way he can articulate it. But if it turned into a habit it would piss me off.

Doobydoo · 05/09/2020 18:54

Ds21 and DS13..never..but I wouldn't mind being called a 'gosling' though I suppose the feelings would be the same regardless of the word

Thesearmsofmine · 05/09/2020 18:55

It was this week actually and he is 9. I’m ok with it, I think it’s totally normal to have those big feelings.

user1471453601 · 05/09/2020 18:56

My DD has never said it to me. She's 50 now. Her best friends Mum died when friend and Dd were 11. I think it shook my DD to realise that, yes, parents can and do die.

I remember her coming home from school at about 15 telling me that another friend has said she hated her Mum. DD was clearly appalled. I tried to explain that, at their age it was quite a normal thing to think and say, and that this friend may well not feel the same way for all her life. DD was having none of it.

I think the deat h of first friends Mum had some kind of profound effect on DD

Beechview · 05/09/2020 19:09

My ds has never said it me and is a teenager but dd said it around age 6. I was taken aback and just shouted back ‘oh good for you!’ She hasn’t said it again.

Galaxxy · 05/09/2020 19:23

Youngest 6 - but he's rather an easy going mummy's boy so when he says it I do a faux dramatic 'but I thought you LOOOOVED me' and throw myself onto a pillow and wail and we end up laughing. My DD 12 says it with venom though!

picklemewalnuts · 05/09/2020 19:27

DS2 never. Very calm child. DS1... well not using those words. I was 'an ugly old troll', 'worse than the Dursleys', many many things. This was around 7.

DrownedDuffers · 05/09/2020 19:27

Age 7 DS here. Ultimate Mr Drama. I just stay "ok". It doesn't really bother me, I know he doesn't mean it, he just gets extremely angry about life and being told no.

I don't think the eldest (10) has ever said it. Totally different personality.

Mummadeeze · 05/09/2020 19:27

Very sensitive 11 year old DD who wouldn’t say a mean thing to anyone ever. But she is very anxious and shy and I wish she could assert herself more so there is always something to worry about!

mrsm43s · 05/09/2020 19:53

Gosh, mine, now teens, never have.

I do remember, however, my son at exactly 3 years old - I was trying to get him to have a nap before everyone arrived for his birthday party. He really. really didn't want to. He got really stroppy and declared, "You're not my best friend anymore!". I was caught between feeling sad that he was so upset with me and delighted that I had ever been his best friend. He'd had the terrible two's from 18m through to 3 years so had been quite difficult, and so often didn't feel like he liked me at all!

OverTheRainbow88 · 05/09/2020 19:57

4😔 over some sweets

Bubbletrouble43 · 05/09/2020 19:59

Dd1 never
Dd2 3 years 😱 ( she's very fiery)
Dd3 not yet, currently 3

megletthesecond · 05/09/2020 20:00

13yr old DS has just started with it. We are Kevin the teenager house at the moment.
I don't think 11yr old DD has said it, which is odd as she's quite violent.

easythatsfragile · 05/09/2020 20:01

Never.

britespark1 · 05/09/2020 20:03

My eldest is 9 and has started saying it Sad

happyjules · 05/09/2020 20:05

Never from either and they are 16 and 13. We have been through some pretty awful stuff together and have always tried to reason, explain and be honest about things that have happened. If they had I just would have told them I love them to the moon and back, they wouldn't know how to reply to that.

BlowingmyJets · 05/09/2020 20:06
  1. GET IT all the time!!
Flumo · 05/09/2020 20:07

6-7ish

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 05/09/2020 20:07

DD(6) hasn’t ever said it and I hope she never does.

I never once said it to my parents but I’m sure I thought it at some point.

Cosyjimjamsforautumn · 05/09/2020 20:10

When puberty started with DD 🤣