ADs skipping to school - and that's only the parents

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Saying that, I just found it social distancing very sucessfully from its partner

Checking in. Morning all

Morning - pmking x

Strangely one seems to have disappeared this morning... the one I have found turned up a bit randomly and they should be together...

DD2's managed to lose one school shoe for this morning - typical DD2. The school are asking them not to bring schoolbags in - but the kids need to take a waterbottle, their personal organiser and their packed lunch and even the kids without SEN are struggling carrying it all - so I've sent the bag back in claiming reasonable adjustments!

One of the kids who always struggles going into school was kicking off refusing to go in at all and being taken home by mum - I can't see that child ever fully returning to school after such a long gap in time. Lovely lovely kid, but mum has never helped with these issues (was kicking off about something at 8.41 yesterday morning already) and you can just see how it's goig to pan out.

DH's boss is off for a couple of days - has put as an out of office reply "I am out of a room in my house"

The professionalism and not arsing about is not strong in DH's work team. We had a whole week of them discovering they could set video backgrounds and putting themselves inside the Tardis and the like.

DS2 skipped to school, literally

Did divide and conquer; DS1 was streaming with snot so a quiet extra 10 minutes to finish breakfast and finish his abloutions helped a lot and he was ready to run around with the other boys on the playground. Yesterday he only had interest in his best friend.

I took one of their school bags to manage the coats, jumpers and bottles. Yesterday was ridiculous with DS1's blue exercise books on top. Mine run hot and we do brisk walk/jog to school so even though it's only 5 mins from front door to playground, it's pretty grim weather before they need more than their polo shirts, so there's always spare layers to be transported. I ditched the pathetic book bags early on for that reason, they couldn't accommodate anything 3D and just got dragged around anyway.

I did hear one little one howling at the nursery doors, that's pretty normal.

It was hard getting DS1's ignition going. I ended up on his cabin bed dressing him like a manequin! I then ended up carrying him to the kitchen table (good job he's built like a twig because he's well up my shoulders now). At that point, he looked like a fair contender for being off, but we ploughed on for the long game, which was the right call by the time we got in. I do occasionally do duvet days if he's run down in a long term, but not day 2. I have kindly offered them two days off after today.

DS2 kindly left his water bottle in school so that was one less thing to carry

Both of mine sporadically do the Klingon routine, and I do favour the rip them off like a plaster approach.

DS2 did it with hissports camp in the summer and at least that one, there was the time and space to sit on a bench and give a bit of patience, change the subject and scarper when the sports started and it began to look more interesting.

HelenaDove that article about putting masks on kids with SEN is one of the most depressing, horrible things I’ve read recently. Putting a mask on a deaf blind child? What the fuck happened to children’s rights? Plenty of kids with complex needs can’t consent to having a mask put on them.

Oh yeah I know kids who do the clinging and wailing routine and I know the drop and go works well (and this is a kid who is perfectly happy when she's got into the building) but mum is a fucking nightmare - school have bent over backwards to help her out - letting her drop the child early, bending all the rules for her constantly and she still just whinges and rages about the school endlessly to whoever will listen... raged about the infants and how she couldn't wait to leave and move onto the juniors which was so much better - day 1 of the juniors she was raging about the headteacher being "that woman" who'd tried to do the drop and leave smiling routine.

I've seen plenty of it with the Brownies which was good experience before becoming a parent. I already had the confidence that 99% of the time the child is over it within 5 minutes.

Our finest precious parent was the one who dropped their darling off with a ready meal of pasta meatballs because their precious poppet couldn't possibly eat the "chilli" which is pretty much bolognese with kidney beans. She even put on a post-it note to remind us to cut the meatballs. The 8yo had no issue in cutting the meatballs herself. The child herself was lovely despite the overbearing, unrealistic mother.

@AgentCooper

HelenaDove that article about putting masks on kids with SEN is one of the most depressing, horrible things I’ve read recently. Putting a mask on a deaf blind child? What the fuck happened to children’s rights? Plenty of kids with complex needs can’t consent to having a mask put on them.

I couldn't agree more. Really disturbing.

Morning, checking in a bit late.

All dcs are back at school and the house is so quiet. This is the morning bliss I have been waiting for. ☕️🥓🍳. Sod all SD going on, d(ementor)h has had to do pick up this week and practically having palpitations at the free-for-all at home time.

Fortunately masks are not required at schools (or even allowed) which is good as we only have one mask for the whole household. Even d(ementor)h was so desperate for some beer he forgot to take it with him and went round the shop maskless 😱😆 yesterday. although he did complain the doors weren’t automatic and he had to push them open with his elbow and probably has Covid all over his sleeve now. I’m beginning to wonder whether he’s just doing it to wind me up now.

Agree that article posted by Helenadove is depressing. Ds1 has SEN but fortunately isn’t too upset by masks, however there are things that do upset him and as is often the case, as soon as the option not to do something Is removed, then there is a problem.

Checking in - I’ve only got one school-age child now but as she started online sixth form last year (pre-Covid), she’ll just be skipping around her bedroom . She couldn’t cope with mainstream school due to severe anxiety and a recent ASD diagnosis so it suits her well but I do have lots of worries around isolation and the extra difficulty of learning and staying motivated when there aren’t any peers around to bounce ideas off etc. I suspect she won’t come out with particularly stellar A-levels but she wouldn’t have made it through to the exams at all if she’d stayed at her physical school so we didn’t have much choice really ... but for the majority of teenagers it shouldn’t be an option.

I think DS could do with the social interaction of school - his older sister took him out to meet her friends but otherwise he's been perfectly happy in his room and house with us since lockdown and hasn't really seen anyone else.

He's now not bothered about Scoutes - when before he was always really keen to go.

While in many ways he happy I don't think long term it's good for him. He and DD1 go back Monday though DS will be with same 30 pupils all the time.

DD2 came back much happier and in a good mood after school yesterday.

So lovely reading positive back to school tales. DD not back til Tuesday, I cannot wait! Partly for me (quiet house with just dd2 and I) but mostly because I know how excited she is about going back.

@Pleasedontdothat

Checking in - I’ve only got one school-age child now but as she started online sixth form last year (pre-Covid), she’ll just be skipping around her bedroom . She couldn’t cope with mainstream school due to severe anxiety and a recent ASD diagnosis so it suits her well but I do have lots of worries around isolation and the extra difficulty of learning and staying motivated when there aren’t any peers around to bounce ideas off etc. I suspect she won’t come out with particularly stellar A-levels but she wouldn’t have made it through to the exams at all if she’d stayed at her physical school so we didn’t have much choice really ... but for the majority of teenagers it shouldn’t be an option.

My county set up remote Guiding. Something like that could be good for her.

I think it is a long term option (rather than just lockdown) as it eases waiting lists in some areas and is more atteactive to some people.

I've spent the morning gardening. The conservatory doors are open and I can smell freshly cut grass and there's the drifting sound of my DCs' school playing fields shrieking with fun. Bliss

Jesus christ man pepper sprayed for not wearing mask on a train.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8697125/Shocking-moment-bully-police-officer-PEPPER-SPRAYS-rail-passenger-resisting-arrest.html

Am happy for all whose children are back in school. Parked up outside DIL yesterday saw mums with pushchairs walking up the road to school, I had a silly grin on my face when I saw the happiness.

[quote justasking111]Jesus christ man pepper sprayed for not wearing mask on a train.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8697125/Shocking-moment-bully-police-officer-PEPPER-SPRAYS-rail-passenger-resisting-arrest.html[/quote]
Jesus. When I read your post I assumed America. I can't believe that's happening here.

Fuckity fuck Leeds may be added to list of lockdowns. DS and his girlfriend are due to go back to uni. on 12th.

@AgentCooper yeah, last on everyone's
Fucking mind. We're too nice.

Took my grandson to school, he skipped in happily and told me today was a special day as they were getting biscuits! It's the little things.

[quote justasking111]Jesus christ man pepper sprayed for not wearing mask on a train.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8697125/Shocking-moment-bully-police-officer-PEPPER-SPRAYS-rail-passenger-resisting-arrest.html[/quote]
That's fucking horrifying. I get the train on days I need to go into uni and it was already stressing me out the idea of having to mask up or do the maskless gauntlet of shame (the lanyard doesn't stop the shitty looks) but when shit like that is going down.

I have to say I was in Tesco just now (buying DH his own pens cos I'm fucking sick of him nicking my nice multicoloured ones) and had to walk past two police with me with no face mask on and they didn't even raise an eyebrow at me.

I saw that video earlier. It's an interesting one because, let's face it, there is a chance that he's just choosing not to wear a mask and being a bit of a belligerent arse about it. Certainly twitter seems to think that's the case because he's young, white, gobby and male therefore obvs let's all assume the worst.

But in a kinder more accepting society maybe, just maybe, he's ex armed forces suffering from PTSD, maybe he's spent his early life in the care system and was abused, maybe he's a rape victime, maybe he's undiagnosed ASD. The point is, we don't know and neither does that police officer. And no one should have to verbalise out loud, in front of strangers, those reasons.

There's no way the police would treat me like that as a 49 year old woman and yet the police think they can do that to him because they've made assumptions. If you're told someone has an exemption you accept their word, and accept that the odd chancer slips through the net. Because the alternative is that you bully and oppress the vulnerable.