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ADs skipping to school - and that's only the parents

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RealityExistsInTheHumanMind · 03/09/2020 09:58

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LadyOfTheImprovisedBath · 09/09/2020 11:30

I'm also sick of the slogans.

First time in months I'm alone in the house -DH been granted permission to spend an afternoon in his office and the kids are all at school.

I have to admit I'm worried Caerphilly not that far away though we've heard nothing from Guides or Scouts yet so our two aren't disappointed.

I think I need to stay away from Covid threads - I know we all have our own baises but to see so many willing to demonize young people basised on little more than predjuice and assumptions and ignoring and dimissing any contrary evidence is just depressing.

We've so little planned I don't think we'd be adversely affected with any further restictions - as long as schools stayed open and with one in Y11 having her lose time could be massive problem. We are lucky though as found out today some family members are being made redundant.

ISaySteadyOn · 09/09/2020 11:32

My life too. Small and simple and now fucked.

@Vintagelovingmum, you are not at all a terrible mum. Just one pushed to the end of her tether and you are not alone. Your family loves and needs you as does mine. That's what I hold onto.

InsaneInTheViralMembrane · 09/09/2020 12:36

@Vintagelovingmum about 18 years ago I went through horrendous stress and saw those tall trees at the side of an A-road and was briefly tempted. As someone else said - just “relief from...”. Not a real wish to die.

About 17.5 years ago I had a horrendous car crash on the motorway and to this day don’t know how I got out alive - I try not to think about it. As it happened in slow motion at 70mph there was only one thought in my head “not like this”.

Do speak to your GP. I’m sure you won’t act on any of it - but you deserve to be heard.

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DominaShantotto · 09/09/2020 13:13

I’ve stayed in bed all day to avoid the news. Will have to appear soon for school runs though

justasking111 · 09/09/2020 13:15

@BogRollBOGOF

Is it too much to ask that our two children can see their two cousins?

Forget murdering grannies, this feels like a long list of stealing candy from a baby.

Twice on the school run, I was asked how I am. I politely gurned; I didn't trust myself to use words.

Need to psych myself up for a run. It'd a good day to run for two hours. I just need to get into gear first.

We that is three families all live a road apart, the cousins will mix because we all support each other with school lifts, child minding, we are three families 13 in all this has to continue. We are all determined on this.
amicissimma · 09/09/2020 13:20

@TheOrchidKiller, quite the opposite. A tear of joy/relief that someone gets it.

There's no big thing I can complain about, it's just the sad, draining effect of day after day after day without the little things that made my life whole. And not only no sign of getting them back, but also no clear reason why we're doing this. Stopping the NHS from being overwhelmed I totally understand. But now what are we trying to do?

Malteserdiet · 09/09/2020 14:02

Apologies, big rant inbound to get a few things off my chest in a safe space...

We moved to mainland Europe over the summer, which was made insanely difficult by the covid shenanigans but was at least something to aim at and look forward to during lockdown in the UK. Just as we moved cases started to rise and they introduced wearing masks in shops. Now it is fucking ridiculous and we have to wear masks nearly everywhere, even outside at the side of the rugby pitch and whilst walking down near empty streets. I can’t tell you how much I hate it or how I secretly hoped that by moving here I was moving to a country that is generally known for sticking its fingers up at authority and infringes on Liberty. However, it seems dementors still outweigh the rational people here and there is no end in sight. In fact there is an air of panic and a sense that lockdown won’t be accepted again so all they can do is keep adding more places where you have to wear a pointless mask. The lack of a goal or an end date or even just some basic common sense kicking in is absolutely doing my head in. I have always considered myself quite lucky mental health wise but at the moment I just feel angry and frustrated all the time and it is effecting my happiness and relationship with my husband and children (to a smaller degree). I am trying to just ignore it all to help manage my mental health but as soon as I leave the house here, it’s in my face and totally unavoidable. To make matters worse, my 12 year old has to wear a mask from 08.30-4pm with only a break for lunch while he’s eating. Everyday he is coming out of school with a headache and feeling sick and there is nothing i can do. We’ve tried 5 different types of mask and they all eventually cause discomfort because of the ludicrous amount of time he has to wear it. I tried putting that issue on a thread about masks and someone told me that he just sounds ill and that it won’t be the mask causing it!! Why are people so desperate to support these pointless pieces of fabric that do nothing?

It’s true what someone upthread said, if you don’t like your job you can leave, if you don’t like a friend you can distance yourself but you can’t escape this thing and it seems to be taking so long for people to wake up. Why does everyone want it to go on forever? The dementors say, oh but the restrictions so far have helped suppress the numbers and now selfish people, daring to try and get on with their lives a bit and decide on their own risk, are causing cases to rise again so we just reintroduce restrictions. But why can they not see that we will be in a never ending cycle of that because the fucking virus isn’t going anywhere and if we can’t get protect against a common flu virus then I sure have little hope that we will ever be able to eradicate an ever evolving coronavirus. Who wants to live their lives like that indefinitely? I just can’t understand it and it just adds to my anger!! Expressing that kind of view anywhere else but here and I am labelled a conspiracy theorist and anti vaxxer- ffs. So had enough of it all.

justasking111 · 09/09/2020 14:03

Just had a blazing row with OH sure the neighbours were amused I was so loud OH shut the back door. I spent all morning cleaning, washing, hoovering, stripping beds, while he was off on bike chatting with folk on boats on quay all morning. He came home I had half emptied the fridge so left out of date food on work top for food caddy recycling bin just a few peppers. I got the why did you not put these in the bin straight away instead of lying around. I went up like a fucking rocket sure they heard me around the block.

He has now had his lunch, so will be off again in a bit for another womble while I crack on with housework and prepare dinner. I will not be working with sharp knives today Angry

countrygirl99 · 09/09/2020 14:14

@justasking111 I know those sort of explosions

TheOrchidKiller · 09/09/2020 14:19

@justasking111 ooh, I know what you mean! We fell out a bit late last night when I complained about the latest news. He was trying to be helpful but his suggestion that I just take some time off to go & visit my DPs "while you still can," really hacked me off. He has a job where he can do that. I have to jump through 20 hoops to book leave in advance, & it's even worse now that people are starting to need to self-isolate because of their kids being sent home from school with colds.

DD has pissed me off big time today but that's another story.

The cat has got in the way as I'm trying to clean.

DS went off to school & said, "That 6 people thing, it doesn't apply to sport so I can still go to football." Oh good for you! Thank god I'm imprisoned here so I can wash your kit & have the dinner ready for when you get home.
I find myself taking on more of the share of domestic chores because I'm bored.

LadyOfTheImprovisedBath · 09/09/2020 14:40

But why can they not see that we will be in a never ending cycle of that because the fucking virus isn’t going anywhere and if we can’t get protect against a common flu virus then I sure have little hope that we will ever be able to eradicate an ever evolving coronavirus. Who wants to live their lives like that indefinitely?

I think many are still pinning everything to getting a vaccine - and that it will be soon ignoring even if we get in within next 18 months it would be the fastest ever created vaccine and a large number of trials get so far and fail and there are increasing warnings it may not be spring or even next winter or that it may not offer enough protection to everyone.

Even massive improvements in treatment that have occurred isn't enough.

The mission creep is quite frightening. If we don't get a vaccine I don't know what the end would be for many - maybe past this winter if it falls off the news cycle though I assume it would be back for next winter.

SirSamuelVimesBlackboardMonito · 09/09/2020 14:49

But why can they not see that we will be in a never ending cycle of that because the fucking virus isn’t going anywhere

This is what is frightening me the most.

InsaneInTheViralMembrane · 09/09/2020 15:05

There are an awful lot who are happy to go along with clicking their heels 3 times and chanting “I wish, I wish, I wish there were a vaccine”.

Easier than contemplating reality I suppose.

And I get that - on a personal scale. But I don’t get that national and international “thinkers” are going along with it.

WouldBeGood · 09/09/2020 15:11

@SirSamuelVimesBlackboardMonito

I'm fed up of pissy little slogans and being spoken to like a fucking child. Fuck of with your Safe Six. Fuck off to the far side of fuck and then fuck off some more. Fucking bastard wankers.
Yes! It’s the way they speak to us that is so fucking annoying!
kittensarecute · 09/09/2020 15:19

@SirSamuelVimesBlackboardMonito

But why can they not see that we will be in a never ending cycle of that because the fucking virus isn’t going anywhere

This is what is frightening me the most.

Same. Not coping. At all. I don't want to be here anymore.
DominaShantotto · 09/09/2020 15:50

I'm considering buying the kids a couple of chromebooks out of my childcare pot for the year - so we're better prepared for another batch of school closures again because right now I can see it coming.

The bit that's really pissing me off is all the school bubbles bursting are doing so because TEACHERS are infected coming back off holiday - not the kids - but the kids are obviously filthy disease carrying vectors. That and the "I've stubbed my toe - do I need a covid test" thing on here meaning no one can get a bloody one.

Willow2017 · 09/09/2020 16:01

💐💐🌻🌼🌺🌷🥀🌹
For everyone who is struggling just now. Its utterly shit isnt it? You are all very important as people in your own right and to your families just don't forget that. At my darkest times only the thought that I couldn't do that to my kids stopped me crashing the car more than once so i really get where some of you are coming from today.

Who knew people were so desperate to comply with thier lives being taken away for do long wtf is wrong with people? Can't they do any risk assessment, read more than the BBC website or look further than the end of thier noses? What a nation of stazis and arse lickers we have become its the most embarrassing time in history for many a long year.

My life is pretty boring normally but even i am raging at this total shitstorm. People being coersed by fear mongering into obedience and others revelling in spying on thier friends and neighbours and even total strangers.

Makes me sick to see what's happening and so many people rolling over, sitting up and begging for more.

Rant over

DominaShantotto · 09/09/2020 16:22

My blood is running cold with the rhetoric coming out of the press conference. It's getting more and more fucking Orwellian.

InsaneInTheViralMembrane · 09/09/2020 16:27

@DominaShantotto I bought the kids chrome books for Xmas (lucky!) and they’re brilliant for parental
Controls. The kids hate that. 😂

School have asked us to submit holiday destinations for October half-term...

DominaShantotto · 09/09/2020 16:31

They're what the school uses and they rely quite heavily on google classroom etc to communicate with the kids - if we do get another school closure (and I notice it's now not a "no" but a "last resort") then I think it'll be handy for them not to just use ipads and share an old computer - but I was hoping to hold off till Christmas but tempted to jump now.

SomewhereEast · 09/09/2020 16:45

Apparently Boris is droning on about 'Covid marshalls' to enforce social distancing in town & city centres. Can you just imagine the kind of cranks and joysponges people who will apply for those jobs?

Willow2017 · 09/09/2020 16:47

[quote InsaneInTheViralMembrane]@DominaShantotto I bought the kids chrome books for Xmas (lucky!) and they’re brilliant for parental
Controls. The kids hate that. 😂

School have asked us to submit holiday destinations for October half-term...[/quote]
Tell them to mind thier own damm business. Talk about overstepping thier remit!
All this you must go home cos you sneezed once and get tested shite.
Gov says unless you have the 3 main symptoms you do not need a test. School has no right to over rule that.
It's all going Pete Tong and people are buying it as law.

Willow2017 · 09/09/2020 16:49

@SomewhereEast

Apparently Boris is droning on about 'Covid marshalls' to enforce social distancing in town & city centres. Can you just imagine the kind of cranks and joysponges people who will apply for those jobs?
So any Tom Dick or Harry will be in charge of 'policing' the public? That's not scary at all😠
Willow2017 · 09/09/2020 16:51

Feck just imagine some of the people on MN getting that job😲😲😲
Be right up thier street they could "officially" harass people, they would explode with happiness.

disorganisedsecretsquirrel · 09/09/2020 16:55

@DominaShantotto

My blood is running cold with the rhetoric coming out of the press conference. It's getting more and more fucking Orwellian.
I think BJ is an incompetent fuckwit of the highest order.. that the country is governed by a sociopath.. however - I cannot begin to understand what you mean by 'rhetoric' . Do you believe that we should just do nothing ?

Honestly not trying to be goadey.. I think this whole thread is all pretty anti - Covid but can't remember who a dementor or an anti-dementor is anymore.. just interested in what YOU would do to keep the vulnerable safe from death, the kids in school and the economy going ?

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