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CPR for 15 mins ,dont know outcome ,airlifted to hospital

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peridito · 30/08/2020 12:37

Brother in 70's . Friend gave CPR . He must be gone ,don't you think ?
Anyone know if the airlifting might indicate that there was some thought that he might survive ?

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peridito · 03/09/2020 19:18

We've just heard that an EEG has shown significant abnormalities in brain function and that his responses are just reflexes .

He's not expected to recover and is basically being kept alive by machines .

I'm hoping he's not in pain .I'm thinking that from his point of view he's been spared growing old and frail .And also that the diagnosis is definitive and that he wont be left in limbo with very limited function.

I'm thinking that his lovely partner has been through so much and must be in bits .

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BoreOfWhabylon · 03/09/2020 19:24

Oh peridito, I'm so very sorry to hear this. Flowers

AgentProvocateur · 03/09/2020 19:29

@peridito, I have no medical knowledge so nothing helpful to add, but please know that I am thinking of you (from the other side of the world).

Hercwasonaroll · 03/09/2020 20:08

I'm so so sorry Peridito. Thinking of you and your family. Flowers

Sexnotgender · 03/09/2020 20:18

I’m so sorry, thinking of you Flowers

Itsrainingnotmen · 03/09/2020 20:34

So very sorry op..
I agree about the saved from the effects of old age... My dgm spent 6 weeks in icu and faded away..
She was 100 % up until that day.
So sorry..

Frownette · 03/09/2020 20:57

I'm so sorry Flowers

SeasonallySnowyPeasant · 03/09/2020 21:12

Oh no, I'm sorry OP. What a shock for you all Flowers

Chicchicchicchiclana · 03/09/2020 21:37

So very sorry op. I hope you have lots of loving support around you. What an awful time for you and your family.

frustrationcentral · 03/09/2020 21:44

So sorry op Sad

ChaToilLeam · 03/09/2020 21:45

So sorry peridito 💐

MustShowDH · 03/09/2020 22:56

I'm so sorry.

His partner did well to do CPR to enable him to get taken to hospital. She gave him a fighting chance and should be very proud of that.

Thinking of you all.x.

Tolleshunt · 03/09/2020 23:04

I’m so sorry to hear this peridito. Flowers

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peridito · 03/09/2020 23:05

Thank you all ,you're very kind .

MustShow yes ,that's what I've told her ,that she gave him a chance .Without her he'd have had none .

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Alwaysinpain · 04/09/2020 03:54
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eaglejulesk · 04/09/2020 05:01

Thinking of you OP. Your DB's partner did everything she could to help him, and while the outcome doesn't look good she should be proud of her actions. Flowers

Dontjudgeme101 · 04/09/2020 05:45

I am so sorry op. Thinking of you and your family at this sad moment in time.

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peridito · 04/09/2020 06:17

I don't have doubts about the efficacy of the CPR that was given and I think that my brother's partner is strangely comforted to learn that a rib was broken and the sternum cracked .

And she was with him and gave CPR immediately and continuously ,so I find myself wondering why he suffered such catastrophic brain damage .

I'm not on facebook and can't access the Sudden Cardiac Arrest group .I wonder if anyone has anything that might help me understand .

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MitziK · 04/09/2020 06:25

That's something that may be possible to explain at a later date when all tests are completed. Right now, understanding and coping with the situation as it is now is enough.

Do you know what their advice is? They may have a talk later today about it.

I am so sorry. But absolutely, she gave him a chance he wouldn't have had otherwise.

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peridito · 04/09/2020 06:49

Thank you MitziK ,wise words about dealing with the present issues .

The suggestion is that the next conversation will be about the fact that he is basically on life support and when this might be withdrawn

I'm travelling down to the hospital tomorrow .

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VictoriaBun · 04/09/2020 07:10

This happened to my dad when he was just 53 . He was in hospital for 17 days after it happened. His body was unable to regulate its own temperature so he was sometimes surrounded by cooling fans of wrapped in the foil you used to see marathon runners given at the end of racing.
He also used to get terrible muscle spasms until they gave him medication to stop those.
Like your brother he had pneumonia , he was given a trackeotomy (sp) .
He carried on having heart attacks whilst in icu and was revived a few times.
My mum was told if he were to regain consciousness he would never be the man he was and would always need professional care .
It was heavily hinted to her that the best option would be if he had another heart attack that they should allow nature to take its course to see what happened but as his next of kin that was her decision to make.
He did have one , and passed away .
I'm sorry you and your family are going through this, but for your brother's sake , if there is no hope of a good recovery I hope his passing is peaceful and soon Flowers

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peridito · 04/09/2020 07:13

Thank you Victoria .How sad that your father was so young .Flowers

Yes ,I agree I think it kindest that my brother is released soon .

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PineappleUpsideDownCake · 04/09/2020 07:45

I've just read your thread and didnt want to go without saying how sorry I am for your loss.

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peridito · 04/09/2020 08:12

Thank youPineapple .I'm quite numb at the moment .Probably a good thing .

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PurpleMustang · 04/09/2020 10:14

Hi OP, I am so sorry to read your update. Unfortunately I don't know if there is an answer as to why your brother was so affected and this sad outcome. I can only assume by reading survivors stories that it seems to literally vary so much person to person. And with health, age and length of 'down time' the is no formula as to how people are affected. Obviously you can ask the medical staff there incase they are able to help. But please above all this do hold on the the fact that his partner did an amazing job. By cracking ribs it shows how hard she tried (shows she was applying the right pressure, which is a lot) and how well she did to give the medics the best chance of helping him. If she hadn't of attempted it, he was already gone. And just one last thing, in case the hospital haven't mentioned, if this was due an initial cardiac arrest, ie not a heart attack first then this secondary, these happen to all people, of all ages and all healths, sadly including children. It wasn't because he was out walking or wasn't healthy enough. It unfortunately does just happen.