DD just walked in on us 😭

[Vdubcampa]

As said, she woke up and threw our door open while we were dtd 😳. She’s almost 10 and said “I know what you’re doing!” I explained to her me and DH love each other very much and this is how she was made and she seemed ok but I feel like the worst person in the world right now. Did I explain it properly? I thought screaming and chasing her was the worst reaction. Be kind I feel so bad

The neighbours next door though! and they have kids. Their bedroom is next to mine and its often relentless and bvery noisy. And both my kids, in the other side of the house, can hear them too

She will always remember to knock on bedroom doors now! grin

This. No need for reminders.

It might be a good idea to get a key and lock the bedroom door prior to doing the deed, though.

There is nothing to ‘forgive’, OP and you handled the situation well.

Your daughter knows her parents love one another because she has seen the proof with her own eyes. That’s far, far better than seeing them screaming insults and throwing stuff at each other.

Don’t mention it again unless she does, in which case use it to reinforce the message that sex is what grown-ups who love each other do, and talk to her about privacy and boundaries.

Mine walked in on us, when he was about 7. He said "What's Daddy doing down there?". I was a bit flustered, so said the first thing that popped into my head "He's looking for his socks"
Still makes me howl when I think about it - he's 22 now!

I would just like to point out that if 'bouncing the cat' doesn't become Mumsnet parlance for sex, I'm going to take it as proof that there's no justice in this world.
It is perfect 😆

@Willowbee

I'm assuming the duvet was deployed and you weren't on page 41 of the Kama Sutra so she won't have seen much.

Maybe take the time to pop over and lock the door next time? Worked for us.

Duvet deployed? I assumed nobody had sex with the duvet on them because you'd have to keep flipping it whenever you moved and be boiling hot?

@iknowiknowimab1tch

OMG, totally being attacked, If you knew my child then you would understand that she makes a mountain out of a molehill and has only heard us the once but will exaggerate it all for the attention. It is something we are dealing with. Im sorry i spoke now, should have known that you cant be honest on here without someone trying to make you feel like a shit mother when they dont know you or your children

Ok you win i will go back in my box and spend the rest of the day worrying if i have scarred my children for their life while just trying to live mine.

Just this reaction alone tells me your child doesn't feel heard when she expresses herself.

Poor kid. She must feel gross listening to you do it!

Op i feel for you! You handled it way better than I would have managed i think 🤣 mortified!

All sympathies for you OP.

Reminds me of when I was about 10 or 11,my parents had foreign students staying every now and then. They'd use my bedroom and it's be on a mattress on the floor at the side of my parents bed. They woke me one night and I just laid there. I heard my mum say she's asleep, 2 mins later something about him not getting it up 🤮 so luckily it didn't happen. Still annoys me to this day they thought it was OK with me asleep right next to them!

Only happened the once here DD just said; "Yuk! urrgh, thats awfull"

Never happened again!.

NettleTea fake noises or applause when you hear them may help there.

As for the OP, be glad it was not one of your parents!

I’m the parent that got sent a text from my teen in the next bedroom ‘ I’m still awake you know’.
I didn’t dignify it with a response.... obviously after reading it after we’d finished 😂

CyberPixie. Me too!!! For a reason I can’t remember I was sharing a bedroom with mum and dad and they began to get jiggy. I spoilt their flow by keep coughing loudly until they stopped the attempt. Never forget it.

We were interrupted by our 6 year old one morning who walked in and asked why daddy was on top of me. I said he was taking a short cut to the bathroom.!☺️😂

I hope you didn't explain it to her while he was still inside you..

@onaroll

I’m the parent that got sent a text from my teen in the next bedroom ‘ I’m still awake you know’. I didn’t dignify it with a response.... obviously after reading it after we’d finished 😂

Heh I got a text like that off my then 18 yr old. It was a bit of a squeeky bed no matter how quiet you tried to be.

*iknowiknowimab1tch

OMG, totally being attacked,
If you knew my child then you would understand that she makes a mountain out of a molehill and has only heard us the once but will exaggerate it all for the attention. It is something we are dealing with. Im sorry i spoke now, should have known that you cant be honest on here without someone trying to make you feel like a shit mother when they dont know you or your children

Ok you win i will go back in my box and spend the rest of the day worrying if i have scarred my children for their life while just trying to live mine.

You're the one who said you assume she's asleep

Other people are simply replying with their honest opinions to your post.

Hoiking boosums all round here. I could just picture the face you pulled when you types out those posts.

Mind the shrieking sea lion from another poster made me properly laugh. Talk about reading what isn't there. It was pretty obvious what Iknow meant

And yes to the small bolt. I don't know why you would think it interferes with being there. Click it on when you know there's action and click it off when you're done. Sorted.

@InkieNecro
I always try and have the duvet over me 😳
Clearly in the minority but I am a massive prude and like to be as hidden as possible.

Forgive yourself! You will laugh about it together in years to come!

At 10 she's probably heard the ins and outs (no pun intended) at school already and as much as she may be grossed out, I'm sure she'll survive it!

@Alfr

Mine walked in on us, when he was about 7. He said "What's Daddy doing down there?". I was a bit flustered, so said the first thing that popped into my head "He's looking for his socks" Still makes me howl when I think about it - he's 22 now!

I howled the minute I read it. In fact how did you not burst out laughing the minute the words left your mouth. How did your DH react?

You told her this was how she was made 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Will she be expecting a new sibling soon?

She knew exactly what she was doing. IMO

"Bouncing the Cat" and "Looking for Socks" are now my new go-to euphemisms 🤣🤣🤣

This happened to myself and dh whilst I was in the compromising position of reverse cowgirl!
My 10yr old dd walked in and I said I was massaging daddy’s feet 🤭
We laugh now but at the time I felt awful.