DD just walked in on us 😭

[Vdubcampa]

As said, she woke up and threw our door open while we were dtd 😳. She’s almost 10 and said “I know what you’re doing!” I explained to her me and DH love each other very much and this is how she was made and she seemed ok but I feel like the worst person in the world right now. Did I explain it properly? I thought screaming and chasing her was the worst reaction. Be kind I feel so bad

When on holiday my sister sent her 2 year old into our room, so they could have some ‘privacy’. Unfortunately we were bouncing the cat and for the next two days, all the poor child said was “I saw BillyBland’s bum”.

I’m never going to be able to think about sex now with thinking about bouncing the cat. 🤣

*without

My husband hasn't touched me all lockdown because of this - he feels uncomfortable that the boys can just walk in - fair enough. I've had to initiate a quickie in the shower a couple of times.

I actually think it's better for kids to grow up knowing their parents are in a secure, loving, sexual relationship than to think they are loveless and at risk of splitting. That's assuming she didn't see anything mega kinky!!

missyB1 - Our 11 year old shouted at us up the stairs the other day “if I’m not allowed to jump on my bed neither are you!”

Bless him he’s quite naive for his age

Love this :)

my 12 year old is always moaning that she can here me and my husband, im not sure she can but i tell her she should have gone to sleep earlier...its at least 11pm before we go to bed, i think she may have heard us once and now makes a drama out of it for attention

I'm assuming the duvet was deployed and you weren't on page 41 of the Kama Sutra so she won't have seen much.

Maybe take the time to pop over and lock the door next time? Worked for us.

My 21 year old walked in on us a few months ago. DH naked bum up in the air ...

Complicated set up back then; building right round the house and knocking through so our bedroom was also a corridor for a year or so. Not ideal! It was very late and we thought she wasn't coming back that night ...

We Do Not Speak Of It

Omg, don't feel bad about this at all @Vdubcampa !!! I think this is a great lesson in life that she's had. She's seen her mum and dad loving each other, you've explained very calmly and clearly why you were making love to each other, and yeah she probably won't barge in again now she knows you need privacy. I'd rather be in your position (pardon the pun) than my two boys who have never seen any affection between their parents whatsoever. I'd love my two to learn about adult relationships because we are not giving them any kind of good example. I'd be happy!

I was that child. I must have been about 7 and barged into mum and dad's bedroom. I didn't know what they were doing but DF was very annoyed with me. I always knocked thereafter.

My 12 year old walked in on me and my bf a few months ago in the middle of the night but fortunately he was sleepwalking. This is why I can't put a lock on my door or ask him to know as he has no idea he has done it the next day. That was my saving grace!

I don't think you did anything wrong and it's one of those things that is likely to happen when you all live in the same house!

A 5-year old at a school I taught at came in one day and said to his class teacher, "Sometimes my Daddy lets my Mummy bounce up and down on his tummy. Do you do that miss?

So it could be worse!

*Ask him to knock

Oh wow that's funny, I cringed at the mummy and daddy love each other part. Get a lock on your door and don't assume they can't hear you. Bet you're wondering how long she was standing there 🤔Child of mine once said they heard noises I said ex was really ill 🤣🤣

I never understand the ‘we can’t have a lock in case we are needed‘ it takes an extra few seconds to turn a key, bolt whatever, my kids have always knocked or said can I come in, basic manners.

I don't think you should make it her fault by saying she should have knocked. She was never required to knock before.
Put a lock on the bedroom door. Even one of those small bolts at the top of the door.

@frustrationcentral

Bouncing the cat

Get a lock or tell her to knock on future.

I'm not sure the whole 'we love each other and this is how you were made' was a great message to send either.

Sex doesn't equal love and it's a pretty unhealthy message to send, and she may well think you're trying for a baby now.

Nearly everyone has either walked in on, or been walked in on at some point. You have nothing to apologise or feel embarrassed about.

Did you see the episode of Modern family where this happened? Funny but I am not sure it will reassure you!!
I can understand how you feel, but I do think this will happen to most parents in loving sexual relations at some point.
The key thing to take away here is that you are in a loving sexual relationship.

I panicked and tried to explain it in as nice a way as possible. I was mortified and still am thanks for showing me I’m not alone, it’s a first for us!

Lock the door.

Not all relationships are ‘loving and secure’, not all children will be learning healthy lessons.

I won’t go into my history but please protect children from your sex lives

I wouldnt mention it, nor make anything of it. If she does say anything just say ''How do you think we had you?'' and leave it at that.

@iknowiknowimab1tch

my 12 year old is always moaning that she can here me and my husband, im not sure she can but i tell her she should have gone to sleep earlier...its at least 11pm before we go to bed, i think she may have heard us once and now makes a drama out of it for attention

How loud are you? I'd be mortified

Nothing to forgive op. I always remember being at school and my friend telling me she was sick of her parents "doing it" and had walked in on them. We all looked at her in shocked surprise because we did not think old people did it. Sorry if that makes you feel worse!