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@Vintagelovingmum

Everything is just that bit harder isn't it when common sense and pragmatic thinking goes out the window?
That event was probably one in a chain of other inconveniences that you wouldn't have experienced if not for small children and lack of consideration. You've probably used up a hell of a lot of mental energy in avoiding and mitigating for lots of these scenarios, rather than be faced with them.

I mean, I never had to carry an emergency toilet in the car when mine were little!

@Vintagelovingmum exactly YANBU. That's what it is - everyone's true colours are being revealed with this virus. You can hide all sorts of ugly behaviours behind it.

@AgentCooper

Solidarity *@chocolatesweets*

I have an almost 3 year old DS and everything for toddlers is still off/closed here too. The National Museum of Scotland and the Museum of Rural Life, both of which DS loves, are now open but with the interactive bits for young children still shut. I still can’t believe I could take him into a pub but not the glasshouse in the park (still closed). No offence to pubs but fuck, nobody cares about young children and their parents.

Solidarity ❤️

@ISaySteadyOn

And that is because the main parent who takes care of small children is the mother. Mothers do not matter. They are supposed to give and give and when they break, well, they just weren't good enough were they? It makes me so angry .

That brought tears to my eyes (though DS has been up since 3am with a cold). It’s so bloody true. I’m now back to working from home 3 days after furlough, DS going to my parents, but my God those 5 straight months of being on constant toddler duty. I don’t know how SAHMs do it, they’re bloody superheroes.

Has anyone got any suggestions for what I can send DS as a morning snack. He wants a second bag of crisps and I don't want him having those. So far the lunchbox will have bread, chicken, fruit, crisps and possibly a biscuit. I'm still cross school won't be doing hot meals. Not their fault as such but he always did well off a cooked dinner. Cold food is a nightmare as he won't eat a sandwich, cold pastry etc

Dried fruit- apricots, dates, possibly figs.
Cheese min baby bells, strings just a slice from normal block
cheese straws
Malt loaf slices
More fruit/ carrot sticks, cucumber sticks, sweet pepper
yogurt tubes/pot of yogurt
Apparently older two at their breaks were eating their small clipped jars which I'd put blancmange into - though they also like angle delight in them now. Also done home made yogurt or from bought big tube and defrosted frozen fruit in them.

Are cold samll homemade pizza out or pasta/couscous salads or cheat's samosas or soup a possiblity for lunch?

@Vintagelovingmum that is exactly the kind of thing that has been tipping me into rage recently. Sheer idiocy.

God those 5 straight months of being on constant toddler duty. I don’t know how SAHMs do it, they’re bloody superheroes.

I coped with being at home with toddlers all day by myself - by going out a lot - to groups to library to parks and having friends over.

I have no idea how mothers are managing at the minute - I got so much useful support and advice from other mothers and I think that sort of support just isn't on the radar of most people like it should be.

I haven't heard anything from the scout of guide group - the guide leaders are older ladies and the gorup has had years of dwindling numbers so I wonder if it will start back up at all.

First doesn't go back to school till Thursday and older two not till next week.

@AgentCooper it's really hard without support. I'm a sahm and treated it like a job before lockdown. Organising groups to visit etc. I miss people now and I'm trying for a job. I'm going to have to pay someone to look after my two but also hoping for the 30 hours when they turn 3, gps can do hours i'm very lucky. Also they'll be going to playgroup soon. Gets easier all the time but i'll never forget the first years. It was beyond difficult and i want to make it easier for women mostly in the future.

I have no idea what I’ll do with my 1 year old when the older goes back to school.
I’m very excited for school to start but it’s still many hours in the day to fill... The library used to be such a regular place for us and that’s out.
I did check actually with the few baby/ toddler classes that are re-opening and adults don’t need to wear masks, so that’s such a relief. Still, the rhyme times in the library are obviously no more and the church hall ones aren’t re-opening yet (if ever?) and there really is a lot still out. BUT I’m signing up for pretty much everything I can do and for the older one too pretty much on principle at this point that we will get as close to back to normal even if other people don’t want to.

How representative do you think all these MN people are you are keeping babies away from grandparents and expecting teachers not to socialise and thinking that walking the dog during quarantine is tantamount to going to a house party? I just don’t see that fear around me in real life ..

@LadyOfTheImprovisedBath about Scouts and Guides - I was just literally talking to the Cub leader outside Tesco this morning. Ours have the go-ahead to meet outside but are stuck in limbo waiting for the church hall they use to send out risk assessments so they can do their own risk assessment for the organisation - hence the radio silence as they're all waiting on bits of paper being shuffled.

Took DD2's writing slope and stuff down to school - lots of waves from the teachers sorting out the classroom to DD who was helping me carry things - then went to Tesco and she managed to run into her bestie from school who is leaving the country - so actually got to properly say goodbye.

Had a long chat with my uni course tutor about my mask-issues - we think there are ways around it all and the worst case scenario with my placements are either I do one which is working via telehealth, or I have a few days of placement I need to put back to when the world becomes slightly saner.

I know , I don't see that fear either. But they're all indoors 😂

Actually a friend (not anymore) has the fear. She's not the type of friend anyone would want. Sorry if that sounds harsh but it's true.

I don’t know if the Guiding Association has given the go ahead to go back to face to face sessions. Scouts have, depending on area so not in local lockdowns. But has to be outside, only 15 in a session including 2 adults, and everyone has to be 2m apart.

Although just checked the scout website and they are hoping to be able to move to indoor sessions soon

@Vintagelovingmum we had the same thing in bloody B&Q with Ds. Oh no, 4yo boy cant go for a wee because virus i was absolutely seething with rage. I mean i bet Ds is cleaner than a lot of people in B&Q ffs and its not like i wouldn't make him wash his hands. It's just an excuse imo.

Brought my 2 to soft play, it's quite nice being so quiet, I can find them fairly easily when they disappear. Masks are required for walking around and for rescuing your kids, I've had to rescue the smallest one twice already and I've been here less than an hour.

My patience is wearing thin after all these weeks though. I'm really lucky because I go to a gym with a crèche so whilst the eldest is in school I can put the small one in the crèche for 2 hours every day. He's starting nursery one day a week from Thursday too so having that space will do us all a lot of good. I'm not cut out to be a SAHM, I work part time evenings and weekend but it means I'm still with the kids all day every day, during lockdown when I couldn't work it was pretty much 24/7 apart from when I left for some exercise. My husband was working at least 3 days a week in the office so he never really understood why I was climbing the walls.

I'm determined now to make my life as normal as I can and I'm not distancing from friends and family or wearing masks if we socialise inside. I hate the fact that I have to hand over my youngest at the door instead of going in to settle him but I'm gritting my teeth and getting on with it because I know long term it's not going to be an issue.

I'm getting out there, being more social than ever and making new friends in the process. 2021 is going to be a great year, I'm determined.

I don't see the fear either, everyone I know is fed up of the rules and just getting on with their lives. Social distancing between friends and family is a thing of the past. I don't know anyone who is going absolutely mental and hosting raves but people are getting out there, mingling with people they don't live with and even touching them!

How representative do you think all these MN people are you are keeping babies away from grandparents and expecting teachers not to socialise and thinking that walking the dog during quarantine is tantamount to going to a house party? I just don’t see that fear around me in real life ..

I suspect certain threads attract similar people. The really anxious or militant lockdowners won't be mingling a lot in RL. If you are locking yourself inside off your own back or jumping in the road to avoid others I suspect they simply aren't coming into contact much with people who can level check their anxiety.

MN therefore provides the reassurance that there are others out there to validate their actions and thoughts. The rest of us can be dismissed as selfish and minimising the virus. Look at all the threads where the OP wants a pat on the back for following the rules, even made up ones.

Most people I know in RL are fed up with the restrictions and are being sensible and using common sense but are getting on with their life as much as they can.

Thank you all for the Scout and Guide information - the Scouts did set up an online communication system durring lockdown so will get DS to check that - we always seem to get missed off information tree before that.

If Guides doesn't come back - the leaders are very much post retirement age and I'm not sure the community center itself has opened back up to groups - I might see about DD2 joining Scouts instead.

Most people I know in RL are fed up with the restrictions and are being sensible and using common sense but are getting on with their life as much as they can.

I think that's most people now as well.

We haven't seen DGP either side as it means a really long train journey for someone. Even my IL who don't mind the train joruney usually aren't keen on several hours on train in face masks yet.

If I could, I would totally set up a Stay and Play for all of you with under 5s. DD1 could help. She loves smalls and they love her.

for every one.

The people who are refusing to go out will have a lot more time to fill with posting on Mumsnet. Let's face it, they must be bored with crafting and baking by now.

And they're definitely not the type to game either so posting on MN it is.

@ISaySteadyOn

If I could, I would totally set up a Stay and Play for all of you with under 5s. DD1 could help. She loves smalls and they love her.

for every one.

@ISaySteadyOn thank you I would be camped up outside your house waiting for it to open

It has been such a strange time without all of the wee things that punctuate your day with small children normally. There was talk of our toddler group returning in August but it’s been radio silence for a while now after mucho dementory chat about washing every single toy and THEN using anti bac wipes on them. And unfortunately most of my friends with similar aged children are still not willing to do play dates round each other’s houses. I only managed to convince two friends with toddlers to start coming for walks with me and DS in August. Just a very isolating time.

@bakingcupcakes I send my ds in with some plain ish biscuits (usually digestives). They've got a little sugar in them but keep him going.