What is the best piece of advice you have ever been given?

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OK I will add some further advice when I've had more time to think of the answer to my own question but one that majorly sticks in my mind is a very simple one.

I was watching a video of a couple who had been married for 70 years, the interviewer asked the couple what their tips were for staying in a happy marriage for so long. The old lady smiled and said it was simple, they have spent their entire relationship being 'nice' to each other. I'm not sure why its stuck with me so much, it seems simple, straightforward advice but even when I have bad (hormonal!) days I always ensure that I am kind and respectful to my partner. I was never nasty of course but its something at the forefront of my mind! We have been together 5 years and I can honestly say we are very happy together! He is equally as kind and nice to me and I hope we stay together as long as the couple above!

So what's yours? It can be anything!!!

This is something I read on the relationships board here;

Dick is abundant 😂

It has helped me through OLD when I have been ghosted or things haven't worked out because it is so true!

Never date an actor or a bartender. Did both, unfortunately. Should’ve followed the advice!

From my DH - buy more pension. Every time I got a promotion or a pay increase, he said buy more pension. He was right & I now have a comfortable, guaranteed income for the rest of my life. I hadn't even considered that I needed an independent pension - shame on me!

The only person resposible for your happiness is you

And borrowed from a thread on here

Don't borrow trouble ahead of time

Never wake a sleeping baby!

Also - do your best to change what you cannot bear, and bear what you cannot change.

It sounds a bit dramatic but actually when you think about it, it's spot on!

I had a difficult relationship with my late DF. He didn't give me much advice or guidance but I do always remember him telling me to keep my head down. Basically, don't engage with gossip or drama. It has served me well.

Great thread OP, there is some excellent advice here. I'll come back tomorrow to make notes for future reference!

A newborn baby cannot be manipulative, they don't even realise that they are a separate entity from you yet.

The above can also be translated as 'fuck routine, whatever works for you and baby, works'.

Look what everyone else is doing and do differently - ie be yourself and don't follow the herd.

Don't sell yourself short

Times heals - from a wise old lady when I was going through a horrible divorce

Don't procrastinate- you might die tomorrow- this happened to my brother and he died before he could carry out his plans

My mum used to tell me to always keep my toilets clean

And she'd say leave the housework and spend time with the kids - the house will still be there when the kids have grown up and left

From my lovely young manager 10 years ago- eat the frog. It means do the horrible thing you’re dreading every day - make that the first thing you do. Then you move on with the day. The person who told me this died tragically young last year and she will never know how often I think of her still. I ‘eat the frog’ because of her and it’s such a great philosophy.

Pick your battles.
Fake it till you make it.
Never out anything in writing you wouldn’t confidently say out loud.
Gossip will always come back to its source.

The best piece of practical advice I’ve had was from here....
If you’ve lost something, there will be a place you keep drifting back to and searching. This is your subconscious telling you it’s there. It will be within 2 feet of that place.

This has worked every time.

Great thread.

As a manager don't ask somebody to do something you cant do yourself.
Doesn't mean you have to everything bu5 if you know how and they know you can do it, that's how you get respect.

You can't make somebody love you if they don't.

Don’t be a dick

Men are not an endangered species. Serves me well when men are playing games... Time to move on!

Older person who was close to the end said, “I don’t regret what I have done, I do regret what I didn’t do”

What other people think of you is none of your business.

@Frolicacid my nan says that too, think it's 'a wise head holds a still tongue'

@Frolicacid ignore my post, I misread yours 😀 our quotes from nans are quite similar!

@cheesecrackersandchips

Great thread.

Don't take criticism from someone you wouldn't take advice from.

Really like this one!

I’ve seen a few variations on one I hold dear: “try not to worry too much what people think of you. It’s really none of your business”.

Never send an email you write when you’re angry. Save it down, sleep on it, go back to it. 100% you will not send what you wrote.

You don’t have to go to every fight you’re invited to.

Things do not happen. Things are made to happen.

You can’t have peaks without troughs.

Enjoy the little things in life because one day you’ll look back and realise they were the big things.

"Get out and stand proud." My Yiddish Grandma who I actually didn't get on with, but after I left 1st H for violence. Her Father had been violent.

And my Mums' favourite
"Don't put it down, put it away. That way your house will always be tidy and you won't spend hours on housework." She was right, we were a family if 7 and she instilled it in all of us.

you can't control others behaviour. You can however control your reaction to it.

“What you focus on expands”

@Mrsoldma
Take what you need....leave what you don’t.

I think that's an old adage for burglars...