Help me pick wedding flowers

[misschoices]

I would like mumsnetters to help me pick wedding flowers!

The first one or the second one?

Is it weird DP doesn't give care at all about flowers or anything about the wedding? He told me he will be excited during the day of- but the constant photos of flowers is beginning to annoy him?

1st option but I'd like more colour than white. Maybe a colour matching the bridesmaids dresses/ colour theme

No I wouldn't be at all surprised that he's mot even slightly interested in the flowers. Is he interested in the food? The music? What he's wearing?

He's interested in the food. That's it. Not the music, not the flowers, nothing else.

He's wearing a smart navy suit and his late fathers tie.

Really, but no interest in anything other than the food which lasted one day.

I think either option needs more greenery. Nothing wrong with all white flowers but I think it's the greenery that sets them off.

I have a wedding floristry business. Are you getting married in the Spring as both those images are Spring flowers. I would say all white looks really fresh especially against green foliage but on photographs they can look a little flat. Sometimes just the addition of something nude or the softest peach can just lift it a bit.
Otherwise maybe just think about introducing some more textures and shapes. All your images are roundish flowers - so maybe (if Spring) add some hellebores or white lilac, you can get some gorgeous white narcissi too. That will help with the flatness potentially on images. White is timeless and very romantic. You can also add colour with some beautiful tapered dinner candles or coloured linen napkins can look great. Go with what you like definitely - don't try and please everyone x

Does he seem interested in you?

I dont know any grooms who were interested in more than one or two little aspects of the wedding

I guess I'm questioning that as well. If he's even that interested in me since he has zero interest in the wedding planning.

He is also colour blind- so that may be why the flower question is annoying?

@Palavah I'm not a big wedding person anyway, I am a bit put off at his annoyance about wedding details.

I picked my dress in one day, really simple b it gorgeous.

I am not demanding at all, seems a bit off to me that he doesn't care about the flowers, the music , etc. He only cares about the food.

Mum just sent this to me, to think about I may just change the colour of the flowers so she will stop bothering me.

The white ranunculus? is really lovely and fresh. The coloured ones look quite boring.

She is paying for them- I guess she can just choose them herself!

First one is just beautiful, love them.

Dad is also texting me that mum just wants to be a part of the wedding and is more excited than I am apparently

If a man were interested in the flowers, I'd be worried he was gay! He's normal, let him be. He'll probably be quite assertive about cake!

@misschoices I really apologise, I don't want to be your mum but...

What about these?

Just tell me to go away... don't want to add any more stress/upset, I just saw them and thought they fit the brief .

'Darling don't you want to have a pop of colour? I just don't understand why you want boring flowers for your big day! What about this? Or this? But whatever you want! Love you.'

Dad is now texting me that mum can't stop talking about the wedding and guilting me to go her way.

@ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble

Those would be too white for mum. She wants some colour

Our wedding flowers were white with just the softest hint of pastels worked in, a whisper of color. I wasn’t picky about the particular types of flower and let the florist choose what ended up looking best when she went to make her selection.

@ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble

Mum wants something like this

Damn, I was hoping if you did like them, it would be enough colour (or just about) for your mum.

I thought they were a good compromise, with a bit of colour/shading/contrast but you still getting your white flowers.

@ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble

No. She wants a big centerpiece as it's a smaller wedding due to covid, and she enjoys flowers more than me.

She and dad are paying for them- I guess since I don't have to wear her wedding dress, I will let her choose the flowers

@katy1213

He doesn't even care about the music. I guess youre right, I'll leave him alone.

He is also semi colour blind - so I'm not sure if that is the issue.

This any good for you?

She needs to compromise, it's your wedding. You want/envision what you want. Agreeing to some pale blue/purple/whatever (no blush or pink from what you said) would be ok, not great but ok.

Having something you really don't want/like wouldn't be good for anyone.