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I’m watching Four Weddings and a Funeral for the first time

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Change17 · 14/08/2020 21:05

I know it’s a classic but somehow I’ve never watched it.
So I’m about an hour in and I just wanna get this straight ..

Carrie meets Charles. They sleep together. Charles finds out she’s in fact engaged and meets her fiancé. They sleep together again. And then she takes him with her to pick out a wedding dress .. that’s as far as I’m up to

What is happening here Confused I thought these two were one of the most iconic and popular couples in romcom history I had no idea this is how the relationship started 😂😂

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AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 15/08/2020 17:25

My favourite film! It came out when I was 14 (nearly 15) and I went to see it at the cinema 3 times. Hugh Grant is a babe in it but the older I get the more i am appreciating the relationship between Gareth and Matthew as the only real example of true love, for the early 90s it was ahead of its time for that. I wanted to have Funeral Blues read at DH's funeral but I was persuaded it would be too downbeat and dramatic.

The80sweregreat · 15/08/2020 17:30

'Peters friends ' came out about the same time with Stephen Fry and that was quite moving. ( I think that's what it was called ?)

BlueSwathesChoose · 15/08/2020 17:34

I agree with a pp that when it came out I did not realise that Gareth and Matthew were a couple.

Then as I got older and watched it again I realised that they were the couple who had the most genuine relationship.

I love the final montage. I thinkj KST with Prince Charles was inspired and that matthew finding another love was also so poignant in showing that life and love does really go on.

AGoodYearfortheRoses · 15/08/2020 17:37

I love how Nessa (I think) from Gavin and Stacey has Stop All the Clocks as a reading at her wedding in a tongue in cheek nod to this 😂

BigSandyBalls2015 · 15/08/2020 17:57

I watched this with my teen DDs recently as I had very fond memories of it .... it was very disappointing and the DDs thought it was crap!

june2007 · 15/08/2020 18:09

TBH didn,t like Notting hill, yet to see love actually 4 weddings also had the song. How long did Wet wet wet, have a number one with that for? It,s on par with Everyting I do I do it for you, .

Sailfin · 15/08/2020 18:14

I was in my early twenties and living in London when I watched this film. I loved it.

I had a boyfriend who was very like the HG character.

I have seen it once or twice since and it does have its flaws. The scene at the Embankment with Charles and Carrie is dull. Carrie is an odd character.

One scene that always irks me is when a Charles is stuck with the boring man who wants to stay up all night drinking. He calls Carrie a "filly" and talks about being "buggered" by the schoolmate he "fags for". Even in 1994, that was outdated and he is just one of many stereotypes in the film.

DillonPanthersTexas · 15/08/2020 18:15

Charles was mad to not reciprocate Fi's love.

Hugh Grant has morphed into a great actor.

I grew up in the village where they filmed the first wedding. It was very exciting when the film crew rolled into town.

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Change17 · 15/08/2020 18:21

@DillonPanthersTexas

Charles was mad to not reciprocate Fi's love.

Hugh Grant has morphed into a great actor.

I grew up in the village where they filmed the first wedding. It was very exciting when the film crew rolled into town.

Was this the Betchworth one? I grew up very near and we went to that church every Christmas for midnight mass! A couple of my friends have gotten married there it’s such a lovely church and betchworth is a gorgeous village
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LynnThese4reSEXPEOPLE · 15/08/2020 18:22

I did not like AM in Four Weddings, but it did inspire me to give a speech at my own wedding. Also, the "Friends" are wonderful!

ItsAlwaysSunnyOnMN · 15/08/2020 18:53

I love the film the only RC Film i like

Hugh Grant is brilliant

I think Andi MacDowell’s character is able to be sexually free as she is American so it’s acceptable in their circle. I think it was bad casting she is so wooden (in every film) and absolutely no chemistry between her and HG always appears as though she can’t be arsed

But all the other characters are fantastic so they overshadow her poor performance

DillonPanthersTexas · 15/08/2020 18:53

Was this the Betchworth one?

Sarratt in Hertfordshire. Bizarrely the filming location for an old episode of Heart to Heart. I got Robert Wagners autograph and Stephanie Powers nearly ran me over in her Merc.

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Change17 · 15/08/2020 18:56

@DillonPanthersTexas

Was this the Betchworth one?

Sarratt in Hertfordshire. Bizarrely the filming location for an old episode of Heart to Heart. I got Robert Wagners autograph and Stephanie Powers nearly ran me over in her Merc.

Oh! Haha got that completely wrong. The betchworth one must’ve been the second.
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ItsAlwaysSunnyOnMN · 15/08/2020 19:02

The80sweregreat I watched Muriel’s Wedding a few weeks ago

Haven’t seen it for years. I mentioned it at work and my colleague said ibdon’t like chick flicks and I thought it’s not a chick flick it’s a feminist flick

It’s just brilliant every character is so well written. Toni Colette is a brilliant actress (love Little Miss Sunshine and Sixth Sense).

She would been great as Carrie maybe a little too young

AlexisCarringtonColbyDexter · 15/08/2020 19:08

She took Charles wedding dress shopping because she liked him and was probably lonely. He was the closest thing she had to a friend

No way. Imagine you are in love with someone. You just had sex with them and they drop the bombshell that they are not only engaged, but they also want you to come and give opinions on their wedding outfit when they marry someone else when youve only just woken up in bed together that morning.

There is no way you can interpret that in any way other than being cruel as fck.

Villanemme · 15/08/2020 20:22

That isn't what happens! 🤣

impostersyndrome · 15/08/2020 20:30

I loved the film at the time. Like others on this thread it felt right during a period when all my university friends were getting paired off. And yes KST acted the others off the screen. I watched her in a French film recently where she was superb (and still as beautiful as ever).

Had anyone listened to the episode of The Reunion that discusses the making of the film? Sounds like they had a ball doing so: www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/b040h53l

The80sweregreat · 15/08/2020 20:55

I'm a bit obsessed by 'Muriel's wedding! '
It has everything and the acting is very good ( apart from the plank she gets married too!) Much better than any Richard Curtis film. It's sometimes on the tv , but not very often!

Siablue · 15/08/2020 20:59

I always thought that Charles should have married Fiona. I love Kristin Scott Thomas and her character is better suited to Charles.

There is a Bernard in every Richard Curtis film. He tried to put two Bernards in one film but Emma Freud made him give one of them a different name.

I have wondered for years why no one else learned sign language to speak to David and also would they not have known that Matthew and Simon Calloway character were a couple.

I also love Imagine me and You. It is such a lovely believable story and they live in a very normal part of London too.

DGRossetti · 15/08/2020 21:32

Andie McDowell was good in "Short Cuts" ...

billy1966 · 15/08/2020 22:32

I think Kristen is super in everything I've watched her in.

4 weddings was fine. Never heard anyone claim it was anything more than fine!

Frownette · 16/08/2020 00:05

@AlexisCarringtonColbyDexter

I dont know what he ever saw in her. She's a complete twat. She treats him like 2nd best the entire time and is about as interesting/fascinating as watching paint dry. She aint even that pretty! His best friend Fiona is way more stunning than she is.
The heart wants what it wants
Smallsteps88 · 16/08/2020 00:11

It’s an epically shit film.

And Andi MacDowall was woefully miscast, no chemistry with Hugh Grant

That’s because you can’t have chemistry with a cardboard cut out.

ChicCroissant · 16/08/2020 00:37

I remember 'Peter's Friends', Stephen Fry was Peter I think? Haven't seen that in years, it might not have aged well.

ElizabethMainwaring · 16/08/2020 00:50

You're right about Peter's Friends.
They all come across as very smug, especially Fry.

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