I’m watching Four Weddings and a Funeral for the first time

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I know it’s a classic but somehow I’ve never watched it.
So I’m about an hour in and I just wanna get this straight ..

Carrie meets Charles. They sleep together. Charles finds out she’s in fact engaged and meets her fiancé. They sleep together again. And then she takes him with her to pick out a wedding dress .. that’s as far as I’m up to

What is happening here I thought these two were one of the most iconic and popular couples in romcom history I had no idea this is how the relationship started 😂😂

Quite a lot of it has dated.

Some of it is funny.

But Charles and Carrie are both horrible human beings who treat partners appallingly.

@AndNoneForGretchenWieners

My favourite film! It came out when I was 14 (nearly 15) and I went to see it at the cinema 3 times. Hugh Grant is a babe in it but the older I get the more i am appreciating the relationship between Gareth and Matthew as the only real example of true love, for the early 90s it was ahead of its time for that. I wanted to have Funeral Blues read at DH's funeral but I was persuaded it would be too downbeat and dramatic.

Gareth and Matthew are everything that's good in Four Weddings. I honestly believe that without them (and KST - who is epic in it) it would have been long-forgotten.

@The80sweregreat Muriels Wedding is beyond brilliant. I rewatched it a few weeks ago and had forgotten the sheer brilliance - Bryce's despair when Mariel walked down the aisle, Tanya's face when she screamed "I'm married, I'm beautiful", Nicole's black-eye eyebrow raise on Hibiscus Island when Tanya looked at her across the table, I am truly never going to love another film that much!

The line I keep remembering is the theory of why couples get married - they’ve run out of things to talk about. Can’t remember who delivers it?

"Horrible human beings "........" treat partners appallingly " - it is a rom com after all, not a serious drama. It's meant to be fun, and most of it is. Taking it too seriously is a bit pointless.

Oh now Muriel’s Wedding is on another level. I never tire of it. 😄

"Horrible human beings "........" treat partners appallingly " - it is a rom com after all, not a serious drama. It's meant to be fun, and most of it is. Taking it too seriously is a bit pointless.

But if you can't sympathise with either of the romantic leads, it doesn't really work on the rom level of the rom com, does it?

Presumably it was another cynical sop to the American market (in addition to having an American lead female) to have her so sexually confident and uninhibited, compared to the poor bumbling Brit, who as everybody across the pond knows, are sexually repressed 😂.

One of my favourite films ever but... the Scottish wedding was wrong on so many levels.

Love KST and her heartbreaking confession of love.
As ever on HG threads I love to throw in the fact that I used to work with his mother. One of the loveliest women ever and much posher than Hugh.

I didn't really understand the Hugh Grant love in the 1990s at all even though it seemed he was in everything! However, over the years his turned into my one of favorite actors ( great in The Gentlemen and Paddington 2 more recently)
'( About a boy ' is another one of my favs even though I came to the party very late with that film! )

@Marlboroughdreams

It has been years since I watched it, and I've just seen a comment on one of the YouTube clips about Duckface (what is her name?!) marrying the Grenadier Guardsman, as if there was a particular one I should remember. I always thought he was a random chap not covered in the film till the photos of her wedding?

I thought at the end Duckface was pictured with a cardboard Prince Charles and I assumed from that, that she never married. But it has been years since I watched the film so could have completely made that up!

The floristry needs a mention, there is even a book on the films flowers and how to make some of the arrangements. I have been involved with making church arrangements for years, absolutely beautiful in the film an the hours taken must have been vast.

@HesterLee it is Fiona (KST) who is pictured by Prince Charles.

This is Duckface.

Who I think looks amazing, and far less smug than my memory recalls - it has been over a decade though...

I remember watching it when it was first released at a time when I was a v similar age to the characters and had a big circle of friends like that. I bloody loved all of them, including Andie McDowell.

I thought she was stylish and confident and knew her own mind etc. And she just didn’t realise Hugh was “the one” until the end. When she said that “is it raining, I hadn’t noticed” line I never even clocked how crass it was until my friend sitting next to me in the cinema loudly did a “vom” noise and stuck her fingers down her throat.

I can rewatch it endlessly. Was once the only person awake on a plane back from New Zealand where it was on. I never sleep on planes. The cabin crew kept coming back to see me and bring me cups of tea as I watched it happy as anything.

Marlboroughdreams ah yes, of course! I've mixed up their endings.

The only way to hear the "is it raining" line and not vom, is if you assume she's being sarcastic. But her voice lacks any tone.

As the amazing Muriel's wedding has had a mention, can I sneak in Strictly Ballroom? Love conquers the dancefloor all and all that jazz.

@frugalkitty

As the amazing Muriel's wedding has had a mention, can I sneak in Strictly Ballroom? Love conquers the dancefloor all and all that jazz.

Oh dear lord I'd almost forgotten this film, it's the same guy who made Muriel's Wedding, isn't it?

Doug's little solo dance about the studio, Fran's Dad when he teaches Scott, Doug's clap at the end, so much loveliness!

RC always has a Bernard in his films. Isn't that because a GF of his at uni left him for a Bernard (who subsequently became a vicar or something). Therefore he always casts a fairly unlikable Bernard character in each of his films although the FWAAF Bernard is more silly than unlikable

and Muriel's Wedding is SO underrated!

@cheekaa

FreeButtonBee In Andie McDowells defence I once got a flight from Heathrow to NYC and she was on the same flight. Despite turning left she was the very model of grace and manners when queuing and waiting to board. So I’ve always had a soft spot for her since (still agree she was the least interesting thing about that film and the gay couple and Duckface the absolute core and heart) That’s nice to hear! I always like hearing about positive celebrity experiences since there’s so many bad ones.

Well let me than tell you that Hugh Grant in real life is an absolute gentleman.

One of my favourite rumours about Hugh Grant (although apparently it isn't true) is that he was banned from all St Andrews University property after he kept turning up on girls' beds during the golf tournament up there.

(I think it's the ban that's untrue, I'm pretty sure the second part is!)

I didn't get that Scarlett was Charles's sister. I thought they were flatmates. The deaf guy (name escapes me) was his brother.

She was in How Do You Want Me? with Dylan Moran. Good series but very underrated. That other actress that died was in it too...the one who was in the Vicer of Dibley and was Hugh Grants sister in Notting Hill.

Charlotte Coleman died of an asthma attack. She'd struggled with anorexia as well. Her sister's an actress too....played Jude in Casualty years back.

Ps Muriel's wedding is a fantastic film, one of my favourites

Muriels wedding- when her mum turns up at the wedding and is totally forgotten down the back and her face with the excitement and then disappointment. Truly one of the most heartbreaking scenes ever.

If we are talking about fabulous Austraoian films, how about The Castle. 'How's the serenity?'

That film genuinely taught me alot about the joy of being truly content with what you have.