I’m watching Four Weddings and a Funeral for the first time

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I know it’s a classic but somehow I’ve never watched it.
So I’m about an hour in and I just wanna get this straight ..

Carrie meets Charles. They sleep together. Charles finds out she’s in fact engaged and meets her fiancé. They sleep together again. And then she takes him with her to pick out a wedding dress .. that’s as far as I’m up to

What is happening here I thought these two were one of the most iconic and popular couples in romcom history I had no idea this is how the relationship started 😂😂

I was in my early 30's in London when this came out and it was SO true to the latter day yuppie set - never went to a funeral (then) but the weddings...including one in a castle.

In Andie McDowells defence I once got a flight from Heathrow to NYC and she was on the same flight. Despite turning left she was the very model of grace and manners when queuing and waiting to board. So I’ve always had a soft spot for her since (still agree she was the least interesting thing about that film and the gay couple and Duckface the absolute core and heart)

I’ve always wondered, you know the drunk man in the Boatman pub after the first wedding. Talking about the groom’s brother I think, he says he buggered him senseless at school. Did he mean beat him up? Or literally buggered him?

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I have never heard bad things about Andie Mcdowell as a person
and the fact that she keeps getting cast supports that
but she does take wooden to a whole new level

It’s so if it’s time. I love it

"Fuck fuck FUUUUUCK!!!!!!"

The scene where they're late for a wedding and miss the motorway exit, love it

@Meganplays

I’ve always wondered, you know the drunk man in the Boatman pub after the first wedding. Talking about the groom’s brother I think, he says he buggered him senseless at school. Did he mean beat him up? Or literally buggered him?

I always assumed literally buggered. It was public school, after all...

Like every single Richard Curtis film, it's just flimsy and frothy. I have fond memories of going to see it in mt ealry 20s, before becoming jaded by all the inferior copies and awful Richard Curtis films that followed like the nauseating Love, Actually.

Pretty much every wedding we went to in the 90s, including our own, was a bit like those in the film.

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In Andie McDowells defence I once got a flight from Heathrow to NYC and she was on the same flight. Despite turning left she was the very model of grace and manners when queuing and waiting to board. So I’ve always had a soft spot for her since (still agree she was the least interesting thing about that film and the gay couple and Duckface the absolute core and heart)

That’s nice to hear! I always like hearing about positive celebrity experiences since there’s so many bad ones.

I can't watch it because of the comedy 'buggered me senseless' at school line.

Same thing was perpetrated on me by a similarly aged child.

I didn't find it funny (and it happened around the time this film was released).

Fucked up in the extreme. Ha de ha child rape. Fuck off Richard Curtis you oddment.

I am re-watching. There are some good lines, but most of the writing is really clumsy. Sorry.

And Andi McDowell is so wooden!

This film is like an infuriating but much-loved family member- I could tell you twenty reasons why it's an awful film, but I love it, and still watch it from time to time if I need a pick-me-up. I was 18 when it came out, and it hugely influenced my expectations of relationships (years waiting for "Thunderbolt City"). Kristin Scott Thomas is the best actor in it- the moment when she tells Charles she has loved him all along and her face shows her utter vulnerability for the first time- what a moment. The deaf brother is the hottest one in it, but gets the absolute drippiest girl in her Laura Ashley dresses (one plot hole is that this is allegedly a bunch of friends who have known each other for years; but even though one is deaf none of the friends have bothered to learn any sign language whatsoever. When he talks, his brother Charles has to interpret for him. What a shit bunch of friends they are!

Literally buggered him, I imagine, @Meganplays — part of the trad public-school experience, along with fagging and the Eton Wall Game.

I think FWAAF is head and shoulders above other Richard Curtis films, particularly the ghastly Notting Hill and Love Actually — mostly because of its take on various social degrees at weddings (rank them — poshest to least posh!) and the collective cast, down to the wondrous Nicola Walker as one of the drippy folk singers at the first wedding. Kristin Scott Thomas and Anna Chancellor in particular are brilliant, and David Haig and Sophie Thompson. I seem to alone in not liking Simon Callow’s tiresome Gareth, but I also don’t mind Andie McDowell in general in this, and I don’t mind the Carrie character. I like that she’s sexually independent, always leaving and clearly only mildly into Charles until pretty late on. She’s certainly a nicer take on the ‘glamorous American breaking a shy English heart’ than Julia Roberts’ version in Notting Hill.

And I like that she goes wedding dress shopping with a random man she’s slept with a couple of times, and he declares his love to her while she’s wearing a frankly nasty check overshirt, chinos and umbrella combo.

(And of course Scarlett isn’t Charles’ sister — he’s upper-middle-class in every pore, and she’s all chirpy and Cockney.)

I love this film...fuck, fuck, fuck...and that is probably because I saw it when it first came out.

The "buggered me senseless " line is crass and foul. Much as I like this film, that always spoils it for me.

It's not the best. And the fact that someone called Duckface is the character I relate to the most says a lot

The only reason why I love it is because of the weddings not because of the characters. In the same way the threads on memorable weddings are popular on mn

Who was supposed to play the Andie McD character instead?

I loved Andie McD in Sex Lies & Videotape. She was fine in Groundhog Day. But deeply loathed her in 4W&AF which (other than the C&C story) has many merits. So confusing.

omg, there's an American version as TV miniseries.

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omg, there's an American version as TV miniseries.

Was just about to post that. Watched a trailer - not impressed really!

It has been years since I watched it, and I've just seen a comment on one of the YouTube clips about Duckface (what is her name?!) marrying the Grenadier Guardsman, as if there was a particular one I should remember. I always thought he was a random chap not covered in the film till the photos of her wedding?

there's always one of these in Richard Curtis movies. Slightly manic pixie dream girl vibes but usually a sister or something completely off-limits sexually.

Racking my brain who plays this character in Love Actually????

I loved Charlotte Coleman

Here is AMcD trying to pretend to that everyone loved the movie including the awful last line at the time. I assure you honey, I hated that line & most every moment you were on screen right there in the moment & was very confused by anyone who didn't. I walked out of that cinema profoundly disappointed.

@GinWithASplashOfTonic

there's always one of these in Richard Curtis movies. Slightly manic pixie dream girl vibes but usually a sister or something completely off-limits sexually.

Racking my brain who plays this character in Love Actually????

Only one I can think of is the blonde welsh girl perhaps ?? Can’t think of her name

I do love this film even tho he ends up with Wooden Woman instead of the gorgeous Kristin Scott Thomas.

No Scarlett is not his sister, that's Notting Hill. Wiki is getting muddled.

Hugh Grant learned sign language to talk to his brother in the film (the actor is actually deaf as I am sure you all know)