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I’m watching Four Weddings and a Funeral for the first time

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Change17 · 14/08/2020 21:05

I know it’s a classic but somehow I’ve never watched it.
So I’m about an hour in and I just wanna get this straight ..

Carrie meets Charles. They sleep together. Charles finds out she’s in fact engaged and meets her fiancé. They sleep together again. And then she takes him with her to pick out a wedding dress .. that’s as far as I’m up to

What is happening here Confused I thought these two were one of the most iconic and popular couples in romcom history I had no idea this is how the relationship started 😂😂

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keiratwiceknightly · 15/08/2020 08:39

I love this film. It came out about 6 weeks before our wedding (was our 25th anniversary last week!) and ours was so like the first one in the film. Big meringue - tick. Bridesmaids in Laura Ashley prints - tick. Country church - tick. We even had an American guest in a great hat, though I don't believe she shagged any of our male guests...

It encapsulated a time period and also a moment in everyone's lives. And so optimistic.

Our wedding video has the song Love Is All Around playing in the background, not because we especially liked the song, but just because it was so ubiquitous that summer.

SwedishEdith · 15/08/2020 08:41

Yes, I spotted Amber Rudd in the credits and meant to look that up.

crosser62 · 15/08/2020 08:45

For me, it’s the funeral that is iconic.
Having never ever heard that poem before in my life, it took my breath away.

bumblingbovine49 · 15/08/2020 08:48

@Meganplays

She certainly isn’t a typical female lead, but I liked her for it. She was independent, sexually confident and free. Unapologetic for her behaviour.
This
MandalaYogaTapestry · 15/08/2020 09:00

Change17 Imagine You and Me is about a straight married woman falling head over heels in love with another woman. It's a totally different theme for a movie.

Hepcat75 · 15/08/2020 09:03

Blimey. All the revisionist history in the world won't make me see her as anything but a charmless negging cocktease. I think the worst bit was the father and son tag team. Utter boke.

PiataMaiNei · 15/08/2020 09:03

@nannytothequeen

Charles and Carrie are the least interesting thing about Four Weddings. Everybody else , even the minor characters, are what makes this film tick. It's like a series of vignettes, with some wonderful lines and dialogue. I remember seeing it in a packed cinema on the cusp of that time in your life when it seems that every weekend is a wedding where you run into the same people over and over. For me, it makes it very nostalgic and the detail is still wonderful. Carrie is awful though - especially the speech she gives at her own wedding. Basically mocking Charles.
Definitely! Carrie and Charles are some of the most marginal romantic leads you'd ever see in a film. So little of it is really about their relationship.
Foxinthechickencoop · 15/08/2020 09:05

Kristin Scott Thomas is amazing in this film.

Has anyone seen a film called ‘Keeping Mum’ that she is the lead in? She is married to Rowan Atkinson who is a vicar, and Patrick Swayze pops up as a love interest and Maggie Smith plays the other lead. It’s really very good and very funny, but never met anyone who has watched it.

BlueSwathesChoose · 15/08/2020 09:07

I saw it Fox/ It was really good! i am ausprised it is not better known.

I also watched her in a french film that was devastating. It was about a mother who killed her child. I had not long had my first child and had to leave the cinema because it affected me so much.

PiataMaiNei · 15/08/2020 09:09

I'd forgotten how much I loved KST until she rocked up in Fleabag.

ThreeImaginaryBoys · 15/08/2020 09:12

@Trashtara @ElizabethMainwaring Huge fan of Charlotte Coleman here too. I was told shortly after her death (by a fellow actor) that she died of a drug overdose but it was covered up and cited as asthma. I hope that isn't true.

TreesoftheField · 15/08/2020 09:19

Emma Chambers played the sister in Notting hill. Better known as Alice from Vicar of Dibley. Sadly she has passed away at a young age too.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 15/08/2020 09:20

I loved it at the time, except for Andie

McDowell - irritating
smile with too many teeth!! - and couldn’t help thinking of the STDs she’d have picked up.

Having said that, IMO Hugh Grant was rather better cast as an
arsehole in Bridget Jones.

keiratwiceknightly · 15/08/2020 09:21

KST is about to be Mrs Danvers in a remake of Rebecca. I'm not sure about the rest of the cast, bit light weight I think, but she will be AMAZING.

Bouncycastle12 · 15/08/2020 09:24

But is it a film about friendship? It never made any sense. How on earth would that group of people become friends ever? There’s no common theme, nothing that would actually have brought them together. They’re just a selection of “characters” shoved into a film, rather than any believable group of friends. Why would Gareth ever have actually been friends with Scarlett? It’s just not plausible.

Babdoc · 15/08/2020 09:24

Foxinthechickencoop, yes, I’ve seen Keeping Mum twice - it’s hilarious and brilliant! And much better than 4 weddings. I’ve never much liked Curtis’ films - Love Actually was horrible. The supposedly devastated widower who was in love again 10 days later, the wee boy who was unbothered about his mother’s death and more interested in pursuing a girl at school, the creepy stalker, the superficial obsession with looks.
The only decent or believable character in it was Emma Thomson’s cheated on wife.

4 weddings was marginally interesting as a look at English middle class hang ups and marriage cliches, but not exactly a barrel of laughs. And the funeral was laid on with a trowel.It hasn’t aged well.

notheragain4 · 15/08/2020 09:26

@Foxinthechickencoop yes! No one mentions Keeping a Mum but I LOVE that film. Haven't seen for years, going to try to find a copy this weekend now.

notheragain4 · 15/08/2020 09:27

Although seeing Patrick swayze makes me really sad ☹️

NellieTeehan · 15/08/2020 09:28

People are being weirdly vicious and puritanical about the 33 lovers of a fictitious film character... Hmm

GinisLife · 15/08/2020 09:28

Reading this thread has made me realise that I'm perhaps a bit shallow because I've watched all these films and taken them at face value - as nice, funny, fluffy films that I enjoyed. Never gave a thought to the deeper meanings and themes - but I did always think Andi M was miscast

Silvercatowner · 15/08/2020 09:28

I remember Anna Chancellor saying on This Morning that the nickname was originally ‘Fuck Face’ live on air!

I remember that! The other presenter was so embarassed and apologised profusely to the viewers!

HandsOffMyRights · 15/08/2020 09:32

@FagashJackie

KST is in my opinion one of the best actors of my generation.
I love her!
onemouseplace · 15/08/2020 09:34

Kristen Scott Thomas is probably my favourite actor of that era - I loved her so much in The English Patient.

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Change17 · 15/08/2020 09:39

@NellieTeehan

People are being weirdly vicious and puritanical about the 33 lovers of a fictitious film character... Hmm
Are they? I’m usually the first to jump in and defend any woman, fictional or not who is being slut-shamed but I haven’t found that to be the case on this thread. I haven’t actually seen anyone mention the amount of men she had slept with
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