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Neighbour screamed "call the police" and I did nothing

141 replies

cobrapose · 07/08/2020 20:53

I'm staying with my mum for a few days and my mum's neighbours son came home screaming, shouting and name calling his mother. I heard things being thrown and then she shouted "call the police". I was calling 999 then my mother asked me to stop. She told me not to get involved. I've just argued with her about ignoring this situation as her neighbour could end up dead one day.

I want to send a note in her letter box to tell her to call womens aid because her son is abusive.

I feel so awful for doing nothing.

They've stopped arguing now, but I feel like I should still do something to help.

I'm actually in shock. My neigbours don't do this.

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Namechangearoo · 07/08/2020 21:46

I can’t believe you did nothing. (But then apparently did... but it might have been another neighbour Hmm). You should feel shit; I hope it makes to act differently in future.

WorraLiberty · 07/08/2020 21:46

@TheBouquets

It is all very well to call the police but if they don't actually do anything other than make the son sit on the curb outside the house they are not achieving much.
Well they could possibly have stopped her getting her head caved in...
TheMotherofAllDilemmas · 07/08/2020 21:48

... and for the record, very few abused women have not heard of WOmensAid, dropping a note through the door with such a beginners recommendation is likely to serve no purpose or irritate the aggressor putting her in further danger ( they rarely pick up the phone unless you are prepared to wait for hours, and even so the advice is likely to be... “call the police”, which is exactly what the neighbour asked you to do)

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 07/08/2020 21:51

Some of you posting really are arseholes.
Well done OP you did the right thing.

I don't think it's the posters who are the arseholes in this situation. This thread is a bit suspicious anyway.

JulesCobb · 07/08/2020 21:51

This is why women are told to shout fire instead. Shame on all those who said stay out of it when a woman is being abused. Shame on you all.

ChibiTotoro · 07/08/2020 21:52

Well the police will never be able to do anything unless they actually know about it.
As someone who has stood in a town centre with my DC in pushchair whilst a man screamed inches away from my face that he would shut my mouth for me, whilst a crowd of onlookers just gawped and did nothing it makes you feel scared and terrible.
Phoning the police doesn't mean you are involved unless you want to be, you just decline to give your details.

Illuyanka · 07/08/2020 21:52

Even if the person denies the son attacked her when the police arrived, at least they would stop the situation escalating. You never know, next time it maybe too late.

WorraLiberty · 07/08/2020 21:53

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion

*Some of you posting really are arseholes. Well done OP you did the right thing.*

I don't think it's the posters who are the arseholes in this situation. This thread is a bit suspicious anyway.

How is doing nothing the right thing, when a woman is screaming for police assistance, while a 30 year old man is screaming and shouting at her and objects are being thrown?
Thisismytimetoshine · 07/08/2020 21:53

@cobrapose

The police are outside
What an amazingly fast response. Wow.
Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 07/08/2020 21:56

I wasn't the one calling people arseholes. That was someone else.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 07/08/2020 21:57

@WorraLiberty

romeolovedjulliet · 07/08/2020 21:59

if it's bothering some peeps on here have they reported it rather than being [sceptical]

whereistherum · 07/08/2020 22:00

don't mind me just looking for a pair (maybe more) of socks.

Original poster
cobrapose · 07/08/2020 22:03

I've told MN that I posted in a panic and want the thread removed.

Really shit that nobody can post something without being accused of lying.

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WorraLiberty · 07/08/2020 22:04

Iminaglasscaseofemotion sorry, you're right. My post was aimed at the person who thought the OP did the 'right thing' Thanks

queenofknives · 07/08/2020 22:06

Fucking hell. I feel sorry for any abused woman living near to some of you lot. The situation could not have been clearer. Jesus, the poor woman. If someone asks you to call the police, call the police. You don't have to be a hero. Just be a decent human being.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 07/08/2020 22:07

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Passmethecrisps · 07/08/2020 22:08

Surely the number of people telling OP that she should mind her own business are evidence enough of the mindset which exists that let to her delay.

I remember hearing neighbours above us having a hideous fight. The screaming will never leave me. I called the police. They arrived extremely quickly and with some ferocity it has to be said. When we discussed the situation with our other neighbours their exact reply was “we presumed you would deal with it so we kept out of it”. We were henceforward targeted for petty anti-social behaviour. Litter and left over pizza left on our door (not to eat obvs!), other food rubbed into he door. Boggies and blood wiped next to the door. Music played very loudly etc. We didn’t have kids then and I was fearless. At the same time the cowardly little prick didn’t actually make threats - just make a fanny of himself. Nowadays I am not sure how courageous I would be

WorraLiberty · 07/08/2020 22:09

I can't comment on whether the story is BS or not but the replies saying 'Do nothing' are fucking depressing.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 07/08/2020 22:09

if it's bothering some peeps on here have they reported it rather than being [sceptical]

No, I like to see how these things pan out.

Whattodo1610 · 07/08/2020 22:11

So OP wants her thread removed Hmm

Very clearly a bullshit thread as lots suspected anyway.

LovingLola · 07/08/2020 22:14

I can't comment on whether the story is BS or not but the replies saying 'Do nothing' are fucking depressing.

Yes. No wonder so many women end up suffering years of abuse. The culture of ‘keep out of it’ is thriving.

Thisismytimetoshine · 07/08/2020 22:15

Why do you want the thread deleted, op?

Original poster
cobrapose · 07/08/2020 22:15

What a joke. I should know not to vent online, especially when something worrying happens.

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cobrapose · 07/08/2020 22:16

People are accusing me of lying. Seriously, fuck this site

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