How are you feeling about another lockdown?

[RosieLemonade]

I’m feeling frustrated and sad for people who work in industries which are just starting again and anxious about my DD not being able to attends school as her grandparents can’t pick her up.

The problem is that we are not getting enough information. Instead, we are told there has been a rise in infections, but not how many. For example, a rise of 50 percent is not many, if your starting base is 10!
How many of the new infections are asymptomatic, how many are mild, how many require hospitalisation?
Are the deaths due to recent infections or those who have been sick for a while?
How old were the people who died, and did they have any other comorbidities?

I’d love there to be another full lockdown as I really enjoyed the last one (80% pay for sitting around watching movies/reading/playing games/family time? Absolutely!) but I very much doubt it’ll happen.

No, please no. I can't bear the thought of another lockdown, that'll be my mental health absolutely screwed.

@heartsonacake I’m sure the people who are left destitute, the ones who now have mental health issues and the ones who are stuck in domestic abuses situations are pleased you enjoyed it. Have my first ever

[quote RosieLemonade]@heartsonacake I’m sure the people who are left destitute, the ones who now have mental health issues and the ones who are stuck in domestic abuses situations are pleased you enjoyed it. Have my first ever [/quote]
So you’re saying because other people had a bad time of it I should have been miserable too?

You literally asked the question ”How are you feeling about another lockdown?” You should have made it clear if you only wanted answers from those who found it awful.

[quote RosieLemonade]@heartsonacake I’m sure the people who are left destitute, the ones who now have mental health issues and the ones who are stuck in domestic abuses situations are pleased you enjoyed it. Have my first ever [/quote]
A few people I know have enjoyed it. They ended up with more money as they were not out spending or incurring travel costs. There husband was home to help them with the kids and they did DIY work that needed doing. Also another one of my friends has discovered she can completely work from home so her boss has agreed to let her do it permanently. These are the people that are in no rush to get back to ‘normality’, the ‘I’m alright jack’ crew.

Meanwhile lists of families are getting heavily in to debt as 80% capped isn’t enough to live off because their normal wage was much higher. My friends businesses are being strangled by regulations and they will probably have to close the doors before xmas.

You will always have people that flourish when every one else’s life is falling to shit.

I have to say financially we have done very well. My husband had his 80% furlough and I WFH so was on full wage. We didnt have any childcare to pay so that was 600 a month that we suddenly didnt have to pay. Obviously we didnt eat out or go for days out so that helped money wise. Also, DD has spent a lot more time with DH which has never happened and their relationship has grown. I also suffered with morning sickness, really awful sickness, for the first 10 weeks of lockdown so having DH around was invaluable. Family wise, mine live abroad, so I am used to not seekng them for 2 months. Admittedly, I still havent seen them, so that's a big downside.

I hated lockdown in so many ways as I am a very social person, but if i didnt have a screaming toddler and morning sickness i would have enjoyed lockdown much more. I 100% get people who didnt hate it. I have many friends who dont have kids who have found it relatively ok. Not everyone is going to be miserable. I dont begrudge that (although I am slightly jealous of everyone who got to spend their evenings drinking prosecco)

the ‘I’m alright jack’ crew.

Ohfredcomeon It’s nothing to do with “I’m alright Jack” Like everyone else, I didn’t get a choice about lockdown or being furloughed, so me enjoying it doesn’t affect anyone else.

Using the argument that others had an awful time so therefore nobody else should be allowed to have had a good time is just silly. And me saying I wouldn’t mind another one doesn’t magically make another one happen either, so again, nobody else is affected.

I hope it kicks in before I have to see my MIL which we have planned in 3 weeks

I think there will be some new restrictions as the government is desperate for schools to re-open.

@heartsonacake

the ‘I’m alright jack’ crew.

Ohfredcomeon It’s nothing to do with “I’m alright Jack” Like everyone else, I didn’t get a choice about lockdown or being furloughed, so me enjoying it doesn’t affect anyone else.

Using the argument that others had an awful time so therefore nobody else should be allowed to have had a good time is just silly. And me saying I wouldn’t mind another one doesn’t magically make another one happen either, so again, nobody else is affected.

Maybe you should try and dig a little bit deep and scrap up some empathy for other people that not in so much of a great position

We’ve been predicted that we’re going to go in a depression with two million job loses. Your job might be one of them..

And maybe you should be happy that not everyone feels as bitter and miserable as you do. The thread is "how do you feel" not "you shouldn't feel happier than the least happy person or you're a horrible person"

Maybe you should try and dig a little bit deep and scrap up some empathy for other people that not in so much of a great position

What makes you think I don’t have empathy? I enjoyed lockdown but that doesn’t mean I can’t feel sorry for those who didn’t.

We’ve been predicted that we’re going to go in a depression with two million job loses. Your job might be one of them..

It won’t be; I’m lucky. The business I work in is booming.

I've just got to the point of hoping that whatever happens it's the same at DC's school and my work, whatever the government say is happening is changing all the time. I want the DCs to have education but I also don't want their health compromised and it's always less good in September-January in a normal year.

Not great. I'm in an area that's currently on localised lockdown. Which is meaningless as pubs and restaurants etc are still open.
What it does mean is that I can't visit my family (again) or my Dad who is in a care home.
And here's the ridiculous bit - I could go on holiday to the town where my family live, spend all day every day in their pubs and restaurants but not go and sit in their garden. WTF

[quote Notredamn ]I've done nothing to go against 'the rules' but it doesn't mean I'm not tired of it. I want my life back I'm almost at the 'fuck you' point! My children are being robbed of everything! [/quote]
I totally get how you’re feeling but I think some perspective is desperately needed. Our children are safe in their homes, with all the comforts those bring - toys, tv, internet, games etc - and the ability to go outside and play. We still have a lot, a lot more than others in the world have.

It’s really, really hard and do understand where you’re at mentally, and I would dread another lockdown - I have three young children, I lost my job during the first lockdown (have fortunately found another) and my husband has seen his business lose about 2/3 of normal income. It’s been stressful with home schooling our children and I’m completely the same with having had enough. But being robbed of everything would be akin to losing their homes, their families etc. We still have a lot and it’s unlikely to help to lose perspective.

@heartsonacake

I’d love there to be another full lockdown as I really enjoyed the last one (80% pay for sitting around watching movies/reading/playing games/family time? Absolutely!) but I very much doubt it’ll happen.

That does indeed sound lovely.

DH worked 14 hours a day throughout lockdown. I was trying to homeschool a 6 and a 5 year old while looking after an 18 month old and trying (and failing) to keep my own business afloat as I wasn’t eligible for any government assistance.
I suppose the only good thing about another lockdown will be that I won’t be trying to keep my business afloat anymore, as all my clients took their business to someone who wasn’t trying to homeschool and look after a toddler at the same time. Yay.
My toddler got neglected while I was trying to homeschool... he lost a lot of the language he’d got, and he’s just starting to get it back. He was also extremely sociable and confident before lockdown, now he screams if my mum (lives alone so in our bubble) comes in the house. He’s petrified of other people after seeing no one for 3 months.
6 and 5 year olds are ok as they have each other, but have lost their ‘spark’.
We won’t survive another lockdown.

I think the time has come to weigh up personal risk rather than rely on the government advice. I am in my 50s, no health issues, fit etc. I wash hands a lot, don't wear a mask (don't go to shops or use public transport), keep my distance. I live in a flat, no outside space, so enjoy daily walking. Go further afield at weekends, country walking etc. I work from home. There is no way I am shielding myself.

As an introvert, I loved the lockdown. It was hard having the kids home whilst both trying to work FT but we made it work, some school work suffered but hopefully they'll catch up.
I'm now getting utterly ground down by it, being just inside the border of the new Gtr Mcr restrictions has sent me over the edge. The DCs have really been looking forward to spending some quality time with their GPs over the summer as we always do but that's now gone.
I'm also of the mind to carry on regardless having abided all the rules up until now.

Drivingdownthe101 I’m sorry you had it so tough. Everyone’s circumstances are different; some will have had an awful time like you did and some will have had a great time like I did. Others will have been indifferent to it.

But regardless of how anyone felt about it, that won’t affect whether or not the government decides to order another full lockdown. I do think it’s unlikely, though.

I think if they try to impose another lockdown, it's going to get very messy very quickly.

Depressed

I decided not to make any changes when they decreased restrictions, I'm in my 3rd trimester and asthmatic so decided to stick to just going out for walks and appointments for now so it wouldn't change anything for me in that sense.

I'm not particularly hopeful of having DH there if I have to be induced or admitted to the ward after birth as much as I would have hoped originally. So selfishly I'd prefer there wasn't another lockdown which meant hospital restrictions got worse again so I don't feel so alone if I can't quickly get discharged from the hospital, I know the midwives would do their best but it's not the same as having babies dad there to help.