Has anyone ever moved to an area they just didn't like?

[FullofSurprises]

Just that really...
Have you ever moved to an area where you disliked? And why?

I moved to an area in the Midlands and I put my DD in the local school here. Ever since moving here it's been horrible. I've been shouted at by another parent on the playground. Had stroppy neighbours that won't let me cut my own apple tree in my garden. And basically the entire village is cliquey and horrible and I wished I'd never moved here.
Anyone else? Please tell me I'm not on my own.

[DisgraceToTheYChromosome]

Wisbech is the shittest part of the Fens, and it's got some serious competition. We lived in Peterborough because it was convenient for our jobs, at least that had a middle class. When we had the opportunity to move to the NE we leaped at it. It's great here, even if my hearing struggles with the vowels.

[RedRec]

@CheesecakeAddict Surrey to West Yorkshire here and I hate it too. I would just say don't leave it too long before moving back. I have been in this bleak shithole for nearly seven years now (circumstances) and although I hate it my teenagers love it. Moving away seems to get further from my grasp with each passing year. But I will do it eventually.

[Hardbackwriter]

I remember at a baby group someone asked me where I went to school (I think fairly clearly in a 'why don't I know you?' way), I said that I wasn't from here and then no one spoke to me again! I had also been stared at when I arrived, I think for wearing a baby sling rather than having a pram but who knows. I think there was some quite strong hostility to people who lived there but commuted into London (like, erm, me) presumably because we pushed up house prices.

[Immigrantsong]

@worrywartone if you re read my post, you will see I made reference to the diversity of Bradford, but lack of inclusivity.

Simply put, everyone sticks to their own little groups because of the lack of inclusivity and integration.

All the racism and abuse we have experienced was from white, British people though.

[GisAFag]

23 years on the edge of a crappy estate, stayed cos Parents (both now dead) and 1st DC now 24 was at secondary school now has a job. Waiting not patiently for them to leave home then bye bye manky place hello living by the sea. It will happen one day and the thought of leaving keeps me smiling

[FullofSurprises]

@LST I'm sorry you feel that way.

I'm originally from the Midlands, have been here for most of my life up until moving around with DH for work reasons, and that really opened my eyes up and now I'm back stuck here again...
There are parts of the Midlands that are actually really nice and pretty, but at the moment I'm stuck in a village that I hate. This thread wasn't meant to be a bashing towards Midlands at all.

[FullofSurprises]

@DerbyshireGirly Ilkeston?

[ExtremelyBoldSquirrels]

I think whether you like a place or not is hugely personal really. I loathed Milton Keynes. Really. It was like I’d moved to one of the circles of hell (one with roundabouts and nothing but chain shops and restaurants as far as the eye can see). And I found it completely unwelcoming. But loads of people that live there are totally evangelical about the place. They really bloody love living there. The only real positive I could ever find was that it has good transport links so it’s easy to leave.

I’ve lived where I do now for more than a decade. I guess it’s OK (the specific part I live in has much to recommend it, and we can afford a big house here). But, actually, I’d leave in a shot if I weren’t pretty much trapped here (my ex is also trapped here and probably wishes he could leave too). I try to be positive because I’m stuck here, but I don’t like it here and I don’t understand why people insist it’s such a great place to live. There are very limited job prospects (so I’m stuck in a job I loathe), locals are not as friendly as they imagine themselves to be (I have only ever managed to make any kind of friendship with other people who moved here as adults), I really dislike the local accent (this feeling has grown over time to the point that there’s a version of it that actually sets my teeth on edge) and so on. Moving elsewhere in the region would only be worse than where I am now. So I’m stuck here for many years to come.

But, these things are personal. Loads of people love it here and wouldn’t want to live anywhere else. They think it’s the greatest place on earth. So that’s great for them.

(I haven’t hated everywhere I’ve lived. I loved living in both Edinburgh, Bristol and Glasgow, even if the Glaswegian weather is shit).

[The80sweregreat]

Lived in a beautiful part of South Wales with dh's job for a few years and never felt comfortable living there. Not sure why really!

[Ingridla]

I moved to Birmingham when I got married and fucking hated it. Worst place I've ever been, and I've travelled the world. I'll never go back, left as soon as I divorced the ignorant twat.

His friends and family seemed proud of their racism.

Very interesting thread.

[SophieB100]

@FullofSurprises
Tell me people, where is lovely to live? I intend to buy a house in 3 years time, until then I need to grin and bare.

Norwich.
I love it. Great city, lots of good shops, cafe's bars. Lot's of great history and winding little lanes.
Close to lovely beaches (40 mins), Norfolk Broads, gorgeous countryside.
Best of both worlds.

[FullofSurprises]

@SophieB100 I've just rightmove'd Norwich and the houses look lovely! Thanks for the suggestion.

[FTMF30]

Some people on here are writing off an entire city or region because of the particular area they lived in. Seems a bit extreme.

[HenriettaSpoffer]

Midlands here.. hate it! Moved a decade ago from the south. Am now a shadow of my former self. @mayormaynot i could have written your post word for word! I only have 1016 days left until my youngest finishes school and then we are out of here and i will never set foot in this region again for the remainder of my life so help me god! I have never met such peculiar ,rude , narrow minded , unadventurous and unfriendly people in all my days.

[FrenchtoEnglish]

I moved from Paris to a village in rural France. They're all inbred numpties. I fucking hate it so much. I've tried my best. PTA, opened a shop, go to all their festivals, licked the mayor's arse, speak the langage fluently... but I have no friends here. They're a bunch of shitboxes. I'll always be "l'Anglaise".

[jessstan2]

[quote FullofSurprises]@SophieB100 I've just rightmove'd Norwich and the houses look lovely! Thanks for the suggestion. [/quote]
It is nice there (except for grotty bits which is the same everywhere). Norfolk is a beautiful county and a lot of it unspoiled. I'm selling a two bed two bath second floor flat with parking in a Norwich suburb, hoping someone snaps it up quickly as it isn't needed now (late husband worked up there). It's a lovely place, I wish I could afford to keep it in some ways but I can't and anyway cannot see me going up there now. We used to have a great time in Norfolk.

[OxenoftheSun]

Some people on here are writing off an entire city or region because of the particular area they lived in. Seems a bit extreme.

I'm not, I'm only writing off the village I lived in. But I think I was the first to note on this thread that the Midlands seems to come up an awful lot on threads about places people have hated living -- not just on this thread, but on another, not too long ago, which was dominated by tales of misery in the Midlands. It's a big region, admittedly, but no other region seems to be referenced with such frequency on this topic.

[Needmoresleep]

We have a new neighbour from Scotland. I suspect London is not really for her. We are friendly enough in a London sort of way, but she clearly would prefer her close family and old friends. To settle properly she probably needs to do things like join NCT groups and accept that her support network comes from outside the family. Between them I think her and her mum spent more time on trains during lockdown than we have in the past couple of years. (And as Londoners we use public transport when we can.) I feel for her. Nothing wrong with where we live. Its just not for her.

[Billyjoearmstrong]

@LST

I was reading through and saw someone call the midlands a shithole and I hate it. If people hear the area that they live in and more than likely are stuck living in, a shithole enough it becomes a mindset. Why does it matter if we fly tip, be antisocial, it's a shithole anyway. Its bullshit. That's why I commented because it isnt fair to hear. I am proud of where I live. It used to be the centre of the industrial revolution. Then the workers were all shat on and now snobs from down south think they can just call it a shithole like it means nothing to the people living there.

I’ve just seen this.

It was me that called it a shithole (well that phrase comes from my husband mainly). I’m sorry if I offended you @LST

‘Centre of the industrial revolution’ it sounds as though we live in the same place.

My husband was born here, we’re not London wankers who moved here and hate it. His family have lived here since the dawn of time (quite possibly). However, he moved to London at 20 and aside from short visits that was it for this area.

He had rose tinted glasses about his childhood and when we were priced out of London we decided to move near the in-laws.

He soon wished he hadn’t and realised that how you see things as a child and how you see things as an adult are poles apart.

We hate it. And it’s not something I can apologise for. I do agree with the people on this thread who have found this region to be bigoted, racist etc. I knew it was as my husbands family are like that. But living here has been a real eye opener. My teenager was beaten up for sounding ‘posh’ at college on his second day (west London accent, not posh).

It’s great that you love it here (like I said, assuming it’s the same area), but I don’t and it will never be my home.

[Singalonggong]

Another vote for the villages near Milton Keynes. MK is soulless as they come and the endless roundabouts are just odd. I had my first in a village near there and the neighbors couldn't have been less friendly. Parents all tutored their kids for the 11+ but no one would admit it. The secondary modern was bloody dire and rough. The fully grammar county leads to an unpleasant atmosphere in my opinion.

[Bumpsadaisie]

We moved out of London to Cambridge before we had children, thinking it would be the ideal place to have a family. We had both studied there and thought we knew what it was like. We were able to buy a nice terrace in the central area. We were very fortunate indeed and on paper it looked like a brilliant move.

But we were just never happy there. Don't know why really. We were quite lonely and we found the city busy and the surrounding area flat and monotonous.

When DD was a baby we moved up north to the sticks where I am from and where my parents are, and from the get go have both felt happy here. We have fewer opportunities and our kids are having probably a more ordinary life than they would have had in Cambridge, but we wouldn't change it. Miss some of the cultural opportunities though! But we see hills!

[Puffalicious]

Can I just say to anyone unhappy where they live, come to Scotland! We're very friendly, have the most beautiful scenery in the world, beaches you won't believe, cultured cities and we voted against Brexit in our hundreds of thousands. Houses are affordable (except Edinburgh!) there's successful industry and social life for everyone. If you come to Glasgow, check, I'll even show you around

[Puffalicious]

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[pepperycinnamon]

The Midlands is 11 thousand square miles so there are a lot of places to have an opinion on! Yorkshire is only 4500 square miles for comparison.

[Immigrantsong]

@Puffalicious

Can I just say to anyone unhappy where they live, come to Scotland! We're very friendly, have the most beautiful scenery in the world, beaches you won't believe, cultured cities and we voted against Brexit in our hundreds of thousands. Houses are affordable (except Edinburgh!) there's successful industry and social life for everyone. If you come to Glasgow, check, I'll even show you around

Thanks for this. It's actually something we have been seriously looking into as others have recommended Scotland too. We definitely can't keep living in Yorkshire and Bradford is really rough.