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Has anyone ever moved to an area they just didn't like?

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FullofSurprises · 29/07/2020 18:51

Just that really...
Have you ever moved to an area where you disliked? And why?

I moved to an area in the Midlands and I put my DD in the local school here. Ever since moving here it's been horrible. I've been shouted at by another parent on the playground. Had stroppy neighbours that won't let me cut my own apple tree in my garden. And basically the entire village is cliquey and horrible and I wished I'd never moved here.
Anyone else? Please tell me I'm not on my own.

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FullofSurprises · 29/07/2020 19:53

To be fair the area I'm in isn't a shithole at all, like @OxenoftheSun has just said, it's the polar opposite. But there are definitely parts of the Midlands that really are shit holes.

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KingOfDogShite · 29/07/2020 19:53

Yes I moved to the Black Country with DH as we couldn’t afford to buy where I’m from. I detested it when I was dating dh and really didn’t not want to move here at all, but 17 years on I love it and will never live anywhere else.

Tell your neighbour to fuck off :)

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StoneColdBitch · 29/07/2020 19:54

@OxenoftheSun I am not in Leics but am a couple of miles from the border! I have similarly found it absolutely impossible to make friends, no matter what I say and do.

When I was pregnant, I posted in the Facebook group of our nearest big town asking about childcare. I was deluged with messages saying I shouldn't have had a child if I wasn't going to stay at home. Confused

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LST · 29/07/2020 19:55

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FullofSurprises · 29/07/2020 19:55

@LST well you need to tell us where your shithole is now? Smile

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MamaLion1319 · 29/07/2020 19:56

Due to move to the midlands anytime now! Feel abit worried now! Hmm

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Hardbackwriter · 29/07/2020 19:56

We moved last month and I really didn't like where we lived by the time we left. It worked pretty well for us when we bought it as a young couple - close to the station and the town centre, just about affordable in an expensive commuter town, house itself was nice. But once we had DS the fact it was literally the centre of the town's drug trade started to bother me more, I tried to join some baby groups and was shunned for being 'posh' in a way I hadn't experienced since primary school and the whole place started to feel less and less safe (statistically it was actually true that crime was rising, but I think it was also one of those things that once I'd started noticing I couldn't stop). Moved to a lovely small town further out from London and I couldn't be happier we did - the whole place just feels so different and so much nicer.

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LST · 29/07/2020 19:59

For what end? So you can gauge how much of a shithole it is?

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FullofSurprises · 29/07/2020 20:01

See I'm quite a commoner and I suspect the village people here detect that, and everyone here drives nice cars and has big houses and I don't have either so I'm very much lower down on the scale of class.

@LST it wasn't actually me that called Midlands a shithole, I just agreed tbh, because it is. I'm just curious as to where it is you live that is the most deprived area? I know quite a few so I'm intrigued. I also don't understand why you clicked on the thread just to write that either.

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AgeLikeWine · 29/07/2020 20:02

I lived in Stoke for a while in the mid 90s. I moved there for work. I hated the place, it was an absolute dump with no redeeming features except the yummy oatcakes. The best thing which ever happened to Stoke was building the A50 through the middle of the place.

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DameXanaduBramble · 29/07/2020 20:04

LST, you getting all shitty with people isn't going to change their minds. Do you know how depressing it is to live somewhere you will never feel is your home?

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LST · 29/07/2020 20:05

I was reading through and saw someone call the midlands a shithole and I hate it. If people hear the area that they live in and more than likely are stuck living in, a shithole enough it becomes a mindset. Why does it matter if we fly tip, be antisocial, it's a shithole anyway. Its bullshit. That's why I commented because it isnt fair to hear. I am proud of where I live. It used to be the centre of the industrial revolution. Then the workers were all shat on and now snobs from down south think they can just call it a shithole like it means nothing to the people living there.

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Witchofzog · 29/07/2020 20:06

Midlands too. I hated it. Grey, not much greenery, aggressive n rude locals. I live in a much nicer shit hole now though. Quite a deprived area but just nicer all round

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StoneColdBitch · 29/07/2020 20:06

@AgeLikeWine Having previously lived near Stoke, I approve of the oatcakes! Loved them with sausage, as a weekend breakfast!

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LST · 29/07/2020 20:06

@Dame how is calling someone's home a shithole going to help them?

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Witchofzog · 29/07/2020 20:07

@LST

I was reading through and saw someone call the midlands a shithole and I hate it. If people hear the area that they live in and more than likely are stuck living in, a shithole enough it becomes a mindset. Why does it matter if we fly tip, be antisocial, it's a shithole anyway. Its bullshit. That's why I commented because it isnt fair to hear. I am proud of where I live. It used to be the centre of the industrial revolution. Then the workers were all shat on and now snobs from down south think they can just call it a shithole like it means nothing to the people living there.

Snobs from down south. Nice bit of reverse snobbery going on there
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LST · 29/07/2020 20:08

@witchofzog yup. If they're allowed then right back at them.

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DameXanaduBramble · 29/07/2020 20:08

@LST how is calling southerners snobs helpful? You’re as bad

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LST · 29/07/2020 20:09

@dame not all southerners. Just the ones that think they're ok with calling whole communities shitholes

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whichteaareyou · 29/07/2020 20:10

When I moved to London we lived in a horrible area called Layton. Was absolutely nothing to do and no one spoke English. Hated it

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thousandflowers · 29/07/2020 20:10

Manchester.

For some reason everyone seems to have a chip on their shoulder.

All the crap about “we do it differently here,” what does it even mean? It’s really cringey!

And it has to be said that drivers in Manchester are the worst of any city I’ve lived in - and I’ve lived in a few!

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DameXanaduBramble · 29/07/2020 20:10

I think you might be taking this way too personally, LST.

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LST · 29/07/2020 20:12

@dame when you have worked with people that have hit rock bottom and cannot see away out of the shit they're in, to then turn their life around (in these shitholes) you'd take it personally too.

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DameXanaduBramble · 29/07/2020 20:16

People on here are talking about moving to an area they’ve disliked. Of course they might refer to an area they hate as a ‘shithole’ - ces’t la vie. You live your life, they’ll live theirs. Good for you if you're happy where you are, people are allowed to feel as they do.

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GhostPenguin · 29/07/2020 20:18

I've recently moved out of the midlands and I really miss my old area. There's xenophobic and narrow minded people everywhere unfortunately, although I agree some areas seem to have more! I think sometimes you're just lucky to meet like minded people near you and it's hard not to compare when you move away.

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