Has anyone ever moved to an area they just didn't like?

[FullofSurprises]

Just that really...
Have you ever moved to an area where you disliked? And why?

I moved to an area in the Midlands and I put my DD in the local school here. Ever since moving here it's been horrible. I've been shouted at by another parent on the playground. Had stroppy neighbours that won't let me cut my own apple tree in my garden. And basically the entire village is cliquey and horrible and I wished I'd never moved here.
Anyone else? Please tell me I'm not on my own.

[Bargebill19]

Yes twice - Wales and lasted six months before we moved. Birmingham and lasted one week before we moved very very early one morning, more like ran away as fast as possible.
I work in Leicestershire- I checked the date on the newspaper one day as I couldn’t believe how racist some coworkers views are.

[yoikes]

stonecold

It's staggering isn't it? I'm back where I grew up (I know....) and although its been good in some ways family wise it's not been great for me really.

Some girls I went to school with were grandmothers by the time I had ds2 at 36.....they were picking up their gc when I was picking up ds2 from school...

I felt a bit odd one out :)

[OneMoreForExtra]

Bedford. 2 locations in the town and another in a village outside it, all with the same results of just downgrading all my expectations for meeting anyone I'd really enjoy spending time with or going anywhere locally I'd feel relaxed. I felt so out of place and lonely for so long it just became normal. I actually thought this might just be what being a grown-up was like. Then I moved about 20 miles away to a small Hertfordshire town and more or less instantly found friends and enjoyable places. I just didn't fit with Bedford.

[pepperycinnamon]

We visited Wakefield, Rotherham and Doncaster while we were there and I'm not sure if I missed the good bits.

You did. Those three towns don't have good bits

[yoikes]

I do know some nice people here tbf :)

I love North Yorkshire and Northumberland but have only experienced both on holidays

[Marpan]

Yes , we moved .

[PineappleSquosh]

I moved to London and was very unhappy because I couldn’t afford anything - even a pint was double the price - and I had to use public transport. So I moved further north to a city where pints are cheaper and there’s no congestion charge.

[Immigrantsong]

I hate where I live. I have been an immigrant in the UK for the last 21 years. All spent in Yorkshire, as people told me it's a friendly place. It is if you are white and English.

I moved quite a bit in Yorkshire, now in Bradford, but all places were not welcoming. The communities are really tight knit and don't welcome newcomers, let alone foreigners.

Bradford was the only place we could afford to buy a house. We have bought a beautiful house, but it's by a public footpath and the antisocial behaviour we get is beyond belief. Never expected that, as abroad people just pass by. Not here. I have even seen neighbours throwing rubbish whilst passing. And this is their neigbourhood, but hey fuck the public footpath.

We are completely isolated, never managed to integrate despite trying our hardest. We are not drinkers and everyone here drinks heavily. Youth walk with a hand down their pants and kids run feral. I loathe to say it, but Bradford is where dreams go to die. Yorkshire has not been God's own country for us. But maybe because we are not white and British. This seems to be a prerequisite here.

Have never experienced more racism and abuse either. Thanks for nothing Yorkshire.

[TiddyTid]

Yes, rural Suffolk to south Leeds. Needless to say I'm back in Suffolk.

[Lawdavmercy]

Oh my goodness @immigrantsong that is my experience in Gloucester. Hate hate hate the place coming from London. "Where dreams go to die"..do apt for here too sob

[Lawdavmercy]

*so apt...

[LoveMySituation]

Midlands too here! Tiny suburb of an equally tiny town that's one interesting thing about it is The Beatles once played here. Five years have gone by, I was pretty neutral at the start, but now I loathe it. The people and town are so strange, there is nothing to do except join one of the many choirs. There's no chance of moving anytime soon. But I know where I will go next

[jessstan2]

Immigrantsong, I am so sorry you've had that experience in Yorkshire. I've visited Yorkshire and often fancy going there for a holiday (Filey or somewhere like), it looks so beautiful; however I am white and English.

I must tell you that I live on the edge of SE London, just up the road - walking - from a village called Chislehurst which is in Bromley, London Borough, and if you lived here your experience would be totally different. It's charming, we have lovelygreen spaces, nice restaurants and nobody cares about ethnicity. You would just slot in. I wish I could fly you down here for an extended visit! There are also lots of interesting places not far away, Greenwich for example and of course central London which is within very easy reach. Then there is further out in Kent and the coast, such as Whitstable, only an hour away.

You've put me off Yorkshire :-).

[pepperycinnamon]

@jessstan2

Immigrantsong, I am so sorry you've had that experience in Yorkshire. I've visited Yorkshire and often fancy going there for a holiday (Filey or somewhere like), it looks so beautiful; however I am white and English.

I must tell you that I live on the edge of SE London, just up the road - walking - from a village called Chislehurst which is in Bromley, London Borough, and if you lived here your experience would be totally different. It's charming, we have lovelygreen spaces, nice restaurants and nobody cares about ethnicity. You would just slot in. I wish I could fly you down here for an extended visit! There are also lots of interesting places not far away, Greenwich for example and of course central London which is within very easy reach. Then there is further out in Kent and the coast, such as Whitstable, only an hour away.

You've put me off Yorkshire :-).

It also has some really cool caves

[garlictwist]

I don't dislike where I live. The neighbours out nice, I love my house and it's near town. But my god, the graffiti. It's everywhere. It really brings me down. It's even all over the trees in the woods.

[CheesecakeAddict]

I moved from London to West Yorkshire after being priced out after my divorce. I am struggling to find somewhere to live because I hate it so much. There's a lot of reverse snobbism and I found London much easier to make friends. I find it bleak, there's nothing to do and this obsession people have with price over quality means outside of Leeds and Manchester, there is a real lack of decent restaurants and bars. There are some lovely areas of Huddersfield and North Yorkshire, but I resent paying that much for a house when for a fraction more I can buy a house down south. I'm going to wait until DD is ready for secondary school and then the plan is to move to Surrey.

[jessstan2]

Yes, peppery. Hendrix played there! I was a teen then and mum wouldn't let me go.

[uniglowooljumper]

YES! Couldn't wait to move away. Finally did.

[mayormaynot]

Yes, I moved to the Midlands and really regret it. I'm in a truly beautiful part and I have adored the walking in lock down but four years on I have not met 'my tribe'. I've lived and worked in Hampshire/Surrey/London with no social problem at all but here I can not mix. Nobody invites you for drinks or dinner, nobody has parties. All my invitations have been left unreciprocated. I don't know if I'm too southern? I've given up now. I'm so lonely and can't leave for three years until my daughter finishes school. I used to spend my social time visiting London but now I can't even do that because of covid. I can't wait to get back to the south coast.

[pepperycinnamon]

Nobody here has social events either, at least not without other married couples who they have known since toddler group. If you are a blow in then you will never be really welcomed.

[WorryWartOne]

@Immigrantsong

I hate where I live. I have been an immigrant in the UK for the last 21 years. All spent in Yorkshire, as people told me it's a friendly place. It is if you are white and English.

I moved quite a bit in Yorkshire, now in Bradford, but all places were not welcoming. The communities are really tight knit and don't welcome newcomers, let alone foreigners.

Bradford was the only place we could afford to buy a house. We have bought a beautiful house, but it's by a public footpath and the antisocial behaviour we get is beyond belief. Never expected that, as abroad people just pass by. Not here. I have even seen neighbours throwing rubbish whilst passing. And this is their neigbourhood, but hey fuck the public footpath.

We are completely isolated, never managed to integrate despite trying our hardest. We are not drinkers and everyone here drinks heavily. Youth walk with a hand down their pants and kids run feral. I loathe to say it, but Bradford is where dreams go to die. Yorkshire has not been God's own country for us. But maybe because we are not white and British. This seems to be a prerequisite here.

Have never experienced more racism and abuse either. Thanks for nothing Yorkshire.

Sorry to hear you’ve had a bad experience. I’m surprised about the white British thing considering Bradford is one of the most diverse places in the UK. I’d have thought you’d be as welcome as the next non-white British person, of which there are almost 200,000.

[Reachfortheasteroid]

The thing is though not fitting in isn’t just about race/ethnicity it’s about values and attitudes. I’m out of step where I live as my background is the same but my education and career are quite different. That means I don’t have the background, money or shared cultural experiences of my peer work group and don’t fit in with where I live because my educational experiences, career and world view gives no common ground. There plenty of people to pass the time of day with but no one I connect with ( there have been a few hopefuls but scratch the surface and out come the batshit/racist/internalised misogyny/utter lack of ambition comments that in MN terms show you who they really are)

[lynsey91]

We moved to the East Midlands almost 3 years ago from London and love it here. We are on the Notts/Lincs border.

We have lived in quite a few different places in the UK. The worst were Wisbech and Gravesend. I hated both of them

[SpongeBobJudgeyPants]

@StoneColdBitch yes, there was a bit of that going on here. Some of the school grannies that collected children were the same age as me... Was the subject of a bit of unpleasantness with my daughter at school, which I assume came from the parents/grandparents rather than the children. All very unecessary. I tend not to mention my degree.

[FTMF30]

@Bargebill19

Yes twice - Wales and lasted six months before we moved. Birmingham and lasted one week before we moved very very early one morning, more like ran away as fast as possible.
I work in Leicestershire- I checked the date on the newspaper one day as I couldn’t believe how racist some coworkers views are.

@Bargebill19 What was so bad about Birmingham that you upped and left in 2 weeks?. Where you renting? Did you lose your deposit?