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God I’m so fucking depressed today. Come and join me for a whinge

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Alltneteabagshavegone · 26/07/2020 14:56

Ah I’m sick of this BS now. Sick of the kids pissing each other off. Sick of my dd3 fake cry when she wants to get her sister in trouble. Sick of the amount of fucking washing I have because both you get Dds get changed multiple times a day.

Sick of cleaning the same fucking area every day. Sick of visiting the same fucking parks, sick of having to pay a fortune to take the kids some where different. Sick of staying up really late just to claw back some precious alone time with out people talking at me.

I actually feel a smidge better after writing all that Grin

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Soozikinzii · 26/07/2020 15:00

Glad that made you feel better . Feel free to whinge away . We all get days like this . I hope you have someone who can give you a break at some point.

PineappleUpsideDownCake · 26/07/2020 15:02

Im having a wingey day
My mum isnt too well really and is sending me abusive texts.

I know she doesn't mean it really but it hits all the hurt so Ive hidden in bed.

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Alltneteabagshavegone · 26/07/2020 15:06

@PineappleUpsideDownCake

Im having a wingey day My mum isnt too well really and is sending me abusive texts.

I know she doesn't mean it really but it hits all the hurt so Ive hidden in bed.

Stay in bed. Turn phone off.
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Alltneteabagshavegone · 26/07/2020 15:08

@Soozikinzii

Glad that made you feel better . Feel free to whinge away . We all get days like this . I hope you have someone who can give you a break at some point.
Dh was supposed to be taking them out but I’ve changed plans as I don’t want to cook so going out for dinner. A break is not enough though I need them all to move out permanently Grin
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Isesgirl · 26/07/2020 15:16

Me too. Sick to death of everything. Sitting here trying not to cry with absolute frustration at the sameness of every day.

Poppet1974 · 26/07/2020 15:43

I’ve been ok all the way through this but this last week or so I’ve just gotten so fed up with it all😥

Soozikinzii · 26/07/2020 15:52

I think everyone feels the same it’s dragging on and on and the weather isn’t helping. At least we can all have a whinge on here and feel better together.

TwoZeroTwoZero · 26/07/2020 15:53

If they put clean clothes, or clothes that have only been worn for a few hours, in the wash then just fold them up & put them straight on the "dry and to put away" pile. I don't bother washing them.

My whinge is fucking Minecraft. It's pretty much all I hear, from both dc, from morning to evening. I wish it'd never been invented!

spiderlight · 26/07/2020 15:57

My 13-year-old is being a complete and utter PITA today, I had an awful night's sleep and I think my dog's getting poorly again. We've had weeks back and forth to the vet, finally got him sorted, finished his antibiotics on Monday, and yesterday he just started looking Not Quite Right. DS and DH both say he's fine but to me he looks like he did at the start of both bouts of his illness (which the vet says is pancreatitis). I love him so much - I can't bear to see him that unwell again, and he hates going into the vet's without us :(

TurkeySwizzler · 26/07/2020 16:09

I feel like crap , I'm hot , got a steaming headache ,I think I'm cking down with something.
I'm back to a job I dont like tomorrow, but it pays ok and I can pretty much choose my hours to an extent and I dont have to do much for the money
My mother keeps phoning but I dont like my family much , my mental health was on the floor and those cunts left me In a very dark place not helping me
I'm bored
I need to lose weight
My house is full of " stuff " and looks a fucking mess
I'm bored
Weather is shit
I need motivation
I dont like anything the others watch , they watch crap allll day everyday , its relentless bullshit its nonsense
If I even want to watch tv downstairs, it's like " the fuck you doing down here " . And it's often very noisy cos they dont like my crap either so will make lots of noise resulting in my going back upstairs
Credit card bill is too high , DH has taken complete control of the finances forever as I'm a ridiculous spender
Dont get on with my boss, she completely flouts the basic rules but pulls me up when I do minute thing
I'm not depressed at all just bored and dont feel well , I'm a terrible patient who whinges as soon as my nose runs
I need wine but cant be bothered to get some as I'm poorly and dont think the sainsbury's would serve my 12 year old Grin
Wine is the fixer of everything.. that and a binge of Special Victims Unit

BrandyandBabycham · 26/07/2020 16:27

turkeyswizzler if your family are speaking to you like that then you need to tell them you deserve respect? ( Presuming you don’t talk in the same way to them!) Your while post reads like you guys don’t all get on particularly well

BrandyandBabycham · 26/07/2020 16:27

Whole post not whilepost!

trappedsincesundaymorn · 26/07/2020 16:38

I'm so fed up.

I'm being made redundant but the process seems never ending...I know I'm going so just let me go. I can't start any job before the redundancy is finalised otherwise I lose my 15k redundancy package. I just want the whole thing over so I can move on.

Everyday is the same never ending boring shit. Friends and family have all gone back to work (some of them never stopped), so there is no-one to meet up with during the day.

I'm just done with the whole thing now.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 26/07/2020 17:06

This thread will be a mix of people who are really suffering with traumas and worries and those who are generally ok but feeling a bit low. Can I just remind everyone that we are ALL alllowed to have a whinge now and again? Please, no "at least you don't have x/ at least you have a job/just be glad you're x/y/z".....

I've been feeling grumpy for days as we should have been on a nice holiday abroad now getting everything done for us in an all-inclusive and now having to lift a finger. So every time I had to do the smallest bit of housework this past week I've felt pissed off and resentful that I'm had to do it. Also every day it's been grey, wet and cool I've just thought "shitty miserable English weather", more than I usually would notice. Dh cancelled his leave and I'm worried he's going to have a heart attack the stress he's under and hours he's working.

Even supposedly good news like pay rises from some people in the public sector could mean bad news for me. I'm also public sector, working in education, but I'm not a teacher so not getting the pay rise, plus at more risk of being made redundant as there won't be enough funding from current budgets to cover it.

There's other stuff too, which just adds to the worry about the future. Anyone who is feeling genuinely upbeat and positive at the moment - can you tell us what your secret is?

Fishfingersandwichplease · 26/07/2020 17:57

Yep- fucking fed up of packing up picnics every single day. If l never go on another picnic in my life, it will be too soon!! And sick of my dd following me about when she is bored asking what can she do?? Find something to do!! Same answer, every time!

Darker · 26/07/2020 17:58

Feeling whingey here.

I felt more panicky at the start, but now I feel exhausted all the time, lonely, and sad about what is happening. Worried about the future for my adult children and others. Feel like it would be nice to be planning something but I haven't the heart knowing it could all go wrong... I think the problem is that my usual fun things are not available, like theatre, and its a massive faff to meet up with anyone.

I'm luckier than many - a job which seems secure (for now) that I can do from home, a house and garden, things to do.

But I go to bed feeling like another day has gone by and 'so what'.

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Alltneteabagshavegone · 26/07/2020 18:02

Misery loves company >

Isesgirl it’s bloody ground hog day!

spiderlight I really hope your dog is ok

TurkeySwizzler try the corner shop, give him a note used to work for my mum when she sent me to the shop for fags Grin

I’ve been out for dinner. I think it’s when I don’t leave the house for a couple of days. This situation is so far from what my normal busy life would be like and it’s like being stuck in toffee.

Dh has just took the kids to the park. All piled in the car and drove off and left the front door open. So now I have to get up and go and close it. Knobs

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 26/07/2020 18:13

I think it is that at the start of the pandemic, we all just went into survival or war mode, and even though we were all just panicky and it was the unknown and happening so fast we all just used the adrenaline to do what we had to do, watched the briefings every day etc.

Now, it's just "yeah - now what? When is this ending? " along with proper downers of what feel like backward steps of quarantining coming back for Spanish holiday makers etc. Things like that just feel worse because it all just felt like things were starting to get better again.

I think we're all going to have to get used to the fact that local lockdowns are on the way and we can't let it get us down, but it's really hard.

My 103 year old relative rang me the other week and said she felt it was worse than the war! She said that at least we could all still mix and all had each other. She's probably forgetting how bad it really was, but it goes to show you how it is all affecting people.

YouFellAsleep · 26/07/2020 18:14

Me too, it's so bloody boring now. I have a million jobs which I could be doing, but just can't be bothered.

DD has gone to see her BF, DH is playing golf and DS hadn't left his room yet.

I'm so bored and fed up, I could cry!

troppibambini · 26/07/2020 18:23

Can I join you? god I'm pissed off and sad today. A plumber came to fix a leak from the bath that's coming through the ceiling in the hall today, the hall I've just spent the best part of two weeks decorating. He wouldn't do it as he said we were better to go through the house insurance as the tiles need smashing off the side of the bath and they may need to put a hole in the ceiling to find the leak.
Me and dp have really not been getting on recently and he told me he doesn't think we can come back from this...
Fabulous after 4 kids and 12 years.
He went to a friends birthday last night which I didn't as I could imagine after a drink we would probably argue and I didn't feel like playing the happy couple in front of all our friends. He got so drunk he came home and pissed on the floor in the our office instead of the downstairs loo.
So all in all a pretty shit day!
On the positive side me and the kids went to a big park with a farm and had a really good time.

freeingNora · 26/07/2020 18:27

Got some real shitty x husband crap going on having left me to it for the last 18 months he's now making demands telling me what to do

The bastard who ran into me and took liability the insurance company are being absolute twats asking me to prove every area of my life and losses well sorry I didn't realise I needed my life sanctioned in triplicate

And the children have been absolute arseholes today and I've had enough of this single parent lark it can fuck off to the far side of fuck off and keep going

freeingNora · 26/07/2020 18:28

Oh yeah and the holiday makers have turned the village into a complete car park you can't even walk on the pavements any more so we're all being held hostage

Peachypips78 · 26/07/2020 18:30

I feel the same. I think what's compounding it at the moment is that normally school is out, there is novelty in having the kids at home and we have some activities or holidays however small to look forward to.

This year, kids have been at home for months and are sick of each other and us, our holidays are cancelled and everything is only semi-open.

Obvs we are very lucky etc etc but it also sucks.

Peachypips78 · 26/07/2020 18:32

@TwoZeroTwoZero yes - also FUCKING minecraft. I say mmmm that's nice a lot Grin

Stayfreshcheesebags · 26/07/2020 18:39

Absolutely would like to whinge. Every single thing I've had to do , it's been with two small children in tow. I'm tired , pissed off and just hanging by a thread until September. I'm exhausted from working from home in my day job and trying to start a business against the backdrop of 'Mum, mum, mum, mum, mum, mum, mum, mum , mum, mum , mum , mum , mum ,mum......' for 13 hours every. Single. Day.

My house is a shit tip despite feeling like the I am constantly doing housework.

Anyway , solidarity to us all, whatever the situation. This too shall pass.