God I’m so fucking depressed today. Come and join me for a whinge

[Alltneteabagshavegone]

Ah I’m sick of this BS now. Sick of the kids pissing each other off. Sick of my dd3 fake cry when she wants to get her sister in trouble. Sick of the amount of fucking washing I have because both you get Dds get changed multiple times a day.

Sick of cleaning the same fucking area every day. Sick of visiting the same fucking parks, sick of having to pay a fortune to take the kids some where different. Sick of staying up really late just to claw back some precious alone time with out people talking at me.

I actually feel a smidge better after writing all that

I totally get it, parenting is like ground hog day and sometimes it just breaks you.

@Alltneteabagshavegone I could absolutely have written bits of this! I'm fed up of being broke, having to queue to get in everywhere, having to book things like NT in advance and struggling to get tickets like it's sodding Glasto, doing most of the childcare by myself, visiting the same parks and doing the same walks and yeh- it's only week 1 of the summer holidays

I'm bored and tired and terrified of being made redundant.

Totally hear you ladies....need to vent...3 kids, borderline useless DH and stressful job. Summer hols...bummer hols more like, feel like the last 4 months have been one long school summer holiday with bored, whiney children and a f* Minecraft obsession - though in all honesty, forking out for an extra iPad saved me at times when they would lock away for hours playing that damn game. I'm beyond tired and fed up and probably about to be sacked given the little amount of work I've been able to get to since March. DS has become horrible and rude - DD cling monster - DH one big row day to night- I am craving time alone...just ME.

I’ll join too. I’ve been on the verge of tears for the last couple of days, just as I was starting to feel a bit more positive about how things were going. I’m just so fed up of this whole situation.
My parents are in their 80s and in decent health but they’re still isolating so I haven’t had a cup of tea with them since March. I just drop their shopping off every week, stand half way down their drive and have a chat from a distance.
I think one thing that’s pushed me over the edge this weekend is the fact that it’s my birthday tomorrow and I’ve been thinking back to last year when me and my husband got a train into the city, went to a few bars and had a lovely meal in a fantastic restaurant. Neither of us feel safe eating out now so the best I can hope for is having a Domino’s delivered.

@troppibambini

Can I join you? god I'm pissed off and sad today. A plumber came to fix a leak from the bath that's coming through the ceiling in the hall today, the hall I've just spent the best part of two weeks decorating. He wouldn't do it as he said we were better to go through the house insurance as the tiles need smashing off the side of the bath and they may need to put a hole in the ceiling to find the leak. Me and dp have really not been getting on recently and he told me he doesn't think we can come back from this... Fabulous after 4 kids and 12 years. He went to a friends birthday last night which I didn't as I could imagine after a drink we would probably argue and I didn't feel like playing the happy couple in front of all our friends. He got so drunk he came home and pissed on the floor in the our office instead of the downstairs loo. So all in all a pretty shit day! On the positive side me and the kids went to a big park with a farm and had a really good time.

Can I pull up a chair? So so sick of all of this. My kids driving me crazy, baby teething, house is permanently messy(even though I feel like I'm constantly cleaning).
I'm in a real rut myself- overweight(actually put on weight since baby was born).
Feel like I'm invisible a lot of the time- cooking, cleaning, washing, breastfeeding, shopping, and laundry..... oh the endless laundry 😭😭😭

[quote Bluepolkadots42]@Alltneteabagshavegone I could absolutely have written bits of this! I'm fed up of being broke, having to queue to get in everywhere, having to book things like NT in advance and struggling to get tickets like it's sodding Glasto, doing most of the childcare by myself, visiting the same parks and doing the same walks and yeh- it's only week 1 of the summer holidays [/quote]
Oh god don’t. I sent a text to dh this morning saying ‘I can’t do six more weeks I’m ready to jump out of a window’

Hi OP

Thank you for starting this as I felt like chucking an axe at a wall today.

It’s not actually the children, it’s the getting turned away from an outside cafe for having a child (4, likes croissants) in tow

It’s how everything is still so fucking Covid-weird

It’s how my mind has now collapsed under trying to be stoic and see the bright side for everyone

It’s having a job-dodging husband who is almost too helpful round the house and domestically brilliant

It’s not being able to visit my friends

It’s feeling I made a terrible mistake moving away from SE England

It’s endless laundry

It’s endless dishwasher empties

It’s endless missing socks or the grass needing cut

It’s everything and all of it and I miss my children when they are at nursery but have to as I need to work.

AND I look like a fat tramp

my god do I feel you OP

Can I pull up a chair? So so sick of all of this. My kids driving me crazy, baby teething, house is permanently messy(even though I feel like I'm constantly cleaning)

I tidy up all day and after they have gone bed. Then I have HALF an hour to have my cup of tea in bed and when I go down stairs dh and the kids have fucked it up so much it takes me hours to get back on top of it.

Totally fucked off.
Couldn't go on our planned trip to Oz over Easter because of Fucking Covid, still have not got our money back for that.
Got Fucking Covid, had 3 weeks off work.
Worked pretty much throughout the Fucking Covid (NHS, Ambulance service) and got a few shitty claps.
Couldn't homeschool between shifts, too tired due to Fucking Covid related calls.

The light at the end of the tunnel? 2 weeks camping in France and Spain, due to leave in 10 days. Fucking Covid has put paid to that now.

Just wanted a fucking break.

@SoPanny

Hi OP

Thank you for starting this as I felt like chucking an axe at a wall today.

It’s not actually the children, it’s the getting turned away from an outside cafe for having a child (4, likes croissants) in tow

It’s how everything is still so fucking Covid-weird

It’s how my mind has now collapsed under trying to be stoic and see the bright side for everyone

It’s having a job-dodging husband who is almost too helpful round the house and domestically brilliant

It’s not being able to visit my friends

It’s feeling I made a terrible mistake moving away from SE England

It’s endless laundry

It’s endless dishwasher empties

It’s endless missing socks or the grass needing cut

It’s everything and all of it and I miss my children when they are at nursery but have to as I need to work.

AND I look like a fat tramp

my god do I feel you OP

And I look like a fat tramp

Do not fear - we are many ...

FrankiesKnuckle yep that’s shit

Yes fed up as all the special events we plan for have been cancelled this year.
Fed up of trying to be cheerful because we've "got a lot to be grateful for".
Fed up of people making excuses.
Fed up of housework.
Just generally fed up.

Thanks for providing a thread to vent OP

Joining! Week 1 of the summer holidays, my kids have been in holiday club for 2 days and we’ve had a phone call today to say that someone in their bubble has tested positive and now they need to isolate for 2 weeks! 😩 so that’s the next 2 weeks of childcare (mix of holiday club and grandparents) fucked then. 2 fucking days and this! So now we’re back to both trying to work full time with 2 kids to occupy 🤯 plus the weather is shits and they are confined to the house/garden. Just when we’d started to enjoy going to parks etc and meeting up with friends again 😩

I feel your pain. I haven’t even showered today 😊

I’m in. So much sameness. And whinging and clinging. I know it’s an expression of their stress and boredom and a tribute to how much they love me that they Want to climb all over me ALL THE FUCKING TIME and I still want to tell everyone to FUCK OFF and go out on my own. But I won’t, because I’m the FUCKING SUPER PARENT.
I just don’t feel like it today.

@Isesgirl

Me too. Sick to death of everything. Sitting here trying not to cry with absolute frustration at the sameness of every day.

This! I've been to The Range & Dunelm today in desperation - just to do something different! WTF!

@bettybyebye

Joining! Week 1 of the summer holidays, my kids have been in holiday club for 2 days and we’ve had a phone call today to say that someone in their bubble has tested positive and now they need to isolate for 2 weeks! 😩 so that’s the next 2 weeks of childcare (mix of holiday club and grandparents) fucked then. 2 fucking days and this! So now we’re back to both trying to work full time with 2 kids to occupy 🤯 plus the weather is shits and they are confined to the house/garden. Just when we’d started to enjoy going to parks etc and meeting up with friends again 😩

Oh shit betty 😭

Me too, everything is rubbish at the moment.

All the things I used to enjoy doing with the kids have closed. Play cafes, library singing, playgroups, soft play, ballet, trampolining. Lots of places now need prebooking, so you have to be able to get two small kids to somewhere within a half hour time slot. We’ve played with every toy in the house hundreds of times over again and again. Now my four year old is just bored all the time so gets grumpy. Our local kids play area shut to carry out work for six weeks just as lockdown started easing.

We’ll get through it, right?!

@SoPanny @kkLeeNex I am right there with you on the weight front.

kklleenex- if it makes you feel any better I lost weight during pregnancy (horrendous morning sickness til 28 weeks) and then piled it on and more in the 2 years since she was born. I think I must be the only person in the world considering a second pregnancy so I can lose a couple of chins.... Would be cheaper and less faff if I would just stop eating biscuits, but that would involve some form of willpowe which I clearly have 0 of and lockdown really hasn't helped either!

We’ll get through it. I’m not sure how long it’ll take for us to have a laugh about it, though.

@bettybyebye is there any chance that if your kids got a test and it comes back negative the holiday club would let them come back early rather than isolating for two weeks? Or do they have to do the whole two weeks just in case symptoms appear later? It really sucks.

Everyone on this thread deserves a medal. Parenting in normal circumstances is hard- but parenting through covid times is a billion times harder, shittier, stressful and more frustrating.. and for all.

We're going through a bit of a time at the moment, DP has had jaundice and his blood test results indicate cancer, he had an endoscope on Friday where a stent was placed which has really helped the jaundice but the consultant is still saying he has cancer and we have to expect the worst. Yesterday I had a really good day, I was convinced DP was a medical anomaly he didn't have cancer and he was going to live to a ripe old age but today I am convinced he does have it and we could be looking at our last Christmas together. If he does have cancer the 5 year survival rates are very poor and his cancer marker is already very high.