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Ads have had enough of malakas On July 4, they went crackers.

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TheGreatWave · 04/07/2020 23:51

Slight tweak to the suggestion, but here it is.

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Drivingdownthe101 · 05/07/2020 08:39

@chocolatesweets

Good morning , checking in. It's getting harder to wake up every morning. I get to see family and friends but I am busy looking after dtwins. We can't go anywhere and I feel like I'm failing them.

I'm a sahm so I'm lucky compared. I want to work but with childcare for two, there's no point. Was looking forward to a bit of respite with the childcare for 3-4 year olds but I don't have faith that will go ahead.

I feel like I'm in a huge hole. Friends and family are also going back to work soon so I'll feel even more alone with toddler groups and activities still closed. Feel like noone gives a hoot. Sad

My older two are back at school and I’m at home with my youngest (18 months). Friends and family at work or still homeschooling older kids so not really available. Toddler groups closed. I am honestly going insane. Toddler becoming more and more clingy to me as he doesn’t see anyone else. It’s really getting me down.
Wishfulthinking1977 · 05/07/2020 08:42

Checking in after accidently wandering into a dementory thread and wondering whether 8am on a Sunday morning is acceptable for cracking open the wine! 😂😂🤦‍♀️ Xx

chocolatesweets · 05/07/2020 08:42

Thanks tea and hugs for you all including myself. On a positive note, I've always been an activist. Maybe this decade I will be able to put it to good use!

Bollss · 05/07/2020 08:44

@Drivingdownthe101 I've noticed Ds (4) has developed a real fear of people. In shops he clings and hides behind us if people get close. He will just stop walking if someone is walking towards him. Yesterday, he hesitated before going into my mum and step dad's house. I had to tell him it was ok!

God knows why because I haven't told him to be fearful of other people. I've asked him to hold my hand in shops but that's nothing new. And they don't social distance in nursery.

I can only assume it's because he hasn't seen other people in months. Sad

BarkandCheese · 05/07/2020 08:48

Good morning, just checking in for the new thread.

Drivingdownthe101 · 05/07/2020 08:51

[quote TrustTheGeneGenie]@Drivingdownthe101 I've noticed Ds (4) has developed a real fear of people. In shops he clings and hides behind us if people get close. He will just stop walking if someone is walking towards him. Yesterday, he hesitated before going into my mum and step dad's house. I had to tell him it was ok!

God knows why because I haven't told him to be fearful of other people. I've asked him to hold my hand in shops but that's nothing new. And they don't social distance in nursery.

I can only assume it's because he hasn't seen other people in months. Sad[/quote]
It’s horrid isn’t it. 6 and 4 year olds are fine, but they’re back at school. 18 month old basically screams if we try and go in a shop, or someone’s house or garden. Proper distressed tears and clings on to me. He wasn’t like that at all before lockdown. He is now comfortable with my mum as she comes round twice a week but that’s it.
And he hasn’t seen another child his own sort of age since mid March. It really can’t be good for his development Sad.
He’s not in any childcare at the moment as I do my work in the evenings etc but if toddler groups don’t start to open soon I’m going to have to enrol him into nursery come September I think, just so he gets some socialisation.

mightbealittlebitmad · 05/07/2020 08:52

At what point will they just say enough is enough and stop this half life?! Local lockdowns are hardly conductive to running an economy, what happens when furlough ends and they say oops back into lockdown people. Will they once again fund whoever is it that gets locked down to stay at home?

It's infuriating.

DominaShantotto · 05/07/2020 08:56

To the people with crappy Tesco stories (I had an awful experience with a staff member too). Complain - let them know it’s deterring you from going back. I got a how was your visit questionnaire after and boy did I let rip

chocolatesweets · 05/07/2020 08:59

@Drivingdownthe101 I would if I had 1 toddler. Two toddlers are £100 a day for nursery. 😭

MinesaPinot · 05/07/2020 08:59

Checking in on the new thread - morning all.

Orangeblossom78 · 05/07/2020 09:03

I think instead of dementing at healthy people going out the demotes could use that energy supporting the vulnerable perhaps. Such as helping with shopping or a phone call.

Maybe should be a change in emphasis and give them something to do as well.

Drivingdownthe101 · 05/07/2020 09:03

[quote chocolatesweets]@Drivingdownthe101 I would if I had 1 toddler. Two toddlers are £100 a day for nursery. 😭[/quote]
I know, it’s crazy Sad. I feel for you.

Itis6oclocksomewhere · 05/07/2020 09:04

I've never posted on one of these threads before, but I just wanted to say thank you for keeping me sane (ish) over the past few months.
Thank you for the new one and love the title.

@Bellesavage I noticed that a lot of Pizza Expresses aren't opening until the 9th July. It's possible that your local one is the same? Apologies if you already knew this. We have booked to go next weekend as it one of a few restaurants that cater for our families many allergies!

ILoveTotoro · 05/07/2020 09:06

Hi everyone

I had a haircut yesterday it was AWESOME
And went to a 30th birthday gathering which was just brilliant. Driving back home I saw all the pubs and restaurants open and it made my heart happy

Of course on fb it's a different story with all the dementors frothing about the "twats" going to the pubs and how there's currently room in icu and all that shite

ILoveTotoro · 05/07/2020 09:06

Hi everyone

I had a haircut yesterday it was AWESOME
And went to a 30th birthday gathering which was just brilliant. Driving back home I saw all the pubs and restaurants open and it made my heart happy

Of course on fb it's a different story with all the dementors frothing about the "twats" going to the pubs and how there's currently room in icu and all that shite

rookiemere · 05/07/2020 09:08

I must admit I have mixed thoughts about the pub pictures and the crowds of people on the streets. I don't blame people for going out, but I do worry that the number infected will go up as it does seem that people are in very close proximity and there is lots of them.

Infected numbers going up, doesn't necessarily equate to more deaths if the virus has weakened (as some evidence is showing) and if vulnerable and elderly aren't exposed to it. But it does seem - and sorry please feel free to kick me out of AD club- reckless after all this keeping people in, to suddenly just let them all out again without any pretence of maintaining some distancing and keeping numbers relatively low.

Living in Scotland, I know she'll find a way to make us pay for Englands pleasure by a further delay to relaxations, or some bizarre rule introduction to"modify" the risk.

DominaShantotto · 05/07/2020 09:08

The three hours I spent in the hairdressers yesterday were the first time I’ve felt normal in a long time. Even with the visors around - we just kept giggling when they tried to drink coffee behind them!

trappedsincesundaymorn · 05/07/2020 09:08

Morning all.

Isn't it strange that things that are predominantly "men centred" such as sports and pubs (I know a lot of woman are interested in doing that too, but it is mainly men), are now up and running yet beauty salons and baby/toddler groups are not. Wonder why that could possibly be. Hmm.

Drivingdownthe101 · 05/07/2020 09:11

@rookiemere

I must admit I have mixed thoughts about the pub pictures and the crowds of people on the streets. I don't blame people for going out, but I do worry that the number infected will go up as it does seem that people are in very close proximity and there is lots of them.

Infected numbers going up, doesn't necessarily equate to more deaths if the virus has weakened (as some evidence is showing) and if vulnerable and elderly aren't exposed to it. But it does seem - and sorry please feel free to kick me out of AD club- reckless after all this keeping people in, to suddenly just let them all out again without any pretence of maintaining some distancing and keeping numbers relatively low.

Living in Scotland, I know she'll find a way to make us pay for Englands pleasure by a further delay to relaxations, or some bizarre rule introduction to"modify" the risk.

It makes me anxious too. But I tell myself that 1) there’s nothing I can do about it and 2) things do have to get back to normal at some point, and don’t look at the pictures!
KaronAVyrus · 05/07/2020 09:13

@trappedsincesundaymorn

Morning all.

Isn't it strange that things that are predominantly "men centred" such as sports and pubs (I know a lot of woman are interested in doing that too, but it is mainly men), are now up and running yet beauty salons and baby/toddler groups are not. Wonder why that could possibly be. Hmm.

I’ve noticed that too Pubs, sport prioritised but women and especially children just have to like it or lump it. We live in a world where golf courses were opened first but no one had a clue what was going on with education 🤦‍♀️
rookiemere · 05/07/2020 09:21

@Drivingdownthe101 you're right, I know.

I guess selfishly as long as I can now do the things I enjoy - meeting a friend or two, going to the zoo, driving more than 5 miles to see something a bit different- I'm now reasonably happy with my lot.

If I were younger though, particularly if I was single, I would be desperate to get out and start mingling again.

I just thought - and again shoot me for saying this - they'd have a reasonably high police presence out to keep it somewhat under control. So angry at Boris doing his - yes we'll open pubs and they can open from 6am because that's a super idea Confused- but if people do go, get drunk and act "recklessly " he implores them to be sensible. It's the Bloody Walrus and the Carpenter- he wants them there, of course he does as thats what his mate running Spoons wants - but will there be fall out - unfortunately I do think so.

I feel for the people tied into holidays abroad - if the numbers do go up, there's no way they'll keep air bridges open. Also implications for schools opening properly- numbers go up back to useless blended learning.

Sorry I'm sounding really dementorish Sad. I need my English holiday- only 6 days before we drive down, please god can things hang together for long enough for that to happen.

Drivingdownthe101 · 05/07/2020 09:22

@chocolatesweets I had two under two, and the 18 months before DD1 was eligible for free hours were the hardest year of my life. Toddler groups (love them or loathe them) were the only things that kept me sane. I really feel for you with twins and nowhere to go.

Orangeblossom78 · 05/07/2020 09:25

I have noticed some mums with toddlers meeting in groups in the park and botanical gardens, could that kind of thing be an option perhaps?

It looks quite sweet, picnics and tree climbing - also mums with babies, they sit a wee bit apart but the little ones were playing etc

I wonder if it is quite relaxed here compared to some places though - I have also seen quite a few dads with small children too.

KaronAVyrus · 05/07/2020 09:26

Tbh after 500000 people have at Bournemouth beach 10 days ago we should have expected to see a spike from that ..... except we haven’t.
I think we’ll be fine with the pubs opening
Realistically we can’t ask young people to put their social life on hold until we get a vaccine. They had to open at some point.

Bollss · 05/07/2020 09:29

Honestly I'm at the point where I'd be happy to just go back to actual normal and live with the consequences of that. Anyone who wants to distance / wear a mask / stay at home should do that. Anyone vulnerable should be able to stay at home and their should be some sort of benefit to enable them to do that.

Workplaces who can distance probably should just so they don't lose all their staff off sick for two weeks.

I'm not willing to sacrifice my life any more.