15yo DD heard DP and I having sex

[Sooooooembarrassed]

We are sooo embarrassed and I imagine and totally understand that DD is equally embarrassed. We were in the middle of DTD when DD's bedroom door opened. Seconds later there was 5 large bangs on the wall. We were mortified and of course stopped immediately.

There is no excuse, other than DP and I don't live together and emotions overcame us. Additionally DD is always with me; she doesn't see her father and is more of a loner than someone with a large group of friends.

We thought she was asleep so thought it was 'safe'. After going to the toilet which was initially her reason for waking she went to get a glass of what and I went down to apologise to her and asked if she wanted to talk about anything to which she said no and went back to bed.

She's found it hard me having a boyfriend as it has just been the two of us all her life.

I have decided that I'm going to limit DP coming to my house to every other week to ensure there's just DD and me time.

But still after tonight I feel awful that I may have really done some damage to her mentally.

I'm sure we all heard our parents having sex at some point in our childhood. I remember banging in the wall as my dad's headboard was hitting the wall between us. He shot out if bed to come and yell at me for doing so

Heartyrebel
I grew up in a house where my mum's bf lived 6 doors down so she used to go to his for sex; I did however walk in on my mum and one of her boyfriends at 9 years old

Really ?

Don’t get too worried it’s really not the end of the world she’s not a little kid she must realise that 2 adults in a committed relationship will have sex 😂 it’s not like you were doing a live sex show in the lounge and invited her to watch it was an accident. You’ve apologised so just be there for her to talk but she will get over it 😀

@Redshoeblueshoe

Really ?

Why on earth would anyone lie about that?

Its probably more embarrassing for her having the chat with you about it

Thanks TwizzleIsADancer. I think I'm just a) embarrassed as hell and b) my relationship is on my mind a lot at the moment, not because anything is bad between me and DP but because DD is reacting so badly to it (again I do understand that as it has been just me and her for the last 14 years).

Very similar to a post just a few weeks back. That one got pulled eventually.

She is 15, she knows what sex is and probably contemplating it herself.
I wouldn't stress over it

Talk to her like an adult

Why on earth would anyone lie about that?

Cos pervs.

Heartyrebel I did think about that, but also didn't want it to go unacknowledged or swept under the carpet that really we should have been more careful.

@Wizadorawobble

Why on earth would anyone lie about that?

Cos pervs.

Well I can assure you it was very real and I am absolutely not a perv. I namechanged but have been here for a long time.

I'm not saying you're a pervert OP but if you're along term member then you surely know all the trouble we have with late night wankers? School knickers perv, poo / fart perv, child hearing us have sex perv?..

At fifteen she should be old enough to accept you having a love life. Unless it’s your boyfriend specifically that she has an issue with I would just seek some counselling for her and carry on as you are.

To be honest I flit in and out but have been a member since cancel the cheque and Asian woman in the front garden. Im not usually on the Chat board and not usually here in the evenings either.

You should be respectful of her and keep the noise down, but honestly, unless you were raising the roof, it was very rude of her to bang on the wall. If it bothered her, she should've found a way to let you know tomorrow morning that you were overheard.

I would've been mortified to let my parents know I'd heard them. It was better to just pretend it had never happened! Definitely wouldn't have gone banging the wall.

Sex is only taboo if you make it that way. It's a lovely, normal, natural part of life and nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed of. I'd suggest trying to normalise sex and having lots of open discussions on how to have safe, concentual sex.

You are making a big deal out of nothing. You are an adult. Adults have sex. This is normal. You were trying to be discrete, but you got busted. It happens. I'm more concerned about her being rude enough to bang on the wall.

Why does she think it's ok to bang on the wall while you are having sex? Was she telling you off?!

Sounds like you have given her the impression that she is in charge. Stop pandering to her.

@Alittleshortforaspacepooper

Why does she think it's ok to bang on the wall while you are having sex? Was she telling you off?!

Sounds like you have given her the impression that she is in charge. Stop pandering to her.

She was probably trying to sleep and thought their game of monopoly was getting a bit loud.

So what
You’re both adults. No one was coerced or groomed were they?
She’s old enough to know about and occasionally hear sex

Bit bloody rude her banging and rod for your own back apologising

Don't be embarrassed, then she might think sex is something to be embarrassed about.

Say you are sorry she heard you but banging on the wall is out or order.

Bit bloody rude her banging and rod for your own back apologising

Yes. She shouldn't think it's OK to do that tbh.

Don’t make a big thing about it, she is probably more aware than you know. Your more likely to cause mental health issues if she thinks it abnormal, try and laugh it off.

I agree with PP. Banging on wall very rude, and you should address that. She presumably knows what it is. Maybe she also needs a gentle but very well informed talk on the realities of sex.