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I snapped at a stranger.

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DollyDaydream70 · 27/06/2020 11:04

I work for the nhs and currently I'm asked to show my ID every time I enter the hospital. Yesterday morning I was entering the building, hot, bothered and distracted (for many reasons, life is tough atm). I took a face covering from the box at the entrance and then heard the MASSIVE burly security guard bark what I thought was "HYGIENE!", I said "pardon?" and again he stated (what I thought was) "HYGIENE!!" (this guy had a strong accent and an aggressive manner). I was confused and flustered because there was a queue of workers growing behind me, then I noticed the sanitiser gel and assumed that he wanted me to gel my hands. I squirted my hands with gel and grumbled to the woman next to me that the gel doesn't do anything as it doesn't protect against viruses... I then walked away, slightly shaken at the guard's abrupt manner. As I was entering the lift to go up to my floor, the woman who had been stood behind me came walking past, she waited for me to step into the lift and shouted "HE WAS ASKING FOR YOUR ID!!!" I was so taken aback that this woman shouted at me, that I pressed the 'open door' button and stepped back out and shouted back to her "NO HE WASN'T, HE WAS SAYING HYGIENE!", she shouted something back to me which I didn't hear and that was that. As my day progressed I realised that the woman was right and that the guy was probably saying "ID" (as I had forgotten to show it) and I hadn't understood because of his accent. Now I can't stop thinking about it, I feel like I made a fool of myself. The security guard probably thought I ignored his request on purpose, everyone in the queue will have thought I was rude and purposely didn't compy with the request, and the shouty woman just thinks I'm an ignorant idiot (though why she didn't tell me what he was saying when she was stood next to me, and instead chose to shout at me as I entered the lift, I don't know? She could have solved the problem there and then.). I wish I could go and explain to everyone that I didn't understand what the guy was saying, it's eating me up. Now I'm planning to walk the long way round to work as I'm embarrassed to see any of these people again. I know I'm obsessing and everyone else involved will have forgotten about it, but I'm such a stress head and it's making me feel so bad :-(

OP posts:
user69 · 27/06/2020 13:23

Maybe she raised her voice because she thought you were a bit deaf?

calpolatdawn · 27/06/2020 13:31

i don't see why the security guard being MASSIVE has any relevance, what with a strong accent and aggressive manner, seems bit judgemental tbh.

campion · 27/06/2020 14:10

@calpolatdawn A massive security guard might seem a little more intimidating than a tiny one? Especially coupled with twice barking something incomprehensible at someone, so he was perceived as having an aggressive manner.

So it's a judgement, not judgemental.

OP described her experience which was fairly crap for a place of work.

DollyDaydream70 · 27/06/2020 14:14

@campion thank you for handling that comment for me, couldn't have replied better myself :-)

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Snowdown24 · 27/06/2020 14:15

Things like this Happen. DO NOT BE EMBARRASSED and go the long way around, you really don’t need to give yourself the extra hassle and shame, it’s perfectly fine and like I said these things do happen.

What’s very funny is the women from the lift Grin when you told her he said hygiene...she’s going to be thinking about that all day and I bet she laughed when she realised 😂🤦🏻‍♀️ then also felt bad for shouting at you when it was a Simple misunderstanding.

You will look back and laugh about this in a few years time

DollyDaydream70 · 27/06/2020 14:17

@campion It seems some folk are even offended by the use of adjectives nowadays!

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campion · 27/06/2020 14:20

No probs.I think you need someFlowers OP or even Wine and then just forget about it. People eh?Wink

DollyDaydream70 · 27/06/2020 14:23

@campion your last comment made my eyes fill up with tears, that's the kindest thing anyone's said for a while. I will buy wine and pretend it's a gift from you:-)

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campion · 27/06/2020 14:52
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puzzledpiece · 27/06/2020 20:49

Don't stress it. The security guard has forgotten it and so has everyone else. Only worriers like you and me stress over such silly things!

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