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I felt a bit panicky too when I saw the title of the school thread, but I think the OP is just trying to make people feel bad about the pubs re-opening. About half the teachers I know want schools to go back to normal in September, and the other half don't but are sure the government will push it through anyway. Even in Scotland they've said they're aiming for all students back full time now.

I would totally go for classrooms in the pub though, like one poster suggested

Chin up @NothingIsWrong

Orangeblossom78 is right. You need a break, even if it's just a short while.

You're doing amazingly and it WILL get better. Dementors are getting ever more dementory because they're frustrated that their dismal predictions haven't come true.

@Marmaladey some of the coffee shops were open, if you wanted coffee you’d certainly find it, however there’s not really any seating inside as they’ve removed all the benches etc so you’d have to drink it on the move. A few of the stalls are open, the pretzel one certainly is because I got a drink there on the way out. McDonald’s and a couple of other places in the food court are open and although you can’t sit inside you can sit in the outdoor bit. Five Guys was open for takeaway too and some new chicken place as well.

The loos are open, but they’ve shut the family rooms and put baby change stations in the main loos. I didn’t find the one way system made much difference, there are enough crossing points that you don’t have to walk past any shops on the other side. However it was very quiet, the system might be more of a pita on a busy day. There were queues at primark, Disney store and Superdrug, I waited about two minutes to get into primark. Disney store were insisting on masks and were giving them out free on the door if you didn’t have one. I didn’t see any other shops doing this though. H and M you can only get into from the ground floor, the first floor is the exit.

Overall it was fine, I’d rather it was just normal, but the changes weren’t enough to put me off going back.

Oh I delurked in the middle of worries, sorry. I also think primary schools will be open in September. I just don't think we can do this anymore.

Thank you @BarkandCheese, that doesn't sound too bad. If the new chicken place is upstairs where Ed's used to be it is amazing. I fell in love with it right before lockdown and then it was snatched from me.

Yes, it’s the chicken place where Ed’s was.

I’m 100% sure the primary schools will be fully reopened at normal hours by September. I think it’s possible secondary schools might be doing some staggered starts or maybe three to four day weeks, but if that happens I don’t think it’ll last beyond the first term.

Just to add, no one on here’s children would be better off or happier without their mother around. My mum was a bit of an emotional mess when I was young, but I loved her and there’s absolutely no way I’d have not wanted her with me.

Elderly lady in co-op today saying we should be locked down in Wales for another six months, she is terrified what will happen if we lift it. Felt sad for her.

So hot here today, they say 7c hotter tomorrow gawd that will be unbearable for me.

I do not hate dementors my visceral hatred is reserved for the unions who are destroying education.

Orangeblossom that's a tough one re dementor v invincibility. No wonder you are a fountain of knowledge on the stats...which remember DO NOT show that everyone gets it, or dies, even (much as dementors like to gleefully think) the vulnerable, and whatever dementors say, community transmission is very very low and you're very unlikely to catch something hardly anyone has. Maybe try and persuade him away from the pub though?! You could use the 'political' point that really pubs shouldn't be open until children are being properly educated, rather than using the health argument if he's not much up for that.

I think ds will go back, he's going back unto Y6, and I agree they'll work with bubbles of 30. But dd, who is going into Y9? God knows. And what's she expected to do? Stay in the house on her own every day at 13 because I have to go back to work at some point?

It's a joke. But I agree with whoever said they're not thinking about it any more. If I allow myself to worry about it all, my head will fall off my shoulders.

Dear oh dear there's a lot of dementing out there. And I really hate the faux concern, the sounding terribly reasonable while spouting absolute rubbish - 'oh I so want lockdown to end so it's terrible that it's ending now because we'll just be locked down again'. And you just know that whereas one of us might say something like that and mean it (I really am worried that I've got this totally wrong and pubs opening will cause either mass Covid or mass hysteria which will stop schools from opening this f'ing century), what they actually mean is 'I want lockdown to continue until no one ever dies except secretly I want lots of people to die because I am loving the drama'. Gggrrr

@AnxiousElephant77 I will have to leave a Y8 at home alone if she's not in school.

I’m crossing everything that DD will go back as she’s going to be Yr 6. I wrote to the school to ask whether, if not everyone can come back next term, they expect Yr 6 to be in as at present. Got a hopeless reply saying that the Government have said all children will be back in September. I uttered a number of unprintable things and managed a reasonably polite email pointing out that the Government said all primary age children would be back this term, and I was asking about their contingency planning. No reply, not even a message to say they don’t know yet. Absolutely fucking useless. Then they had the nerve to send an email out asking us to buy raffle tickets to support the school. I really had to sit on my hands to avoid replying to that one...

@NothingIsWrong It's bloody awful. And how are we expected to do our jobs efficiently and professionally, whilst worrying about kids at home?

My job is fast paced with a very high level of attention to detail required. Serious H&S implications if I fuck up. Boss is cool for now. But how long that will remain, I don't know.

I'm now quite drunk and more calm. But I can't spend the next god knows however long pissed just to stop me panicking

I'm a HR Consultant. May need to sack myself.

Anyhoo, I'm not drunk but I'm thinking about my frown lines so fuck it.

Ladies, I feel so sad for those of you wfh with kids.
I wish I could help.
Me and dh are practically sat in gods waiting room, twiddling our thumbs..as we really don’t have enough to do
This probably sounds bliss but I’s equally as frustrating as when My kids were little and it was a rainy Sunday after a shit Saturday and we didn’t have anything open in the 80s

I nearly drove myself mental many times. I just had to hang on in there and it bloody tough just like I know it is for you..and I wasnt trying to work from home.
It’s an awful unworkable situation, don’t even try to do any home schooling, it’s just not worth the hassle and angst.
Treat it as a holiday , well a staycation, don’t let school guilt you.
You’re aren’t Alone in this remember that.

All they need right now is love and kindness. It will all level out, trust me on that one
Just remind yourselves that you are doing an awesome job under extreme conditions.
When you can get out and enjoy the lovely weather we are having.
I often felt like I was a shit mum, but my kids live me, and that’s all that counts.

Just set your bar really low and give yourself a tick when you’ve got to bedtime and you’re through another day.

Nothing is wrong..I really worry about you...please tell yourself you’re doing an awesome job, and when you go to sleep, name three things you’ve been grateful for today..even if number 1 is just getting out of bed

We’ve got a lovely caring group here and we will look out for one another.

If anyone has an ankle biter to spare, toss one my way.
I promise not to put it on the barbie😂
I had my last grand baby when I was 58 ten years ago , no one needs us now
We might as well be put out to pasture.
Sad but true
Empty nest syndrome twice over

Just got to roll with it..hey ho

How old is a year 8?

I was really “good” about shopping for the first 6 weeks or so. Gave up my weekly Ocado slot. Trekked twice a week to the big Sainsbury’s where I’d queue for 45 minutes to get in then slogged home with a huge back pack and a granny-style wheeled shopper (no car, 4 people to feed). No one else in the family was allowed to shop to minimise our risk. Then standards started to slip. DH bought fancy sourdough and lattes from a local bakery on the way home from his walk. I caved and signed into the Ocado website and realised they seemed to have free slots, so I might as well book one. Then I started to relax about popping into local shops for bits and bobs. I took DS to the newsagents for a bag of sweets.... and by today I’m so casual that this morning I took both children into a Sainsbury’s Local to buy milk (no queue, smiley staff), and then this evening DS and I ran to the corner shop for grated mozzarella and nothing else!

There was some truly awful dementoring about shopping on here in the early weeks of lockdown. Such a shocking lack of empathy and understanding for other people’s circumstances. It made me wonder why I bother looking at MN at all.

I am probably at home until September. I am fortunate in as much as dh is the sahp, I am unfortunate in as much as I am still doing quite an uneven amount of stuff, for example I have the 8yr old next to me doing school work, which obviously has an impact on what I can do during that time. I am also trying to make phone calls whilst ds is having meltdowns - oh joy unconfined.

You turn 13 in year 8.

@NothingIsWrong is parental leave an option to tide you over until September? Do you have a partner? Could you do split shifts where one gets up really early to work and the other works later in the evening? Or could you temporarily go part time?

We are winning. Slowly, inch by inch.
There is more fightback on dementory posts.
Our children will get back to school.
Something very recognisable as our old normal will return. There will be lasting tweaks, some better, some... not.
Until then, we are here for each other and maybe even beyond.

@BogRollBOGOF 🙌🏻

@PinkFondantFancy I can take parental leave, I work for a local authority so the are very good about that kind of thing. But we are so short staffed and I'm incredibly niche. Also the summer is our crazy crazy time.

I need to consider my own health ahead of the needs of the service though really.