Does anyone remember my thread about grandparents who wouldn’t tell me or DD where her dad is?

[MadeInFrance]

I can’t find the thread or the user name I was using at that time.

I just wanted to update anyone who doesn’t remember and who gave me advice. I actually took the advice of a few people and hired an online people tracing company. They found him within 48hrs.

I haven’t told the GP’s I know where he is or DD but I am planning on telling her. I’ve also told the CMS his new address.

I wanted to say thanks to everyone who replied

Well done! I hope you finally get some money from that bastard.

I do remember you and am glad you have found him. Well done!

A month or two ago? Think I remember! Well done!

I remember you! Really pleased to see your update!

I remember as well - glad you've found him Op. hope you get the money you deserve to look after your DD.

I do remember you. I'm glad you found him and I'm glad you haven't tipped off his parents.

Are you still letting them see your child?
They really don't deserve, too, but i understand your mixed feelings.

Well done-on behalf of yourself AND your daughter

I remember it. What are you going to do with the info?

So glad you found him, I really hope you get some money for your daughter out of him. There’s no way I would allow grandparents treat my child like that. Deliberately allowing money needed for her needs to be withheld is unforgivable. When she’s older I wonder what they are thinking to say to her to explain that they knew where he was but wouldn’t tell her.

I do remember, and j remember feeling so angry on your behalf!! Really pleased you took action and 🤞 you start getting some money for your daughter. Are her GP still seeing her? You're a much better person than me as I wouldn't have purely due to the fact that her GP didn't have her best interests at heart

Good for you OP!

Yes I do remember and was fuming for you! Well done for stalking him down, the weasel.

She has seen them this weekend. I left her there for a few hours in the garden with them. She was asking to see them and they messaged me and offered.

She had a lovely time. I didn’t even get out of the car, just beeped the horn when I arrived and left and they came out.

I’ve told the CMS but haven’t had a reply. They need chasing constantly to actually do anything. I’ve thought about writing him a letter but I’m not sure there is much point. He’ll either run again or just ignore it (plus he will know CMS knows and will start hiding money etc).

He’s moved a long way away from us which surprised me. Actually I don’t mind saying he is in Newquay. I google mapped the road and property listing and it’s a horrible little one bed flat so I kind of feel a bit of karma has come his way! He was always so snobby about his house/money etc. Quite the fall off his pedestal

I don’t know how to tell DD. I’ll wait for her to bring it up naturally and say that I know where daddy is but it’s a long way away and she isn’t going to be able to visit.

I’m worried she doesn’t really understand “distance” at her age and will want to go and see him. She told me a few days ago she had seen him in another car but she tends to say that about any man who looks vaguely like him.

I remember your previous thread. I'm happy you found him and I hope he pays now. You both don't deserve to be treated this way.

I remember this thread also I’m so glad you’ve found him OP hopefully the CMS can get him to pay. Good luck.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3914420-Would-you-carry-on-letting-grandparents-see-child-after-this

I think this is it OP. I remember the thread.
Glad you found him and best of luck with CMS.

Oh this is good news, hopefully everything with cms will go as smoothly as possible.

I remember your thread - good on you! You sounds like a good person and great mum

I'm glad you got the information you needed.
Were the tracing company expensive ?

Well done OP, very impressed you got onto this. I am curious about this company as well - did you find them through Google? Did you have to prove you had a good reason to trace him or do they offer this to anyone, anywhere?

I remember your thread and I'm glad you tracked him down.

Just a question- what will your dd get from knowing that you know where he is?

It sounds like it could just cause upset and confusion.

Let CMS deal with him.

Ooh hes come to my town. It is never Neverland here and many people come to run away and not grow up.

Hope CMS get him to face up to his financial responsibilities

I remember the thread. Well done OP.
Please don’t ever tell them how you found out where he was!

Well done!! Not sure telling dd will achieve anything positive for her tbh... You can't force him to be a df...
Cms can though! Be glad at that.
And await the blow out when dgps find out you know...