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We got a bit cut off there didn't we? Thread 15 now.

spudlet it's so easily done. I am constantly forgetting things that I'd remember under usual circumstances. My WiFi plays up all the time and we missed a virtual birthday party for DD the other week. It won't affect your DS and you wouldn't even have to think about these stupid Zoom things (I loathe them!) if it weren't for this crazy situation

@Teateaandmoretea

You're more important to your DC than a Zoom call

^^ain’t that the truth. Everyone hates zoom now anyway, it will be synonymous with covid forever more

That’s true - can’t help but wonder how well zoom will do after all this is sorted!

I already emailed and said sorry for forgetting so no face saving WiFi excuse possible... hopefully we’ll be able to speak on the phone at some point. I sent a load of SALT and neurodevelopmental service reports over to the SENCO so I really could do with talking about those with his teacher. I just hate making mistakes, I’ve never found it easy to forgive myself for them at the best of times and this is not the best of times at all. DH reckons I need therapy, but what are the chances of that... low, I’d say.

Hey ho. What a day.

@pearlypidge That's shocking and possible one of the worse thing I've heard a school do.

@spudlet, I think zoom calls at that age are pretty useless anyway so don't think your ds has missed out.

@dowser love the hair.

I'm a mumsnet newbie compared to most here, reckon it's been around 3 and a bit years. Was lurking for a while before that but had some heavy going life stuff going on which prompted me to sign up. Was on netmums after ds was born for a bit but stopped after found myself fuming about a conversation whilst on a day out. Part of the reason I try to avoid bun fights on here.

DH reckons I need therapy, but what are the chances of that... low, I’d say.

I’m glad to see you’ve got your sense of humour back.

If it makes you feel better I realised on Friday morning that I was meant to be in an external work meeting that started 15 minutes ago and I was still in bed. I managed to carry it off, left the camera off and muttered something about another over running meeting 😂😂

No one likes making mistakes but we’re all human

I’m about 12 years in. I’ve had about 3 minutes see names and posted loads of really outing stuff over the years 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Spudlet please don't worry! Those group meetings are pants anyway. I'd contact the school and see if you can just speak to the teacher one to one on the phone.

I don't know about anyone else but I'm getting proper mixed up with what day it is.

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We have done zoom baking, zoom quizzing, zoom aikedo and zoom meetings. Hate the effing, jeffing lot of them. You absolutely must forgive yourself spudlet you are a hero for getting him out of it. My DS point blank refuses to do the baking session we do with family. It always ends with a load of adults making small talk surveying to God awful mess the kids have created. The young and wise have well and truly left the meeting!

spudlet only 50% turned up to the school meeting last week - and that’s being generous and saying each family has at least 2 children at the school. These are unprecedented, sad and monstrous times whereby we fuck up even the most basic of stuff. Days blend into nothingness.

mascott excellent choice!

@Teateaandmoretea Fortunately that rarely stays away for too long... what a prat though. Grrrrr.

Never mind, hopefully the teacher won’t have put me too firmly into the idiot box and I can make a comeback...!

Yeah, I was pretty shocked when I heard - how could they do that to the children. So cruel.

That school has shown just how much they care about the children in the school. Hopefully they'll get so much grief from the parents that they'll have to backtrack...

Thank you for the hair love.
Spudlet..please remember this is only a blip in the huge scheme of things..nothing and no one are ever worth hurting yourself over..put on your ‘I don’t give a fuck overcoat ‘ and let everything just bounce off it.youre here and a your a great mum..that’s all that counts in the scheme of things.

Be like me, don’t give a flying fuck..best way to be 😁

Our zoom meeting is boring.
Hearing about Earth energy lines is definitely not as interesting as being out in the field, finding them with your pendulum or L rods.
When you’re a health Dowser though, you do tend to focus on one thing.
Can’t find lost items for love or money....and neither can my medical health Dowser .such is life.

@pearlypidge, I think the only kind of grief that counts to a school is a threat to withhold fees. So if you're in the state system and your school is useless, you're stuffed.

Can you tell I'm quite upset about this? DD's school seemed pretty good, with occasional blips, up to now.

I missed a meeting last week as checked the meeting location 10 mins before and realised it was an actual meeting not a zoom one. I was at home not in work. The subject should have given it away

I have to say the whole key workers DC at school thing is getting a bit Gileadish.

If your DPs do a state sanctioned , worthy job you can mix with your peers and maybe get a bit of teaching if you're very lucky. The rest of you with your paltry fripperies of earning an existence- particularly you single DMs - well you brought it on yourself by not having jobs important to the cause.

I actually got the letter to say I'm a key worker, but like an idiot as we're both wfh didn't send him in. If I'd known that in addition to everything else, I'd be blamed for him turning into a computer game addicted,flabby grumpy version of himself who hasn't learnt very much at all in the past 3 month, I'd have made a different decision at that point.

Although I have been taking advantage of being a keyworker and had the kids in school two days a week, I think it's time to end it now. So many people are back at work it is becoming increasingly unfair.

Nothingiswrong I certainly don't blame keyworkers for sending in their DCs and it was right to make the distinction at the beginning of all this when we thought it was only going to go on for a few weeks.

Yes I agree. But 3 months in, and with so many more people back in work, we need to be doing better for ALL childre

@Dowser the hair is good! DH did well, definitely a keeper. Fascinated by the dowsing, Mum taught me pendulum when I was little which was hours of amusement. Had no idea health dowsing was a thing. I'm currently struggling with my skepticism re homeopathy as I used to believe in it (and flower remedies) until I got all sciencey, a neighbour recommended it for DS1's depression and I just can't bring myself to think it's real. Though I'm still fine with tarot and reiiki being real! Need to give my head a wobble...

@Spudlet if it was a group zoom it would have been shit and you'd get no chance to discuss your specific concerns anyway, so you won't have missed anything (dementor parents maybe?)

My DCs declined my offer to send them in (virtuous hero keyworker that I am) months ago as they would have been the only children in their year and therefore worse off than at home! DH WFH so we didn't need to send them, thankfully. I'm hoping DD may go back to primary for a few weeks if some of her friends are in, but she's not fussed. Luckily none are in crucial years so it's not the end of the world, especially as they have friends within walking distance. But I really miss my midweek day off with the house to ourselves

Just had a fucking awful Zoom governors meeting. Made my cry. Cracked open the wine now.

@Drivingdownthe101 hugs, that sounds grim. Are they all dementors?

At least you get governors meetings. My grand kids school, they sent out letters e mails saying who could go back when. One of the governors lives next door, when I vented to her about the one hour a week GS was getting and years 2-5 getting nothing, she had no idea what I was on about, the governors have been told nothing. She did know however that out of a normal number of kids being 300 plus only nine children had been in for the last three months.

Not sure what to call them really. Head has worked tirelessly on plans to get every single child back into school before summer for at least a week. 2 particularly tenacious governors have opposed it as one aspect of the plans slightly contravenes the government guidance. Head is of the opinion that as she has stuck to the guidance religiously so far (children in priority years back full time, no rotas etc) then this can be overlooked. It’s not a safety contravention and won’t negatively impact anyone. Benefits to the children of having some time back at school before the summer outweighs the slight contravention. I agree, as do luckily the rest of the governors but they just didn’t let up.