What advice would you give your 20 year old self?

[turquoiseglanville]

Title says it all really - I'm 20 and would love to know what you'd advise yourself and/or me. Could be anything!

Be brave.

Be brave and move on - he's not right for you.

Be more careful with your inheritance. Look into
Higher education so you have a valuable skill set.
Oh and you aren’t fat- flaunt it!

You are not as, fat as you think you are. Leave him now. Try harder at university. You'll be OK!

Take more risks, don't be scared of failing, work harder and ditch the crap boyfriend.

Not to waste my life on stupid men who are not good enough for me and to have much higher standards when looking for a partner.

Look after both your physical and mental health.
Yes, you feel invincible but you are not.
Partying and drinking too much will lead you to the land of ruin.

Marry someone in the profession you’re in now. Put a deposit on a house. Make sure you have kids late 20s close to 30s. Travel the world more

Stop drinking so much.

LTB - should have never married him. 40 years later I finally left.

Not him.
Nor him.
Definitely not him either.

I wish I'd got the don't-give-a-shit levels that I have now (38) when I was 20. I'd have been a destroyer of men and worlds.

Stop comparing yourself to others - measure your success in how well you’re doing, not how well other people are doing. You’re going to end up doing far better than the people you’re comparing yourself to now, it’s just going to take a bit longer!

Also, you are absolutely stunning. People aren’t staring at you because there’s something wrong with your face, they’re staring because you’re attractive! (It pains me how self conscious I was in my late teens/early 20s, I honestly used to think people were looking at me because there was something wrong with me. It’s only when I look back at pictures from my youth as a somewhat haggard 40 year old that I realise how beautiful I was)

Stop worrying about what everyone else thinks of you and start living for yourself.

Save more money.

Have more adventures.

Save from a young age.

Never relinquish financial clarity, no matter who is the higher earner.

Never stop learning.

Choose one career and stick with it....

Don't let him move in.
Don't put his name on your mortgage.
Don't marry him!

Get out and make friends at uni. Enjoy your time with all the opportunities you have on offer. Stop acting like a 1950s housewife for a boyfriend who treats you terribly and a relationship you get nothing out of. Ditch him much more quickly than you end up doing.

Don't marry him as he will have midlife crisis after 24 years and leave.

Get a job somewhere with a great pension scheme.

Do. Not. Marry. Him

Don't ever get married
You are beautiful and in your prime
Consider being a lesbian

Leave him.
Go to uni.
Save.
Exercise more.
Wear the clothes you like, they do look good on you.
Hug mum while you still can.

Think carefully about your choice of degree course. It's not too late to change
Travel more
Wear whatever you like, you're young and slim.

I'm now near 40 & put on my big girl pants just before lockdown & started divorce proceedings

My 60 year old self will be proud of 40 year self

Don't have that acid perm.

Save.
Wear daily sunscreen, your skin is beautiful.

Enjoy your figure, it's lovely - marvel at your shapely upper arms and upper thighs and just the one stomach and chin.
Stop worrying about what others are thinking, it is most definitely not about you
Spend more time with your nan and listen to her and respect her, she was incredibly brave, be proud.

Be nicer to your sisters, they become amazing women.