If someone said your home was like a hotel would you be offended?

[MrsGrindah]

Someone who stayed with me recently ( pre lockdown) said it about my home when I was talking to them this week. I don’t think it was meant kindly either. I’m not unduly upset but I’m left wondering what that actually means, and what’s wrong with that?

I think she probably meant it’s a bit formal..I don’t do Knick knacks and cushions etc. But would you be miffed if someone described your house like that?

I’d be pleased ..

We don’t have bits and bobs and I like it like that , it’s been a bit untidy since lockdown but generally It is very Clean lines .

I’d be offended, it means soulless.

I’d be pleased, we don’t have clutter and I hope it looks as stylish as a fancy hotel.
What was the context of her saying it?

I’d think it meant that they felt very catered for. Like when you stay in a hotel and don’t have to worry about anything.

ThroughThickAndThin01, you sound like you have never stayed in great hotel.
I would be delighted. It means it's immaculate and welcoming.

I would assume it was a passive aggressive judgement on how tidy/sterile/bare your home is. I've worked in homes which I have felt were hotel like - nothing out of place, knick knacks with no personality, not the sort of home I would feel comfortable or relaxed in. However, I realise this is very subjective and I wouldn't be so rude as to say anything to the home owner.

It's really hard to know because you don't know what her train of thought is. She might think a home being like a hotel is something to admire and envy, or she might not. Either way, I wouldn't dwell too much on it.

Yes I would be miffed because to me it means not very homely, bland and without personality.
As a generalisation hotels have a corporate feel to them and where I come from to describe a room or house like a hotel would.definitely be a criticism rather than a compliment.

I'd be offended- hotels aren't homes! Homes are supposed to feel homey.

Before my last DC moved out I described my home as an “Hotel” simply because DD treated it as such - eating whenever and whatever she wanted and coming in at obscure times.

I’m glad she has moved out now tbh. My “hotel” has now become “home” again 😊

Well I suppose it depends whether she likes hotels or not as to whether she meant it as an insult or a compliment!

It obviously depends on whether the person saying it thinks a hotel is a good or a bad thing, you know them and think it's not meant as a compliment you're probably correct.

Compliment - I bloody love hotels

It could mean not homely or it could be spotless and smart and has a wow factor. I wouldn,t be offended.

Back in the day, having what could be described as a "hotel bathroom" was a compliment. Nowadays i think it does now generally reflect a sense of soul-lessness, but your friend may not have been thinking this way. You'll know best.

I’d be too astonished to feel offended I think!

It is not a compliment. It means lacking in personality and homogenised.

I can only imagine that you didn't need to fold end of the toilet paper into a nice point before your friend came to visit. (Either that, or the chocs on the pillow).

Id be pleased. My friend has a fab bathroom and every time im at hers, i go to the bathroom just to look at it. Very hotel like.

Depends on which hotel they had in mind. If a Travelodge then not a compliment but if some quirky boutique hotel eclectically furnished then I would consider that a compliment!

I love staying in hotels and I've stayed in some lovely ones.

I say staying at my mum's is like a hotel - crisp, clean bedding; no clutter in my room; my own bathroom which is spotless; all the food I like and zero responsibilities. What's not to like?!

I would take this any day and see it as a compliment. I would take it to mean your home is well looked after, well laid out, smart and stylish welcoming and not grubby, tatty, well lived in etc.

Or perhaps if she meant it in a back handed passive aggressive way referring to lots of comings and goings too much for her liking because she was jealous you and your household were so comfortable with this way of living. Sometimes parents say to teens your ‘using this place like a hotel’.

I would take that as a compliment

Homes are supposed to feel homey.

That's quite subjective, though, isn't it? A home filled with pointless tat and clutter makes me very uncomfortable, as though I'm in a charity shop. What is homey to one may not be homey to another.

My MIL says this...but I leave her a wee chocolate on the pillow and heat the bed with a water bottle before she goes to bed 😂