If someone said your home was like a hotel would you be offended?

[MrsGrindah]

Someone who stayed with me recently ( pre lockdown) said it about my home when I was talking to them this week. I don’t think it was meant kindly either. I’m not unduly upset but I’m left wondering what that actually means, and what’s wrong with that?

I think she probably meant it’s a bit formal..I don’t do Knick knacks and cushions etc. But would you be miffed if someone described your house like that?

If your home is very beige/neutral, too clean, boring decor, and lacks personality; it's like a hotel!

Hotels have the best bed sheets, unfussy uncluttered. I really feel uncomfortable staying at peoples houses full of their photos and sentimental knickknacks. All white, minimal stuff is great.

At the moment I would be thrilled if someone said that, as they would be more likely to describe my house as a poorly managed zoo.

I would take it as a compliment, she stayed as your guest. Who doesn’t like a comfortable hotel.

To be honest op, reading your update, if your home is white walls with no personal effects or softness Ie cushions etc, then actually maybe she was not being pa,or envious, maybe that’s just what she thought.

Clearly she should have kept her mouth shut, and I’m sure it’s lovely, but maybe for her the lack of personal effects or softness did remind her of a hotel. Everyone has different tastes. So Maybe it was just a statement of fact for her, neither intended to be a compliment or a dig.

I think I’d deliberately choose to take it as a compliment. If it was meant as one then great. If not, it’ll confuse and irritate her, so a win as far as I’m concerned.

I wish my home was like a hotel. It would mean someone was coming in everyday to clean up.

I think provided she settled the bill promptly and didn't take a handful of mints from the counter on the way out it I wouldn't be offended at all.

You could reply that you hope she will leave positive feedback on Trip Advisor.

I was going to say I'd take it as a compliment, hotels are designed to be really nice. When we moved into our house I felt like I was in a hotel every time I used the bathroom as it was the nicest and newest one I'd had.

The "I was surprised" changes it though. It implies that the house doesn't seem to fit her idea of you, so either she expected you to live quite messily and the house is nice, or she thinks the house is soulless.

Mind you, people do say all sorts of shit without fully thinking it through. She may have just meant she was surprised as she finds it hard to keep things that tidy, or she may have meant to say amazed or impressed.

I am sure your house is really nice and it sounds like you love it.

Yeah, reading your update, she wasn't being very nice. Ignore her. It really doesn't matter what she thinks, it's your home not hers. She doesn't need to stay again.

I'm not much for knick knacks and my colour scheme is mostly white/very pale green so not very exciting. I do love a cushion though and always fresh flowers. That's home to me, nobody else has to like it.

DD1 would take it as a compliment. I would be suspicious.

What sort of hotels does she normally stay in?

It is a snidey remark and shes really rude. I hate people who comment on other peoples homes. I couldn't live in the grey and silver fashion that's in at the moment , I like industrial , shabby chic so have more clutter and wouldn't stand for any horrible comments on my house (I work hard to style it frankly) anymore than I would ever comment on someone elses. Each to their own as long as you feel comfortable sod her.

(Plus whilst I like a bit of eccentricity in my home , love is not dependent on your furnishings ...you can have as much love in bare minimalism as you can in a shabby chic cottage....don't let that get to you OP)

Well if she mentions staying again at least you can tell her you're fully booked!

I wouldn't waste another moments thought on it, or her

You could post some photos and we could tell you what we think.

Love a good nosey at real houses!! 😊

That's the ultimate compliment especially with the Decor hotels have these days